I don't plan on ever. There's a saying in my family: no matter how well you treat an adopted child, no matter how much you love him/her, he/she will always seek his own flesh and blood.
In short, I don't plan on raising another person's child.
you sound dreadful
Does your family also beat red headed step children?
[quote] There's a saying in my family...
That your crassness and stupidity are hereditary makes them no less repellent.
That's bullshit. I'm adopted and I know how much my parents loved and wanted me. I chose not to have kids but to adopt from the foster child program. Mt kids have no doubt that they are loved and wanted.
If kids go looking for their bio parents it's not because they are trying to replace their adoptive parents. Most have the support of their families when they do this because the adopted parents understand that it isn't biology that makes someone a parent.
OP, it's a good think you won't adopt children. It's clear you'd be a miserable parent.
Thank God for OP. I wish everyone had attitudes like him so orphans could be without families. Hell, untouchable.
Your family sounds dumb.
Yes, I do plan on adopting. The search for a lineage is not an insult to adoptive parents, but an imagination for the story that could be true. I will post William Stafford's poem of the same name in my next post.
A Story That Could Be True
If you were exchanged in the cradle and
your real mother died
without ever telling the story
then no one knows your name,
and somewhere in the world
your father is lost and needs you
but you are far away.
He can never find
how true you are, how ready.
When the great wind comes
and the robberies of the rain
you stand on the corner shivering.
The people who go by--
you wonder at their calm.
They miss the whisper that runs
any day in your mind,
"Who are you really, wanderer?"--
and the answer you have to give
no matter how dark and cold
the world around you is:
"Maybe I'm a king."
No. Children would just get in the way of our erotic lifestyle.
I don't plan on adopting a child, largely because the process itself was so daunting that my partner and I conceived with the aid of a gestational carrier.
I posit, though, that anyone raised with OP's values would be a disaster, so it's for the best that neither his genes nor his personality reproduce.
Thank God, OP.
I will adopt as many children as I can afford. That is afford the nannies to watch and rear them for me.
I thought about it, but after being a major participant in raising my brother and sister and now taking on my cousins teenage son. NO I am done.
[quote]no matter how well you treat an adopted child, no matter how much you love him/her, he/she will always seek his own flesh and blood.
This hasn't been my experience of friends who are adopted.
The ones that do go in search of their birth parents usually come to the realization that their parents are the people who brought them up, whether they like it or not.