It got better when I finally got away from the bullies in my k-12.
There are more bullies in the workplace than there ever were in high school and college.
You sound passive and defeatist. The universe is not going to necessarily make your life better, put yourself in charge of your own destiny.
I was lucky to get out of HS without committing suicide. Joining the military changed my life.
It got better. But it took a long, long time.
is r3 also OP?
Inasmuch as I am no longer beholden to my parents, it has gotten better. But my life got worse (in a way that had nothing to do with sexuality, and about which I choose to remain vague), so it's kind of been a wash.
I have to say, though, before I came out (now long ago), I expected gay men to be nicer. In the getting laid sense, they were nice enough, but later, when I got sober, I met some of g-d's most vicious creatures. And they're supposed to be so speeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeritchule.
You're not kidding, R10. You're not kidding.
R9 is posting from prison.
No, I'm r3 and life is much better now than it ever was then, and I think you look back on friends who died and how they would feel about life today if they could see it. But does the personal hate get better as you age?
Here's the thing. Children have a natural tolerance. You may not believe it, but it's true. They are more open to the novel and less understanding of bigotry and how it benefits them. Your main problem in dealing with children is getting past their parents' hate and peer pressure effects. Once you get into the so-called "real world," as the old Kurdish saying goes, "to make a crust, you have to go for the other man's throat."
The people best able to manage that life are bigots, and so they are much more likely than others to be successful. Perhaps not sincere bigots, who are stupid, but people who view anybody else's living as a threat to their own welfare as a matter of philosophy.
And those people find it easy to manipulate and use minorities. And that's why in many ways adult life is harder for gays than school life.