I mean like after lights are out and eyes are closed. Why do some people need to fight about something right then and there? Or worse yet- how about waking up in the middle of the night to fight about something that could just as easily be discussed the next morning?
This seems manipulative no? at the least inappropriate, no?
I've never had this happen to me, OP. So clearly your SO is a cunt.
People who start fights in the kind of circumstances you describe, OP, are just selfish assholes. Because THEY can't sleep with the crap swirling around in their heads, they'll make sure their significant other can't either.
Well, maybe that's when there's nothing else to distract the mind.
Dataloungers are known for this.
It's about power. In that instance your SO can dictate when and where the discussion takes place and also how (as a fight).
And you are most likely not fully awake or aware and your SO uses that opportunity for full attack.
Are you happy in your relationship, OP?