I think I've arrived at a point where I have nothing to say or want to ask. Do you find that as age you become this way? I used to be very talkative.
Yes, more and more frequently.
I have nothing to say.
I reached that point in AA meetings. There is nothing I haven't said, many times over, nor anything I haven't heard.
I'm quite the opposite, OP.
I was terribly shy and timid in my teens and early 20s.
Now, I can't shut up.
Aren't you all glad I came out of my shell?
That's interesting, OP. The older people I've cone across have been very talkative.
Eventually, you realize nobody really cares about you or what you do or your pedigree. If they want to sleep with you or want your money, they just act like they care.
So honestly, what is there to really say.
If I like the music playing, I'll maybe say so, or if I like someone's get-up, I'll pay a compliment, but I'm like you, in that I really don't say much anymore.
R4 - I'm the guy next to you on the flight who likes to chat. I'm often interested in what others have to say: where have you traveled, what books are you reading, etc.
I've reached the end of my rope, I've talked and talked and now it's time for a spanking...go fetch that hairbrush from the top of my dresser.......
Flying is a notable exception for me, R7. I'm a control freak, and hence have a flying phobia. I take benzos when I fly, so sitting next to me might be a bit like sitting next to Judy Garland circa 1968.
But maybe you'd enjoy that?
I'm quicker to spot people who don't really listen, just wait for their turn to speak. I'm quicker to spot the "fake it till you make it" people. I'm too tired to try to trip them up, so I don't engage. That's really it most of the time, I think: I'm quicker to notice when I'm tempted to show up a bullshitter and it really is a waste of energy. "I'm putting my thoughts elsewhere while you chatter away."
R9 - not really, I prefer my seatmates a bit less comatose. My last flight I thought my seatmate might be a bit standoffish, but we ended up chatting up a storm.
I feel like I have nothing to say with people I have nothing in common with. I not living where I want to live so it's alienating. I know they don't really care about me, either.
I'd love to meet someone I could really talk to - as in back and forth interested, interesting animated, varied conversation.
I've never been much of a conversationalist, but certainly I've become less self-absorbed and a better listener.
R12 - this is an instance where I wish DL had a PM system!
Find some people you actually want to talk to, OP.
Oh we care R6. We have delicately avoided the subject of your career because we don't have anything nice to say.
I have a lot more to say now than I did when I was younger because I have more knowledge. But I rarely ever talk about myself to anyone whose reactions I can see.