These guys frustrate me to no end. You know the type...gorgeous alpha young hotties with amazing bodies who see us gay guys staring at them and enjoy giving us a little show. On the gym floor, they might lift up their shirts to reveal their eight packs or flex their biceps in your face so that you can practically inhale the musky aroma of their sweat. In the locker room, they might stand or walk around naked with their taut asses and swinging cocks pretending to be oblivious to the stares. The "yep, fag, I'm really hot...and you can never have any of this" mentality. They drive me wild. ugh!
Those "cock teases" are really gay. Straight guys do NOT care what you think about their bodies.
And some of us, just want to look at them taking off their socks.
The thing is, with some exceptions, they might not be as conscious of what's going on as you think.
Guys, in general are not exactly shy with/amongst each other(again, some exceptions amongst a particularly uptight or insecure minority)
Alot of guys, I find, also don't seem to be very concerned with or aware of 'gay'. Gayness isn't presumed unless you're flouncing around like some blatant stereotype. You're seen firstly as another guy, until proven otherwise.
Just my experience.
Oy. I should have such problems as these.
Narcissists who get their fix from anyone and anywhere. That's what they are. It doesn't matter if they are gay or straight or if the audience is gay or straight. It's the admiration and worship (usually from afar) that matters.
You are never supposed to have them anyway. So just keep watching.
I like them, in fact, I end up frustrating them. Because, I'll play into their narcissistic game and drop them in the middle of it for a hot gay man....which is hotter than some straight boob.
What r5 said.
If they leave their lockers unattended, they [italic]want[/italic] you to take their sweaty underwear, right?
Exactly what r3 said.
They are eye candy. They forget they will be old and saggy and gray, too, someday. And this happens sooner than ya think, so enjoy the ride, cocktease, cuz it's gonna be a SHORT trip.
Never happened at my gym. The only guys parading around nude were the old perverts. Younger guys were incredibly bashful, doing the towel dance to take off their underwear without any possible exposure of their assets.
I think they sound self-absorbed. Straight or gay. Look at me!!
"Narcissists who get their fix from anyone and anywhere."
Straight men do NOT care what gay men think about their looks, no matter how narcissistic they are. Straight narcissists want to show off their bodies to women, not men.
[quote]Straight narcissists want to show off their bodies to women, not men.
Attention is attention, whatever the source.
If I had a body like that I'd LIVE in gyms, swinging it around. Must feel incredible to be slobbered over.
No, OP, those guys are gay. Straight men do not flaunt or primp and pose in front of men for sexual and emotional gratification. R15, no, attention is not attention. And, before you say this too, because I'm sure you believe it, a hole is also NOT a hole.
"Attention is attention, whatever the source."
No. Straight guys don't want sexual attention from gay men, they are grossed out by it. They want attention from women.
"If I had a body like that I'd LIVE in gyms, swinging it around. Must feel incredible to be slobbered over."
That's because you're gay. Straight guys do NOT want guys slobbering over them.
Thank you unquestionable oracle for your information about 'what all the straight men do'
How narrow minded a lot of you are. My trainer also worked as a stripper at gay bars, and said the money was great and he liked the attention. He also had a gorgeous girlfriend. When I was in my early twenties I was a stripper for bachelorette parties and loved the attention I got. I still love it if a woman thinks I'm hot even though I've got zero interest in going any further. So why is no one arguing that I'm a closet hetero?
The Hissing Eldergay (THE)
Straight men don't want your 40 + year old asshole - that doesn't take an oracle to figure that out.
This thread is useless without photos.
Funny, straight men don't seem to mind being slobbered over when they dance in gay clubs. One of our commenters seems to have a need to keep even gay glances from contaminating his/her straight objects of desire.
That's partly funny, partly sad, and all homophobic. Some (some!) straight men like being appreciated by gay men, and that's just the way it is.
How did this once again become about OLD gay men? Tiresome.
I have a good friend, definitely heterosexual, that attracts a lot of attention and gets hit on by gay men. He is always very polite, but turns them down. He always tells me he appreciates the compliment/attention and nothing brightens your day like someone pointing out they think you are attractive. He's probably somewhat unique, but I have never seen anyone so comfortable in their own skin.
I agree with you, R27. Those straight men do exist. But it's one thing to be polite and appreciative when a gay man hits on you and it's a totally different thing to go out of your way to make gay men look at you and drool over you.
I think that is what the other posters are talking about.
[quote]Attention is attention, whatever the source.
This is so true. There's a straight guy in my firm who's a process server, and he's just so incredibly hot. Thirty-two-years old, 6'2" about 204 pounds, brown hair and bright green eyes, big white teeth. Jesus, he's hot. I ran into him at a sports bar downstairs one night a long time ago and we sat there and watched the game with a bunch of others. (I drank; the straight guys got off on the basketball.) Anyway, he asked me to give him a ride back to the garage, and I did . . . and because I'm totally out at work, I made some stupid quip about how people seeing him leave with me would sure help my reputation, but it would most likely hurt his. Hell, I was just trying to be funny. He's a dumb straight guy who actually didn't know that I was gay, so I had to explain my comment. I don't know what the hell I said that night, but it was something to the effect of him being hot. And I said it in a very benign, non-sexual sort of way.
Well, the guy is totally straight--divorced, married again, EIGHT kids, and is just a slayer of poon-tain. But every opportunity he gets he swings by my office, past my good looking female assistant who won't give time of day because he's married, and fishes compliments out of me.
If I made a pass at him, he'd freak the hell out, but my point is that a lot of straight me, especially the built ones we see in the gyms, are really insecure. Bottom line is that for so many of these guys, attention is attention.
Gosh, the long, drawn out thesis' written about straight men on this web site. Some of you are so very creepy.
R29, you should really get a blog.
Amazing to me how many people here insist that men fit into very narrowly defined labels when it comes to sex.
Here's the truth: Some men who are more or less 100 percent straight, and would never have any kind of sexual interaction whatsoever with another man, still "get off" on being visually admired by gay men. Then there are other men who are basically straight but will allow gay men to "service" them in one way or another -- muscle worship, oral sex, etc. And even within those two categories of basically straight men, there are all different degrees as to exactly what turns them on, how much they're turned on, how much they will allow, and so on.
I find that straight guys in their 20's (and urban areas) love attention from gay guys. I'm 27 and that's how all my straight guy friends are. They like attention and once they feel you respect their boundaries, then they become flirtatious and even touchy/affectionate with me.
None of them have every tried having sex with me, nor do I have any interest in having sex with a straight guy, but the light flirting is great!
And yes I believe gay4pay is nothing more than a marketing scheme. Real straight men don't have gay sex unless they're alcoholics, drug-addicts, or have mental issues, but they sure do love attention and flirting.
I loved your post, R29. Sounds very interesting, and very real.
I wonder how many of those buff young dudes are or would be gay for pay. They must be hurting for cash, because you can either work or work out, but it is difficult to do both.
Agree R28, for some reason this guy could walk into a room full of blind lesbians and they would hit on him. He's good looking, but certainly not the best on the planet. It's something about his nature that pulls people in like the sun's gravity. Maybe people can truly recognize a great person when in their presence?
Concurring with R27-29, there are attractive and popular women who do the same with lesbians. They'll flirt, sometimes pretty heavily, but ultimately just do not do it with other women. As mentioned, it's an attention/histrionic thing. This specimen can be observed in high concentrations in Hollywood, but also party schools and rehabs everywhere.
R5 nailed it early on. Narcissism is narcissism. A lot of guys that work out like validation about their bodies and being made to feel sexy and masculine, they get off on it. It isn't anything that complicated.
Btw what is the deal with the all straight men are homophobic troll? Whatever.
[quote] about 204 pounds
That's very specific.....?
R39, I think it's bizarre to just say straight men are homophobic, but I do think some straight people (male and female) who hang out with gay people (male and female) can be homophobic. And it doesn't have to do with being closeted--it's one of many superiority trips they construct.
Many DLers seem to think the gym is a place for sex, while the vast majority of straight men go there to....I know this will be a shock....WORK OUT.
Yes, R40, it is specific because I asked him and he told me.
[quote]They like attention and once they feel you respect their boundaries, then they become flirtatious and even touchy/affectionate with me.
THIS is beyond true, especially with my process server. (R35, I'm taking the time to write this for you.)
Several weeks ago I was on the phone with him because he was serving a subpoena for me. He was looking for an address and I’d been there before, so he kept me on the horn until he found it. He was rambling aimlessly while driving and happened to mention that his youngest daughter's birthday was coming up, and I told him that mine was the same month. When he asked me and I refused to give him the exact date, he said something like, "Don't make me run a SKIP TRACE to get it out of you."
Well, we didn't have the best connection, so at first I thought he said, "Don't make me have to STRIP to get it out of you," so I thought to myself 'Hell, YES I could get on board with that!' But then I suspected that I'd misheard, so I asked him again and he repeated himself: "Don't make me have to run a skip trace on you to get it out you." Well, THAT time I thought he said, "Don't make me have to SIT ON YOUR FACE to get it out of you."
So several days later a bunch of us went downstairs to the sports bar after work, and I actually told that story in front of all of them. It got HUGE laughs, especially when I looked my hot process server and said, "You know, I may be gay and you may be hot, but I am just not into dudes sitting on my face-- That's NOT the way to get information out of me." So to keep the laughs going, he touched me on the arm, looked me dead in the eye and said all flirtatious like, "Yeah, but you've never had ME sit on your face.” Then he said something about doing it for my birthday.
Now, there's no way in hell this guy is even slightly interested in stripping for me, much less sitting on my face, but my point is that attention is attention, and he is an attention MONGER. Plus, I'm a fun, somewhat popular assistant federal defender in really big office, and I think he gets a charge out of others knowing that I think he’s hot. It’s actually shocking how insecure some guys are, and I can’t help but feel a little sorry for him. He sure doesn’t need me to convince the others we work with that he’s hot.
He makes going to work SHIT LOADS of fun, though. And, heck, I can dream.
^^^Crap. I forgot to add that I'm R29.
[quote]How narrow minded a lot of you are. My trainer also worked as a stripper at gay bars, and said the money was great and he liked the attention. He also had a gorgeous girlfriend. When I was in my early twenties I was a stripper for bachelorette parties and loved the attention I got. I still love it if a woman thinks I'm hot even though I've got zero interest in going any further. So why is no one arguing that I'm a closet hetero?
No, they're NOT marrow minded. They're just plain stupid, don't go to a gym, and are so damn fugly that men, women, and even pit bull dogs run from them.
This thread is useless without pictures.
So much hate towards other gay men. Heterosexual guys are not a superior type of man.
Gay guys are gross
Straight guys love the mirrors at the gym and in the locker room. They like to look at themselves taking their pants off and putting their pants on. I do get a kick out of the shirt lift in front of the mirror on the gym floor especially if the excuse is to wipe the sweat off their face.
When I see a guy stare at himself too much I lose interest. Yes, I know, what a huge loss for them. But they do become a lot less attractive. Nothing like a shy, sexy, unassuming muscled man. Much more appealing.
Here's a thought, OP. Maybe the guys don't even know you exist and are just going about their business. It's not all about you, you know.
This was exactly the kind of question you could have asked my brother when he came on with ask a straight guy...
Yet he was badgered off.
You all are obsessed with straight men until they offer to open up to you.
[quote]This was exactly the kind of question you could have asked my brother when he came on with ask a straight guy...
Not surprising a straight guy would be upset with your brother asking to shoot his load on him.
"Poon-tain"? Slayer of poon-tain, no less.
Words fail me. And you too, apparently, r29!
We all know from DL and the world of gay porn that the hawter a straight guy is, the more likely he is to be a little gay around the edges.
Young straight guys (in their 20s and late teens) generally don't walk around locker rooms naked. They change quickly, so they're only completely naked for 30 seconds, or the really modest ones put their underwear on under a towel. I think the majority of young straights don't love being naked around other men and would be a bit uncomfortable if they thought a gay guy was leering at them in the locker room. There are always exceptions of course, but going on what I see at my gym, if a guy under 40 is walking around the locker room naked he's probably gay.
Straight guys are so mysterious and fascinating!
This shit is cringe worthy. Seriously. OP,and the rest of you superficial vapid cliches,can make your bodies into muscle-bound beefcake but still not have ANY understanding of yourselves or your place in this world.
I feel pity and disgust for any gay man staring at, pining for, or comparing themselves to straight men. This ridiculous self-loathing gay cliche needs to just fucking STOP.
You're also the same types who put down other gay people for being old,"fat",ugly,poor,or anything not exactly like you and your cloned,insecure "friends". The Bunny Bixler's of the gay world. Sad sad sad.
I second that opinion, R57.
I generally don't go for the "self-loathing" accusation but R57 is exactly right. OP is making me cringe.
No one with any self-respect is paying attention to "straight cock teases at the gym."
oh yes, "straight" guys...
[quote]Well, the guy is totally straight--divorced, married again, EIGHT kids, and is just a slayer of poon-tain.
Divorced with eight children and he's only 32? Has he ever heard of a condom? He sounds like a real mess.
Out all these "straight" motherfuckers!!!
Plenty of those cock teases aren't totally "straight."
Way to have some self-respect, OP.
I lurve me my cock teases! They get me all warm in the loins!
No worries either, I know nothing will 'happen', and plenty of fist fodder.
OP, you do realize that most buff dudes in the gym like looking at themselves in the mirror for their own pleasure and are not trying to tease you in doing so? Most buff gym bros are not thinking about you.
Buff gym bros? lol
stop being so thirsty, dude.
I saw a straight guy at my gym who LOVED the attention. I licked my lips with a particularly sultry motion, lifted my International Male caftan three inches to show off my shapely calves, and then he was MINE.
STRAIGHT NO MORE!
Christ, honey - stop going to the gym! Work out at home; go to a different gym; get fat, whatever: DEAL.
Here's another thought, OP: they're just going about working out and minding their own business and are totally clueless about all this drama you have going on in your head.
Some of them just want to see who pays attention to them.
[quote]These guys frustrate me to no end.
They enjoy seeing you frustrated, OP.
Is "straight" among the gay community considered attractive the way "light skinned" is considered attractive among black people?
the straight guys all shake and shimmer and twerk in the locker rooms, that's how we know that they are straight.
[quote]No. Straight guys don't want sexual attention from gay men, they are grossed out by it. They want attention from women.
Attention, not sexual attention, you idiot. Straight guys don't mind being admired by gay guys.
Once again, unfathomable behavior from straight men. Just enjoy it. It's free.
Stop projecting your desires on others
R75 is right about most of them, but there will always be a few who will put on a show for anyone they know who may be gay.
Yeah, there's a couple of guys like this at my gym. They strut around the locker and steam rooms like roosters. They squeeze their cocks and love the attention that other guys give them. However, if you reach for it in the steamer, they protest and say, "I'm straight", You know that they go home and jack of furiously to an Undergear catalogue, or a mirror.
The tease guys are just trying to see if gay men find them attractive.
Get a grip. ALL ABOUT MONEY. you can have any straight guy you just need to be able and willing to pay for it. I loved the wacked out DUPONT HEIR who had a whole harem of hot straight wrestlers , he put them up on his estate and had a different one everyday. they lived even with their wives on the property. Then he had to go bonkers shoot one of them and destroyed it all.
[quote]you can have any straight guy you just need to be able and willing to pay for it.
Probably true in many cases.
FOR those of you without means. let me confirm. its just a matter of price for any man. Arnold was higher than most. and if anyone wanted his old ass now i am sure for the right amount of millions he would do it again
Will smith. I met the guy he kept. its all a matter of how much cash you are willing to part with. and If i know anything, and i know alot. its about THAT.
Why is it with straights and gays; you're either straight or gay. As if bisexuality doesn't exist. Most people are actually bisexual, to a degree.
OMG, R91 is STILL HERE.
[quote]its just a matter of price for any man.
Not all men, but a lot of men will go down for the right price.
I have a neighbor here in the suburbs who I never much thought of on way or the other. Very tall German guy with a wife and small child. He runs in the mornings sometimes so I know that he is active. They all know on the block that I am likely gay.
One time a while back I am talking to his wife in the hallway of his house and he started stretching by leaning his long muscular legs (in shorts) against the wall for resistance. He never did go running though. The next time I was over his house was in the back yard just for a few minutes and he had just finished mowing the lawn. He took his shirt off really slowly and he had an undershirt on underneath. It was actually a wifebeater t-shirt. He interrupted his wife to tell her that he is going inside to take a shower and then stretched his arms and really showed off some great arm muscles. Then he looked at me and smiled a bit. I'm starting to think that he is one of those attention whores. I don't mind one bit.
He sounds vulgar r98.
[quote]Straight guys do NOT care what you think about their bodies.
Attention Whores do.
I've been going to the gym, working out for over 20 years (I'm 45) very few guys under thirty walk around naked and most of them do the towel dance while getting dressed. I don't believe most straight guys want any gay guys to see their junk. OP is fantasizing.
Ah, I wish I had pics sometimes myself. Tall, naturally muscular German guy---full head of dark hair. You can understand it would be kind of awkward for me to find a way to interrupt my conversation with his wife in order to take out my cell phone to snap him stretching in shorts and a wifebeater.
His wife seems completely obsessed with their small son (excessively). I'm guessing this is one of those straight guys who works all day, comes home, and is craving attention. I live in the 'burbs in a house on a small, quiet family street and see this a lot. Ditto some of the husbands I see do the pick-up at daycare (I adopted a baby 5 years ago). I definitely can see now why straight guys cheat. It's not for the sex; it's for the attention (regardless of whether they cheat with a guy or a woman).
I have a friend who is a speech therapist in practice with her husband who is a child psychologist. She told me that what her husband has shared with her is that when husbands are busy working and commuting into the city (I live outside of NYC), the wife tend to substitute the child for their partner. Not sexually. All of the sharing is done with the child rather than the husband. I can't tell you how much I see this occur at my daughter's school.
So yeah, most straight guys get changed under their towels and half of them don't even bother to shower at the gym- they just wait till they get home.
But there is a certain sub-species of guy you'll find in areas where there are a lot of gay men who get off on the attention and know what they're doing. And even if, like the trainer someone mentioned earlier, they have a "really hot girlfriend" and all that, I do believe that a lot of them are closet cases or at least somewhere near the middle of the Kinsey scale.
And I agree OP, for the right price a lot of those guys will accept the attention.
How do I know that's true? Because this is DL and every reasonably handsome male is assumed to be gay.
I think most men at my gym are queers, especially the bodybuilders. Then again im under the impression most men are gay or a little bi. Too much grab ass and body consciousness for them not to be...yeesh.
[quote]I definitely can see now why straight guys cheat. It's not for the sex; it's for the attention (regardless of whether they cheat with a guy or a woman).
You also have the type of guy who no longer gets sex from his wife so he looks for NSA quickie sex from a guy. He's not looking for love or a relationship, just a fast way to get his rocks off.
R106, how many of them have you played with?
[quote]He's not looking for love or a relationship, just a fast way to get his rocks off.
That's the way it is with sex at the gym.
This thread needs real dude pics
I am starting to mutually flirt with this hot buff straight-identified dude at the gym. I think he noticed me staring at him over time, and now he always makes a beeline over to me to say hi and smile/nod at me. He sort of looks at me with a mischievous look.
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