“We’re praying for you” isn’t a harmless afterthought. It’s not a pleasant wish for my general well-being, continued physical health or financial security. No, my mother’s “we’re praying for you” is an italicized baseball bat, a silent plea for God to change her oldest son from something abhorrent and abominable back to the fresh-faced young man who dated the captain of the Bible college cheerleading squad, before it was discovered he was also sleeping with the captain of the boy’s soccer team.
Oh-hhhh, I HATE when people say that to me. Makes me feel weak, wrong, fucked up, incapable of handling my own issues. It does NOT sit well with me. Fucking Baptist BULLSHIT.
what r1 and r2 said
And the people who usually say that are so, so FULL of themselves. Like they have it all figured out and nailed down, so they are in a position, spiritually, to intervene on your behalf. Booger-eating baboons.
J'adore the "booger-eating baboon" troll!
.... before someone gets defensive, this is NOT about those times a person says they will pray for someone who is ill, or who is in genuine need of some kind...
those prayers, while naive and childlike, perhaps. come from a place of goodness.
Sissy: Why dont you pray for them people in China? They need it a hell of a lot more than I do.
Juanita: We were praying for them, but it didn't seem to do much good. Now we pray for rain.
The prayer thing really repulses me. I know it's usually a well-intended line, yet it is the most insincere line since, 'have a nice day'.
and its cousin, "Have a blessed day."
Where "blessed" has two syllables.
Again, as irritating as the prayer thing is generally, the editorial in question is talking about when a straight homophobe says it to a gay person, meaning that they hope GOD will TURN them straight.
Sacrilege! 1) they're not really praying for you (Lying); 2) the inference that they are "blested", thus a little closer to God than you are (Pride) and can curry you some favors (False Prophet).
yes he did/
A guy I knew in high school posted some anti-marriage equality stuff on his Facebook page, and I did make some comments (very civil). He's hardline Catholic (and a bit twee, as I remember him from high school). He kept saying, "I will pray for you." I finally asked him, twice, what he would like to happen as a result of his prayers. I asked him if he would like for me to break my husband's heart and divorce him, go into a long, mentally painful period of therapy and heterosexual conversion, and lose friends who would think I was being dishonest and mean. He wouldn't answer. They never can. Because if they say what they really mean by "I will pray for you", they will sound really, really mean.
This phrase is irritating, repulsive and useless no matter what context in which it is issued.
To which I usually reply - "Please don't."
Nah, r17 -- "Booger-Eating Baboon" is damnfunny.
I don't care who you are.
back to subject, please./
When someone asks, "What will you be doing this [religious holiday]?" I'll pleasantly say, "I'm not a Christian, but I'll appreciate the day off!". Sometimes they'll follow-up with a "You're not a Christian?" or "What are you then?" and I'll just say I wasn't raised in a religion or with a religious background.
People can't imagine that someone doesn't hold conversations with dieties all day long.
It does tend to blow their mind, r21. I attended a Catholic college as an atheist, and when it came time to take the required religious studies courses, some of these doe-eyed Catholic kids were agog that there was no religion in my life. They really felt that there was something "missing". At least one was visibly sad for me.
they are so brainwashed
What circles do you people run in, where you're seemingly assaulted by aggressive Christians wanting to pray for you?
I live in the Bible Belt, and have health, ill elder parental, and "morality" issues. I hear the I'll be praying for you jazz maybe once every 2-3 months. I just say Thank you! and carry on shouldering my burdens. To me it's like someone saying you look good when you know you look like the semi-invalid you are.
I laugh and say as I walk away, "Thanks. I need all the help I can get."
These people have been getting smart-ass answers from me ever since the day one of them yelled at my back, "Christ died for your sins." My response to that one was, "Better him than me."
When they say they're praying for you, look earnest and sincere and seriously tell them you're praying for them too, especially if you're not religious. (to indicate something is wrong with them) See if they get it. If they ask, you can say all sorts of wonderful things like praying god will open their heart, teach them to love their neighbor, teach them the rule of judge not lest ye be judged, any number of lovely fuck you things that validate us and not their narrowness. It's fun to fight their bullshit using their own sacred text.
But to my mother, I insist she does not pray for me, because it interferes with my free will choice to abstain from that god stuff, and if she prays for me, she's breaking God's rules about free will.
"I will pray for you."
"Thanks. I will think for you."
I'm not praying for you, OP. But I am hoping you have a blessed day.
And God forgive you.
And you too!
When I would share something unpleasant or worse in the my life with my mother, she would say, "All for the love of Jesus."
It was a way to cut off discussion, and negate the challenges presented by things.
Forgive me for what, exactly, r30?
Praying for me will only make you feel better, but I guess if that is the extent of what you can do, then go for it. I'll look for solutions elsewhere.
Fuck people and their prayers. Fuck them all. There's no such thing.
"If you want to help, pray that I win the lottery."
Well, that sentence would be a relatively new development in Catholicism, where traditionally, the people who pray for you are attractive long dead,and no longer have much humanity in them:the widely known,multicultural and legendary Saints, who also give you have a pick of individuals who lived over a 2050 year period.
I guess that is a bit more of a glamorous,less Protestant option than your mom and her group of friends praying for you OP.