What gay man hasn't? We've all done it at one time or another, either knowingly or not.
r1 , shouldn't you be in school?
No, I didn't feel it was "wrong."
Sorry, ladies, you don't own somebody else's genitals. Or their emotions. That is not what "marriage" is all about.
And you guys say I'm a bad person???
Didn't feel it was wrong because I was just helping him masturbate, basically. They're not into guys, they just need manipulated to orgasm. They'd rather have a woman, but they'd have to pay for that- one way or another.
Not much different than what a masseur does.
Nope, cause I'm not the one cheating.
What R8 said.
[quote]What gay man hasn't? We've all done it at one time or another, either knowingly or not.
You're right on target with that statement.
Thousands of them from 1968 up to the present!
R10, since I'm not a raging slut like the posters on this thread, I can say with complete certainty that I've never had sex with a married man. (I did, however, date a guy who dumped me because he got back together with his college girlfriend -- yes, I am male -- to whom he is now married.)
I unwittingly had sex with 2 married guys and I was NOT proud of myself. I don't see how anyone could get off on helping someone in deceiving their wife and exposing her to who knows what (unless she has no problem with her husband messing around).
yes, in fact he just left, see him 2 to 3 times a week for the last 20 yrs.
R7 = Jennifer Love Hewitt in "The Client List"
Same Time Next Year going on year 14.
No, and it's not because I believe that marriage equals ownership, but because experience shows that anyone who goes looking for hookups while married is a lying dirtbag.
More lying dirtbags in my life, I don't need.
No, because there are enough desirable single men. No bigger turnoff to me than a closet case.
Can only assume much of that gloryhole cock was married. Don't care.
Of course I have. They're the best bottoms. Eager, almost desperate for it. And I'm not cheating. So I have zero moral guilt over it. I made no contract with anyone to not fuck who I want.
I've had sex with a married man, a priest and a husband and wife. And I'd do it all again.
R14 and R16, this fascinates me. What is it like for you? Do you love these men? Are they just comfortable hookups? Share everything you're willing to. R14, how can this be enough? Do you kiss sweetly and talk about your day, or just get down to business and don't make small talk?
How can you do these things ongoing and not wish for more? Not wish for a relationship that lasts? Does it hurt? Do you think this is the best you can get?
Not trying to pin anyone to a wall here. I've been there, too. But not for 14 or 20 years...Being in the shadows that long would be too depressing.
Well, smell R12!!
Isn't this like a gay man's rite of passage?
Yes, but his wife knows he's bisexual and doesn't want to have sex with him so they have a live and let live policy.
I see nothing wrong with someone having sex with a married man. Does a marriage contract actually state that there can't be sex with people outside the contracted partner?
When Barnes set up a partnership with Noble, the contract didn't require them to always be reading the same book. It was a business venture.
People who claim "cheating" are viewing marriage from the standpoint of their religious upbringing. It's church weddings that push for sex with only one person for life. That's total bull, especially when one partner (many females beyond childbearing years) doesn't even want sex.
Yes, no. Has happened very rarely and never serial with one guy.
I categorically refused to have sex with one married man I had had sex with before he was married. I just didn't want to anymore.
I'm sure I've slept with married men I didn't know were married, but in general, and I'm also sure that if someone I was really attracted to was married, it wouldn't have stopped me, but I don't remember any but the one I mentioned above.
EDIT: I just remembered the first boyfriend of an old boyfriend of mine. We had a three-way one night, but I was too drugged up to remember much of it.
I live in Rhode Island where half the "gay" men are married. It comes with the territory.
When I was very young I had a major affair with a man who was in a longterm relationship with another man.
Yes, I felt horrible about it. And although I loved him very much, I stopped.
It's easy to dismiss any moral concerns with "I'm not the one cheating," but that misses the point. The issue is that you are facilitating the cheating and for the most part society does not give the "other" woman or man a pass.
I would not have sex with a partnered gay man (unless I knew it was cool with the partner). But I feel differently about a man married to a woman. The homosex is just a different realm. Something the wife can't provide.
I think it's similar to cheating with a husband married to a woman who does not have sex with him. It just feels different.
Sex with married men is hot. They are usually extremely appreciative and go at it as if they're saving up for winter.
Not that I've been aware of. But I've had sex with plenty of men who have gone on and gotten married.
It depends on the agreement between husband and wife. If they have an honest open relationship, that’s one thing. But if they have agreed to a monogamous relationship, then yes, I would feel “wrong” facilitating one partner lying to the other. No one likes being lied to, regardless of gender. I certainly don't.
With his children playing in the backyard, unbeknownst to me. Until we were finished, then he opened the window and yelled down to them. I was mortified!!!
The world is full of married men.
I would think not Rhode Island but Louisiana would really have a lot of gay married men per capita.
Good Lord, Is Larry Craig posting here again?
That little band of gold is like CATNIP to me!
"It's easy to dismiss any moral concerns with "I'm not the one cheating," but that misses the point. The issue is that you are facilitating the cheating and for the most part society does not give the "other" woman or man a pass.
I would not have sex with a partnered gay man (unless I knew it was cool with the partner). But I feel differently about a man married to a woman. The homosex is just a different realm. Something the wife can't provide."
Ok. So, if I get what you are saying:
It's wrong to rationalize sleeping with a married man on the grounds that you, as the other man, are not cheating. And this is because society doesn't give you a pass because and because you are facilitating the cheating.
And yet you rationalize sleeping with a man married to a woman (but not a man partnered with a man).
In what universe are you, as someone sleeping with a married man, either 1) not facilitating the cheating or 2) someone for whom society at large gives a pass?
These are your criterion, not mine. And you fail on both. In fact, by these tests, you are not only facilitating cheating, but are a social pariah.
I prefer married men because they leave after sex and want no more than what they CAME for.
yes, once, they are terrible lays.
If the wife is no longer interested in having sex, there's nothing wrong with the husband looking for a freebie BJ. It's not cheating. She's just lucky he still pays her way.
I would only feel bad if my name ended up in some divorce documents, since I'm a law student and still need to pass character & fitness.
You people should be ashamed
Damn and you queens have the nerve to diss str8 women when you are fucking and sucking their sloppy seconds? Those cocks you so lovingly slobber over have just been inside of a 'fish'... Talk about less than and living as second class citizens just to shoot a load. Pathetic.
When I was young, the common wisdom was for gay men to avoid married men at all costs. It was said that married men were so filled with guilt that they often would take it out -- violently -- on their same-gender partner after sex.
I still follow that rule today