I'll always be a man who finds only men sexy. But I'm tired of the 'lifestyle': the std's, the social climbing, the shallow relationships, the rainbows and the parades, AIDS and discrimination, ageism. The body nazis, bears, cubs, daddies, twinks...
It's like- all bad.
OP is the male Cher Horowitz.
Is this a real post? That is "the lifestyle" because that was the lifestyle you chose to live. Take some damn responsibility for your choices, you sound tiresome.
Social climbing is the only reason for your rant, cupcake. We aren't fooled.
It's such a bore! Coming-out parties... inauguration balls... openings at the opera... riding to hounds... and always the same 400!
Turn in your toaster and your scarf and try not to fuck the pets, OP.
Tired of the dark ones; starved for the blond ones!
You mean you're tired of gay culture, OP, not lifestyle.
R6=lacks reading comprehension.
The OP is complaining about things that have nothing to do with being gay, it is about specific lifestyle choices he made (if we just pretend this post wasn't trolling).
Being gay is what you make of it. You hate your experiences so far? Well, why not change some old habits of yours and leave the stuff you don't like behind?
OP, are you gay in a shitty 90's sitcom? If so, that's your problem. Come be gay in this decade.
So don't live the" lifestyle," Einstein. Next!
OP, you're sticking to the old ways of being gay when we all had to live in the closet.
Stay out of the bars, away from the parades, away from the bathhouses and the bookstores, away from Craigslist and all the online sites.
If you want something meaningful, don't look in the back room of Bucky's at 1 am. One does not go to McDonald's for filet mignon, if you know what I mean.
There are SO many places to meet out, sane, smart, well rounded gay men (and women). Churches (yes, many are LGBT open and affirming). Social groups. Get out and go to things.
All that drama about who fits where in the bar scene, who's hotter, etc etc etc is just that: drama. It's grown men acting like 12 year old girls. Either embrace it, or walk away from it, but you will not change it.
All those things you mention sound like "young" things and not even necessarily gay things. All 20 somethings do backstabby, shallow shit and only young people do the ageism thing. Hang out with some grown-ups.
What R2 said? Why are you choosing to live that way? Do you not realize that, you know, YOU ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR YOUR OWN LIFE?
Not just his own life, the gay community. We are all community builders, like it or not and the community reflects what we do.
You want to start a club where gay men meet and sit around watching sports and nobody talks, then do it!
Then why do you post on Datalounge, OP?
the straight people aren't happy, either
[quote]Then why do you post on Datalounge, OP?
Because he's paid to.
OP is the freeper and R6 is the pimple on his anus.
LOL @ r18. And true.
What an obvious troll-baiting thread.
I've got news for you, OP - it just gets worse.
Agree with R22- silly post, silly OP.
And we're all tired of YOU, OP.
So what are you going to do about it? Something quick and brutal and self-administered, we hope. You know, so you can maintain our standing as victims of a high suicide rate, too?
The truth many may not know and others may not want you to know is, for every one living the "lifestyle" there are probably 4 or 5 quietly living among the rest of society.
OP in your defense - I am a professional who joined a gay networking group of other professional gay men and women. Lawyers, doctors, Indian chiefs, etc. I went to five events- each felt like being in a gay bar. A great many guys just grouped off. Only the women talked and exchanged business cards and really networked. I think gay men sometimes take the gay culture wherever they go. That makes it hard to communicate with a great many of them, which is your real problem. Gay men aren't any better at really getting to know someone. But all men can be like that. Take your business elsewhere. Do the things you really enjoy. The gay community won't ever live up to your standards. So raise them somewhere else.
Op, most of us gay men and women are just your average schmo, no galas, no fundraisers, no ladders of fame.
OP neglects to mention that he got fat.
I keep wondering where this gay lifestyle is that I keep hearing so much about. Somehow I missed the memo. For me, being gay is a good job, great partner, excellent friends, crazy family, sweet dog, etc. Throw in a dash of catty and a pinch of base sense of humour and you're done.
Well troll or not, I get the post. However, there are just as many shit things about being straight, if one generalizes about straights in the same way. Not all of the stuff in your list is exclusively gay/ gay culture.
As others have posted, there's plenty of us who are unlike what you post.
True OP, those aspects of gay life are tiresome. But gays don't live in a box. Don't let those experiences alone define your experiences as a gay man.
Why don't you turn straight, marry a member of the opposite sex, have babies, then after you bring all theses people into your life, realize you were happier with the gay lifestyle you now profess to loathe, then leave them all broken & return to where you started.
You should be yourself.
well i'll be damned! std's, social climbing, shallow relationships, discrimination, ageism, and body dysmorphia are strictly exclusive to gay culture. these ills can be found everywhere hun. being gay requires one to develope a self-assuredness and stringent individualism that is unparalleled by most. if class is in session then being gay is like double honors or ap. you simply been doing gay wrong and want to blame the 'lifestyle'. but my advise to you is that now that you know better, surely you can do better. right? you have no one to blame but yourself. you don't have to jump on every bandwagon.
Well, I'm tired of being old! I need to be twenty-five again!
What a stupid thread.
OP, you're hanging out with the wrong people. My gay world includes NONE of the dumbass gay people you listed. Your world can exclude them, too.
OP, you don't need to buy into any part of what you call the "lifestyle." No one is forcing you to do that.
I've gathered from reading the pages of DL that gay men find it enjoyable to fuck pussy, so that's half the battle right there, OP. Enjoy your fresh new heterosexual lifestyle.
Just be a homosexual. It's way classier.
So, Nate ... have you started working on 2014 numbers yet?
Go eat a pussy and see how you feel.
Really the only practical advice, R43.
OP, why do you feel there is one "lifestyle" that defines being gay?
I'm gayer than Christmas and I've never had an STD. I don't do "social climbing". And I don't give a fuck about body nazis.
AIDS is not an issue in my life because I've always practiced safe sex. I've been to pride parades but don't feel my attendance is mandatory, so that's not really a big deal anyway.
Ageism and descrimination? You combat those with visibility and vigilance, not by bad-mouthing the gay identity or stereotyping us all as label-obsessed scenesters. If you measure your gay identity by bar cliques and social diseases, that's your problem, not mine.