I just found out all these gay men I work with are all on grindr (even the married ones), and they're all astonished I'm not on it. Is it just de rigeur for all gay men to use it? I've never been comfortable with anonymous pickups.
it's "de rigueur"
Where the hell do you work, OP?
At a small liberal arts college in a city.
You aren't alone. I did the random hooking up thing (although I used a4a), but I'm over it. I want a real relationship.
Ewww. I never want to see my gay friends or work colleagues on a sex app or gay website. There's nothing wrong with hooking up but... way to kill a mood!