Gay Visible Minority In Love With White Racist! What should he do?
From Dan Savage Column. Interesting for a discussion here!
I met a guy on an online sports forum, and I've fallen for him. And from what I can tell, he's fallen for me. The problem is that early in our relationship, he expressed certain attitudes about race that caused me to not be 100 percent honest with him. It turns out that he dislikes men of color and feels they are responsible for many of the problems in this world. Upon discovering this, I claimed to be white and even went so far as to use Photoshop to make myself appear white in the pics I sent him. I'm not black, but I am not white. And now that our relationship has come to the point where a meeting is planned, I am absolutely distraught. He is always so kind and loving, but when he makes comments about "ashy knees" and "big ethnic noses," I cry inside. We've been together for a while, and I know he loves me, but I fear that he might not see past my skin color. He's young and Canadian, and I believe that he can overcome this. How do I go about confessing? Do I just show up to meet him at LAX, smile, and hope for the best?
First off, an online relationship is NOT a relationship.
I would get a lot of sun, op, and let him know that you are black and you are beautiful.
If you want a white racist's perspective, Dan Savage is a great place to go for advice!
What should he do? Come clean and forget about the motherfucker.
There will be tears.
What is most shocking is that the white guy is from Canada.
We are such a tolerant, multicultural country.
R5 Are you fucking kidding me? I've met many Americans and they are much more tolerant than Canadians. I don't know understand why Canadians are under the impression that they are tolerant or even nice.
R6 Canada has same-sex marriage. America doesn't.
end of story
Dan's reaction is essentially the same as mine: send him pics, then get the fuck out of that unrelationship.
[quote]I claimed to be white and even went so far as to use Photoshop to make myself appear white in the pics I sent him.
[quote]I am absolutely distraught. He is always so kind and loving, but when he makes comments about "ashy knees" and "big ethnic noses," I cry inside.
My, my. So many of Dan's letters are Extra Special Treasures, aren't they?
I agree, R9. I think one of our Enchanting Story Tellers has made the big leagues.
LMAO @ R9 & R10
It's possible, r10, but I think it's more likely Dan Savage makes up many of the letters in his column, such as this one. It's just Ever So Tantalizing.
Get Nev and the Catfish crew on this one!
I don't know what it is about me, but I never gave a good god damned about another persons race.
In fact in my younger, sluttier days a good friend of mine used to tell me I was doing the International Club. Black, Asian, Latino, White guys, it didn't matter.
The only line I draw is Republicans and conservatives, can't tolerate either even if the sex might be mind blowing.
Agree r6 I am Canadian and although our manners are better there's a ton of assholes & racists lurking.