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When a Friendship Ends With No Closure

I dated a guy off and on from 2007-2010. It didn't work out due to long-distance issues and other incompatabilities, but we remained best friends after the breakup and kept in pretty much constant contact throughout the years. Last spring he started dating another man 10 years our junior and said nothing of it to me for at least three months. I was hurt he was so secretive about it and even more hurt he accused me of jealousy when I asked him about the new boyfriend after finding out through a Facebook update that he existed. My ex has also since surrounded himself with new, college-aged friends (he and I are early 30s and the new piece is 21) and told me "I don't really have time for anyone else". I reached out to him a couple times in the past year, telling him I missed him and our friendship, but that I didn't want to get in the way of his new life. He said he missed me too but wasn't really spending time with anyone except the boyfriend and his new buddies. I've since left him alone, enjoyed my time with other friends, amd even cultivated a close relationship with someone I would never have met if I hadn't gotten out there and moved on. I feel like I'm doing everything right, but I still miss him terribly. This is far worse than a breakup in a lot of ways. If you've been through this, what helps? Any advice is appreciated.

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