An old friend that I haven't seen in about 10 years referred to me as "light in my loafers" at a wedding recently. I was the only gay guy there and I don't think she meant to offend me but it kind of did. Would anyone else have been offended? Isn't that an old expression for a 32 year old to make? (earlier I also heard her talking to her girlfriends about how hot my ass looked so I guess she gets points for that).
Was she saying it in an ironic tone?
She might as well have just called you a faggot to your face. It's a way of not insulting someone directly, but insulting them nonetheless by inference. Archie Bunker did it all the time.
Bitch should have been slapped by you OP.
In olden times it was considered masculine to wear tie shoes (workplace cred) and [childish epithet posted by a bigoted tool] to wear loafers, which were casual (hence the name).
Well, as long as she "didn't mean" to insult you it is okay to use antiquated anti-gay slurs isn't it?
When they made up that saying, they were talking about George Hamilton.
R3 found the DL easter egg!
Would it have bothered you if it was a gay guy?
No one under 50 would have the slightest idea what that meant.
Back to the drawing board for you.
r2 It's called being passive aggressive. OP, she sounds like a bitch and let me guess, is she fat?
It's a really fun way of saying she thinks you're a femmy queen. At least she think your ass is nice. Straighties who think that because they're not overtly homophobic they're entitled to make faggot jokes just don't get it.
F7= white guy who thinks it is okay to use the n word because black guys do it.
Did she also call you a fairy or a fruitcake?
She's a homophobic bitch OP.
OP, it sounds like she learned her talk from you. Quit complaining and revel in giving your friend points for commenting on your hot ass.
"Light in the loafers" is how my grandmother, born in 1905, referred to gay men. I always thought it was sort of cute coming from her, but yeah, it's definitely dated.
Impossible unless your friend is 150 years old.
I've never heard anyone under 80 use that expression in earnest. It was probably supposed to be tongue-in-cheek. Clearly you did not think it was funny.
That's a terrible thing to say.
To someone's face.
It's the same as when actors say "gee whiz" in interviews, they think it's cute and it makes them like the people in the fly-overs.
Eeeew, OP, that's as cringe inducing as some old, out of touch, drunk homophobe affecting a lisp and a limp wrist to "try" to get a laugh by pretending to be gay. Literally no one under 70 does that anymore. Same with that stale expression your 32 y/o friend used. Just....ewww. I can only imagine her gaffe must have been met with embarrassing silence.
I called her right out on it. Basically saying it wasn't cool, and also asking if she was 80. She and I dated a bit in college before I came out so maybe she felt entitled to say something. She is also kind of a hick. I believe her exact sentence was "you were the last one I would think was light in the loafers".
Poor girl has no gaydar...leave her alone!
No, no, no, no... OP has "a hint of mint," y'know what I'm sayin?
Pics of your ass, please.
At least she didn't say "sweet in the jeans"
You guys call lesbians "dykes" and "bulldaggers," and women "gash" and "cunts," and then you have the gall to be pissed off when someone calls you "light in the loafers"?
You're lucky she didn't tell you what she REALLY thinks.
R25 enters with the false equivalency theory.
[quote] I believe her exact sentence was "you were the last one I would think was light in the loafers".
And your comeback should have been "you were the first one I would think was a RAVING CUNT - BITCH!"
This didn't happen.
Eh, didn't sound like it was meant to offend.
Why would your sexuality be the center of attention in the first place OP? I think I would be puzzled and slightly annoyed to say the least. Perhaps a quick retort could have been, "if I am light in my loafers does that make you heavy in yours?".
Unless she was a Dowager Countess, you should have slapped her in the face!
maybe she's clueless and was trying to say you're an energetic dancer