Betty White once said of playing Sue Ann Nivens, "Of course, I loved Sue Ann. She was so rotten. You can’t get much more rotten than the neighborhood nymphomaniac." It is true that most of the more promiscuous women I've known in my life have been hard types: cynical, competitive, and sometimes downright mean (particularly toward other women).
Is the same thing true for gay men?
Not mean, just very self-centered.
I'm kinda slutty. People are always commenting about how chill I am. Truthfully, I'm not kinda slutty. I'm pretty fucking slutty, my nick name is Slameron.
Most fags are mean. If you didn't know that before, you do now!
I think R1 is correct. Promiscuous people are good at justifying things to themselves, so they'll find it just as easy to justify doing hurtful things to others.
Maybe not mean, but I find the term "predatory" apt. Maybe they are not Miss Congeniality, but they will cut a bitch to get at some dick.
I am the biggest sweetheart in the world. Cross me and I am mean and vindictive and I don't get over it.
Sue Ann was rotten irregardless of her being a slut. Betty wasn't saying she was rotten because she was a slut.
Actually, rereading it, I guess she was saying the neighborhood nymphomaniac (promiscuous people in general) are rotten. Oh well, stupid quote.
I think rather than mean or self-centered they are more likely to be less concerned what others think of them. There are plenty of mean and self-centered people who can't be labeled "promiscuous" - whatever that old fashioned attribution means to most people.
I think they are also more curious and less afraid to explore that curiosity. As an older person I wish I had been more "promiscuous" and less afraid of exploration and convention.
OP, you sound like you need affirmation of your approach to life and/or sexuality and may feel the need to denigrate those with another approach.
Well, the OP can now rest easy knowing he clearly touched a huge nerve with r9.
Promiscuous people, by definition, are comfortable with using people. Even if it's mutual, it's still "using" people. That's not a very nice person to be around.
I am kind of a slut, but nice as can be. Not sure what's wrong with the bitches you people know.
R11, R9 here. If you read my post I was clear that I was never promiscuous. I learned later in life that I had been way too uptight in my younger years because I was adhering to someone else's conventions.
The fact is that the older you get and the more you learn aboout people, you realize that kneejerk reactions to others - especially others unlike yourself - are usually wrong or most certainly incomplete and narrow minded.
Comes a time you stop judging others because they can or are willing to do things you yourself aren't.
Sexuality or sexual mores are rarely measures to judge another person.
"OP, you sound like you need affirmation of your approach to life and/or sexuality and may feel the need to denigrate those with another approach."
They generally display a lack of emotional depth, which can translate into 'mean' behavior (ranging from thoughtless to cruel), OP.
They're users but seldom users in control. So I wouldn't call them mean at heart (or where it's supposed to be) but meanness could easily be part of their emotional reaction to what drives them.
My bf is a slut and a very nice guy. Very popular at parties.
I'd say promiscuous gay men are self-involved and almost monomaniacal. If you are not on their current sexual radar, you simply don't exist.
[quote][R11], [R9] here. If you read my post I was clear that I was never promiscuous.
And if you read [italic]my[/italic] post, I never once said that you were promiscuous: I didn't offer explanations as to why you were being so defensive and tetchy toward the OP, only noted that you were.
I don't know about promiscuous people, but R9 is clearly a judgmental cunt.
Among other signs, promiscuity can indicate sociopathy/psychopathy