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Is this how narcissistic, self-impressed and vain we have become? That we post a cutesy photo of ourselves on Instagram only to Tweet and Facebook about it seconds later? Then we wait for the comments and compliments to follow.
Is this what the fucking world has become? Our self worth is based on how many followers we have and how desperately they kiss our asses? The world has gone from self-entitled to self-impressed.
Ugh, he even compares himself to Ricky Martin in one pic.
Yes he is obviously arrogant, but it is not just gays. I have women and straight guys on my facebook that posts millions of pics of themselves too, desperate for compliments.
Jesus, he's embarrassing. I hope my own obnoxious narcissism and barely suppressed self-loathing insecurity is not so obvious.
He has nice teeth and expressive brows...thats it
Some people crave the attention and compliments of others. Big whoops.
I agree with you 100%, op. It's sickening.
When I look at what young gays today are all about (and I'm only looking at our younger gaylings because I really couldn't care less about their straight counterparts), it's so sad.
No conversation skills, no critical thinking skills, and vapidity, narcissism, and egotism to the 100th degree.
But this is more than a condemnation of gay youth. It's a condemnation of our entire society, and what corporate america has turned the 25 and younger generation into.
OP, I know he brought trouble on himself for being so exhibitionist but you really are mean to publicize his page for anonymous people. He's probably a nice kid. Vain, but he'll grow out of it eventually. Who doesn't have their narcissistic stage? It's part of the growing up process.
Maybe it gives him a little boost. Seems pretty harmless to me
Might as well put it out there while you can. We all know that as soon as you hit a certain age, no one wants to look.
I just deleted by Instagram account a few days ago. It was disheartening to know how many narcissists I know.
I just want to know what's going on with his eyebrows in 90% of the pictures.
Sure, he's an embarrassing narcissist, but I don't see how this is limited to gays.
So I'm guessing OP couldn't get any followers on Instagram? There's anime for people like you, dear.
Ugh...oh God what an embarrassment.
He's figured out an angle and an expression that he thinks makes him look good, and then he repeats it in 150 photos.
It's like a parody out of Zoolander.
Agreed, r15, his expression is almost exactly the same in all the pics . inside he is probably painfully insecure
Sorry about that .... tried to link to the photo on his instagram of the big ass tattoo that practically covers his entire back.
I would never post like that ...there's a part of me that thinks it's pretty creepy that he as 4200 'followers' ....who are these people and why are they 'following' a random stranger. Kind of skeeves me out.
What's the latest on Instagram and the site owning the rights to the pictures the users upload?
People who post pictures from their travels are just as obnoxious. So you went to Paris...big fucking deal.
[quote]So only gays use Instagram?
This. OP why do you feel the need to say only gays do this when everyone else does too? Asshole.
And OP and the rest wouldn't be complaining if this guy was HOT to death. If he was, you all would be trying to find every pic he ever put online. He is cute, but not hot enough for OP so he decides to call him desperate and self-impressed.
Nobody forces you to look at Instagram, Twitter or Facebook.
[quote] who are these people and why are they 'following' a random stranger. Kind of skeeves me out.
It skeeves you out that people want to look at pictures of a good looking guy?
I don't understand Instagram.
Why can't you just post pictures on your Facebook?
I find flaunting your wealth, luck, or power to total strangers pretty tacky. In the early days of all those social network platforms (MySpace and Facebook) it made sense to share personal pictures of your vacations and parties only with (close) friends and family members who don't live nearby.
Though I don't complain when some jock or twink shares naked pics of his.
OP are you a friend of Archer's?
Bet he's trying to get on [italic]1 Girl 5 Gays.[/italic]
I utterly despise ALL social media ESPECIALLY Facebook. It's nothing but self aggrandizing propaganda. I have so many straight and gay friends who style photos with the express intent of putting them on Facebook. It's just absurd. I'm a private person and I don't want people knowing where I had dinner the night before or where I went over the weekend. All these social media foster nothing but the "look at me" mentality. "Look how popular, rich and hot I am!"
And don't you get weary of the device dominating EVERYTHING? I go out to dinner with people and I see more of the top of their heads than their faces. I have more than one friend who has to check in everywhere he goes. Who fucking cares?
If they'd reverse it and people had to ask you to check in because they wanted to know where you were... well, you know...
In addition to being a narcissist, that guy is a rat-faced little fug. Ick.
In his photos, the guy looks constipated. I wish him the best of luck in passing that massive turd that's obviously causing him so much discomfort!!!
I love Instagram too - it is fun to see what everyone is doing, all around the world, at the same time as you. You got foodies, travelers, selfiers, memers and everyone else under the sun.
Just like Twitter and Facebook, don't be looking at what you don't want to see - don't follow him. Or even better, start your own and get more followers than him. That'll really show 'em!
I follow a guy on Instagram who posts at least 4 pics a day of himself posing. Usually the same poses too. Every day.
This is a thread for eldergays to feel threatened by technology.
What you stupid old cunts fail to realize is that the world is always changing. The way people communicate is changing. You're old enough that you should realize that things don't just stop in one place.
Every time I come to DL, I find ample proof that older does not necessarily mean wiser.
Oh, and PPSM accusing someone else of "pathetic desperation" -- that's just a joke on his part, right?
How do you know they're older, R42?
OP is an asshole for positing that ALL gays are like this just because ONE gay guy seems to be narcissistic. This is like saying ALL DL OPs are asshole because of this OP's post.
Oh please, R43.
He's sexy! If I looked like that, I'd post pics of myself for the world to have the pleasure to see too!
R42 I work in advertising. Among other things I create Facebook, Twitter, Linked-in, Instagram, Pinterest etc. pages for corporate clients.
By the way: I'm 60 years old.
That explains a lot, R47. It's been proven that Social Media pages do very little for a company's bottom line.
Please what, R45?
You're kidding right - shows how much you know about business. The last company I worked for generated over $1 million in revenue directly from their social media channels.
How about you stick to talking about what you know. Good on you 60 y/o for being on trend and relevant. Age is a number, it's what you do with the life experience that counts.
He ´s really handsome, oh jealousy!
R48 Oh youngling, please post a link to an authoritative study that proves that "Social Media pages do very little for a company's bottom line."
Thanks in advance.
While age isn't always a factor in knowledge of social media, it's pretty clear most of the negative post here are social-mediaphobes. It's funny, someone said today's youth don't know how to communicate, yet, that's all we do, constantly via social media and other platforms.
I think the greater issue here, regardless if Archer is vain or not, is the fact that someone felt the need to use an online platform to put down another individual that he or she probably does not even know. So, i'm guessing this individual sees self pics as bad, but cyber bullying as good?
If Archer does indeed have self conscious issues, as some of you have suggested in a nasty tone, wouldn't a topic like this only make that worse? Wouldn't having people say you're ugly only make him feel worse, if he indeed was self conscious?
Or lets say, as others have suggested, he's really really vain and thinks too highly of himself, don't you think this kind of thread is only feeding into his ego?
It's so easy to condemn someone for their behaviour, especially when you don't know who they are, but it's pretty hard to look at your own behaviour and questions whether it's really appropriate.
R53: uh... I asked: "please post a link to an authoritative study that proves that "Social Media pages do very little for a company's bottom line."
Thanks in advance.
incidentally, Social Media is really great for business, but most people put in charge of social media in large corporations have no clue how to use it. All they do is post over and over again about their product and do not engage customer... and that type of social media never works
R55 If you are posting on a public site for all to see, then you are open to all sorts of comments. That's the deal. That's the way it works.
If you are sensitive to that, then use privacy filters.
R58, just because we can comment doesn't mean we should. People condemn youth for not having manners, or the ability to communicate... yet it's okay to forget our morals and manners when we attack other people?
Maybe let's try to use the internet for good, instead of assholery.
R59, we don't need you to be embarrassed for us, thanks anyways. Save your energy for your own needs, not ours.
[R58] people like you are disgusting. You probably think a women wearing a short skirt and gets raped was asking for it.
I made a assumption here and called you names simply because of your comment, not knowing anything about you. That's what 55 is saying is not cool.
I know the person this thread has been started about and it really is sad that so many people said a lot of nasty things about a person they know nothing about or with even an ounce of consideration of how it may make them feel.
What is truly sad here is that we live in a world where people need to put others down to make themselves feel better.
Jason C, get over yourself. You are lame. "Maybe let's try to use the internet for good, instead of assholery." What don't you start a revolution?
FYI, the most valuable (non-petroleum industry) company in the world does not use ANY social media as part of its marketing strategy.
When did criticizing a person become solely a function of trying to make one's self feel better? I feel fine about myself and I am criticizing this guy. it isn't cuz I am lacking something. There are other reasons to criticize a person other than lack of self worth. That is a pretty stupid thing to suggest. Do you say that to teacher who criticize your work? You tell them that you are criticizing your work to make themselves feel better? You are silly.
[quote]You probably think a women wearing a short skirt and gets raped was asking for it.
No, but I think a man is. Mind you, the gays and Halloween... it's no holds barred, isn't it?
R64 AHAHAHA, you are clueless.
Just because a company may not use twitter or have an official facebook page does not mean they do not use social media as apart of their marketing strategy. Apple very much uses social media in every way they market their business.
R63 i didn't realize i was ... under? myself..
it's a shame that you're missing the point, it speaks a lot of your character.
R65 there is a difference between criticizing someone to improve them and their work, and criticizing someone for the sole purpose of criticizing them.
Nothing good is meant to come out of this thread bashing someone. Do you think this guy is going to change his ways because a bunch of internet trolls are trying to make him feel bad about himself? Probably not and he doesn't need to.
At least this guy puts his face out there instead of hiding behind anonymity.
The guy with the Instagram is desperately seeking compliments. It's sad.
Girls.... I think you two are on the wrong site.
Take a look on the upper lefthand side of this page. It says:
"DataLounge get your fix of gay gossip, news and pointless bitchery"
Note the word "bitchery".
R67 You are right.
What R64 is too stupid to understand is that you do not need to be on Facebook etc in order to conduct a massive social media effort.
A staff of people posting favorable comments throughout the web, planting news, sparking discussion, keeping a brand name in the forefront etc... is sometimes all you need.
It's just weird how virtually every photo shows the exact same expression...
You know what? Who the fuck cares what someone posts on Instagram? People. Get a life and go bitch and moan to yourself :) His pretty face isn't hurting anyone, its actually quite refreshing :) at least he's good looking and not someone ugly taking a lot of pictures of themselves and posting them online. Sheesh.
So many of you eldergays are so small minded. It's why no one likes you.
Social media is not going away. Facebook and Twitter and Instagram might go away, but they'll be replaced by something else.
Social media is huge in politics and media. Smart local businesses - restaurants, rock clubs, whatever - use social media to help keep the doors open.
Some of you think social media is just stupid gay guys posting 1,000 photos of themselves. It's not.
Social media will stay around because people make money off of it. The moment companies and advertizing firms find a more effective and successful way to manipulate people into buying stuff they will move on and the social media concept we know will die off (because the general public has already moved on to something else to spend their precious time with).
Im surprised that there are such strong opinions on this guy's picture.
It's wrong to pick on a person in this way.
She seems way too into herself.
Hope between primping, she finds the time to develop her mind and personality.
You are asking for trouble when you are fishing for compliments on an anonymous message board.
He's an attention whore, darlin'
[quote]Yes he is obviously arrogant, but it is not just gays. I have women and straight guys on my facebook that posts millions of pics of themselves too, desperate for compliments.
This is why I stay off social media sites (Instagram, Twitter, Facebook, etc). Mostly just a bunch of sad people trying to get people to pay attention to them. The "Look at me! Give me a compliment to boost my self-esteem!" stuff is embarassing to watch.
What the fuck do you guys even know about this guy?
I happen to know that he is a great person, friendly, a successful business man, and very smart.
Jealousy is an ugly thing, even more when its coming from a couple of fags who obviously are in need of a good fuck or at least a swift kick in the ass -- assuming that they are too ugly to only be able to get a shoe up their ass! Fuck off and get a life - I happen to like to look at the pics, good eye candy - get a life and fuck off, people bully only because they are so insecure in themselves, so stop calling the kettle black fags
Attention whores are VERY insecure.
If he has over 4000 connections, then over 4000 people want to see the pics - how is that looking for attention? He has a following, he is hot, and good looking - even so, making fun of someone you don't even know is not cool, even if you are a Mary who cant get fucked if he paid someone, so why don't you take a good look in the mirror before you through stones at anyone
r85 just doesn't get it.
Look at ME! Look at ME! LOOK AT ME!!!!!
I have over 4,000 people looking at ME!
I'M SOMEBODY NOW!!! Jealous bitches?
These are the people who commit suicide when they hit the wall.
I don't think it's just the gays. Younger people in general are much more narcissistic and live their lives oh the web.
That isn't said, I wish people would link more Instagrams that are self-indulgent and sexy!
JEALOUSLY IS AN UGLY THING - and by they way you talk, you must be ugly as a troll - oh and I think I speak for everyone here when I say, we hope you "hit the wall" real soon - please do everyone a favor and make it sooner than later
"post a cutesy photo"?
Every pic I've seen on instagram is borderline porn, not "cutesy."
[quote]It's wrong to pick on a person in this way.
Hey, he published it, for as much of the world to see as possible.
It's not wrong. It's just not nice. The rules of the game. If you don't want to play...
OK, time to get ready for my date tonight, it is Saturday night, but that wouldn't make a difference to the ugly fags here who have nothing better to do on a Saturday night that to gossip and put down someone they don't even know -- enjoy your night of gossip ladies -- when your too ugly to go out on a Saturday night, I guess its all you really have left -- sorry about the comments before -- now I just feel sorry for you guys - oh and I would hang that sign "too ugly to live" with the pearls, not the chain
If I saw this on a Saturday night date, I would run away:
I smoked meth with him on Cam4. he has a black dildo he fucks himself with it while he smokes. Nasty guy.
[quote]It's so easy to condemn someone for their behaviour, especially when you don't know who they are, but it's pretty hard to look at your own behaviour and questions whether it's really appropriate.
Yes, I feel quite confident in my belief (as I assume most thinking people do) that a person who posts hundreds of posed pictures of himself on Instagram is without any shred of doubt, a desperate attention whore and pathetic douche nozzle.
[quote] Or even better, start your own and get more followers than him. That'll really show 'em!
Oh, that's the spirit. Let's have a competition to see who can be the douchiest. LMAO.
[quote]Oh, that's the spirit. Let's have a competition to see who can be the douchiest.
I thought that one had been underway for several years now.
[quote]t's pretty clear most of the negative post here are social-mediaphobes.
R55, It's pretty clear you don't have a proper understanding of the word "phobia."
Phobia = fear
You don't have to "fear" social media to know a pathetic attention whoring douche when you see one. You must be new here. We love to point an laugh at people. It's what we do, and we enjoy it.
BTW, your tone suggests that you have a couple thousand douchey duck lip pics of your own on Instagram.
Uh oh, I think poor Mr. Jason McDermid is OP's little attention whore in the flesh.
First of all you dick head, yes, I might not be as attractive as the man you are commenting on his pics about, but I am sure as hell better looking than any of you fags, and for you give my picture out on a website for "Gays who are looking to be Dads" - what fuckin side are you on you fuck head - gays should stick together, I hope some mother fuckin big guy beats the shit out of you where they cannot even recognize your face - other than that, peace out everyone, have a good Saturday night, those of us with dates that is, lol
i can't wait to see him deliver a just punishment the first time Jr. crayons the white rug.
[quote]but I am sure as hell better looking than any of you fags
[quote]I hope some mother fuckin big guy beats the shit out of you where they cannot even recognize your face
[quote]gays should stick together
IS that him?
Yes, I agree with Joseph at R62! Don't you people realise - you're the audience! You're not supposed to talk back to the players! How dare you criticise this really nice guy who is constantly thinking of ever more clever ways to photograph himself undressed, in bed, for your enjoyment! You're ENJOYMENT! Do you hear me? Not for you to ridicule!
On Cam4 he won't even show cock for less than 1000 tokens. That's $100. What a narcissist.
[quote]JEALOUSLY IS AN UGLY THING
Ah, the 'u jus jelis' argument- beloved of our greatest barristers and QCs the length and breadth of our glorious country! So very insightful.
Or not, of course. Since such a counter-attack is always the province of the intellectually deficient. Or to put it in your language- EPIC FAIL. Why? Because you have assumed a position of pure narcissism in lieu of logic, that goes like this:
1) I am pretty, which makes me a good person.
2) Bad people are ugly.
3) Because I am good, anyone who attacks me must be bad.
4) They attack me because they wish they were pretty like me.
Of course, since you're not the brightest bulb in the box, this will all go over your head. But thanks for the laughs, anyway.
Who is this self-righteous Jason McDermid asshole who says bullying is wrong but goes on and on calling us ugly trolls who can't get dates and hoping we get beaten to a bloody pulp?
His self worth seems to be wrapped up in his ability to get dates and go out. That's kinda pathetic for a 37-year-old. What's going to happen to him the first Saturday he doesn't have a date? What's going to happen the first time he spends Saturday night alone at home? Will he kill himself?
The guy on Instagram is cringe-inducing. Makes the same face in every pic. Very desperate.
It wouldn't be [italic]nearly[/italic] so creepy if he at least had different facial expressions. Mind you, a thousand face-pics posted like that is still creepy, no doubt about it, but having the EXACT SAME EXPRESSION in every single pic is super-duper-creepy.
This thread is a trip
1. I have no idea who this is
2. Yeah, it is a little strange that he has the same facial expression/smile in every pic
3. He looks wonderful for 37, if thats his age, and I think some of you are jealous
4. I dont know why we are personally attacking this guy and each other over someone we dont know!
Why the head tilt in every photo? I thought only dogs did that.
It's that one brain cell he has. It's always pulling the head in the same direction.
500 photos all with the same pose and same vacuous expression.
If Alfred E. Neuman were to have an Instagram page, it would look exactly like that.
Wow, forget misguided vanity case on Instagram.
[quote]I hope some mother fuckin big guy beats the shit out of you where they cannot even recognize your face
Let's discuss Jason McDermid, who is (if possible) far uglier on the inside than out. See R91, R100.
BTW, Jason might want to change the privacy settings on his Facebook page....
How did he find out about the thread already? I guess the Google Alerts on yourself work.
I'm guessing one of DL's very own must have tipped him off on the thread, R121. I don't see how he could've found the thread by a simple Google search of his name. I searched through the thread and I don't think anyone mentions his name in any of their posts.
The kid is cute but doesn't seem bright enough to find this thread all alone.
R123, kid? He's 36!
And if you think he looks young, look at his forehead.
Jesus, R124! Where did you get that tidbit from? Based on his facial expressions and tweets, I wouldn't have guessed that he was older than mid-twenties. He looks fucking excellent for nearing his 40s, if you aren't trolling.
BTW, here's the tweet he sent out linking to DL and calling us cyber-bullies.
Ok Jason - you are out of your depth at this website. These bitches will make rags of you so just give it a rest cause you are sounding more and more like a dick and it's getting worse each time you post here.
[quote]I smoked meth with him on Cam4. he has a black dildo he fucks himself with it while he smokes. Nasty guy.
I want to know more about that R94...
Is he the op?
He is fb friends with this Andrew guy...
Check out his newest pic taken today (Monday).
Same douchey smile, same angle, same cheeseball caption, same people calling him "mega cute."
The Instagram guy isn't 37, R112. Jason, his defender, is 37 y/o. He was outed a few posts back (and again @ R119). Please pay attention.
[quote]you are out of your depth at this website.
I agree. The average DLer is three times his age.
Doesn't Jason have places to go, a magic ring to protect?
[quote]here's the tweet he sent out linking to DL and calling us cyber-bullies.
We are cyber bullies. Surely you're not offended?
My feeling is if you're going to take a zillion pictures of yourself at least make them interesting. Try different poses, looks, angles, backgrounds, editing, effects, etc. Personalize it. Make a statement other than "look at how cute I am!" in a hundred variations of the same picture.
He's a cute enough guy but his pictures make me think that he's trying to be the human equivalent of a Labrador retriever.
Guys, lets stop bashing each other, putting each other down, lets just move onto another subject.
I apologize for anything I said, I just do not like when a group of guys bullies up on another. I don't think its fair or right.
But that doesn't make what I said right, so Im sorry - lets all move on and talk about a subject we can all agree on, ok?
cute. full of himself, but cute.
Sorry, Jason, you ceded any chance to play peacemaker.
Whatever this thread is, you're not a very nice person. Read what you wrote. Try to defend it. You can't reconcile your intent with the kind of things you posted.
anyone know anything about puppies? I want to get a cocker spaniel, let me know
Im sorry that's how you feel, really all I can say was that I said a lot of mean comments just like you did. Don't like when guys bully other guys. I apologized, you don't need to accept it, that is your choice. But take ownership with how much you have hurt this poor guy you are constantly making fun of, that hurts people a lot, and its not a joking matter.
I don't disagree what's here is hurtful. But, he put it out there, so that's part of the risk.
What you wrote was puerile and juvenile and if all this set you off - seemingly out of nowhere - odds are you'll be going on a lot of first dates.
How much HAVE we hurt this poor guy?
He seems unfazed.
no, my younger sister, who is a lesbian, tried to kill herself two weeks ago by my moms grave who died at the age of 57, just because she could not take the teasing and bulling at work about her being a lesbian, so its somewhat personal here, the affects that bullies have on someone, you have no idea how he is feeling and you guys just continue, and continue, like one beating after another, words have consequences, so lets move on and pick another topic ok, I have apologized for what I said, that's all I can do
Jason, dear, it's clear you're new here. If you want to discuss another topic, all you have to do is click on different thread that interests you. But you will not be able control what happens on this one.
Look on the left (top of page) for the DL mission statement
I find it telling that the veteran DLers haven't ripped Jason a new one.
As for you, Jason: Yes, you apologized. However, it's meaningless. Reread what you wrote. None of the comments posted about your "friend" were anywhere near as vicious and aggressive as yours. You came across as being rather high strung and off center with no filter. On that note, you fit in quite well here.
You cunts lecturing "Jason" here are cracking me up.
Is Jason the new kirker?
[quote]anyone know anything about puppies? I want to get a cocker spaniel, let me know
So Jason, you want a puppy now? The wanting a kid thing was just a phase?
Jason, now that you've apologized, we hope you stick around. Visit the other threads and poke around. I'll even start a thread for you about gays wanting to be dads if you want. Or a cocker spaniel thread.
Kirker could actually string a bunch of sentences together with some style....
Thanks  but I think im going to move onto another site, thanks again
Jason, just a tip for when you move to your new site. Don't post your full name when you're arguing on a message board and calling people names. Why would you not want to be anonymous when doing that? Things stay on the internet forever and is searchable by future employers.
maybe he should change the pictures up. He's cute but sounds really lame (marketer haha...makes sense). I'm going to my instagram to delete pictures of my face right now.
This is nothing compared to that poor, struggling young actress you guys roasted last year (somewhat lovingly). And she took it much better than these two bed wetters.
Jason, please. How do you think Anne Hathaway feels? She puts it out there and she takes it.
Haters gonna hate! That guy is cute as hell! Go bother Log Cabinettes, religious nuts or some other homophobic assholes. Why do we always have to turn on one of our own? The worst enemies of gay men are often other gay men, and I say this with a long perspective as an elder gay.
Over three months later and the dude is still posting essentially the same photo with the same cheesy, contrived smile. He's cute, though.