For me, he has to be capable, confident and caring. What about you?
Be who he purports to be -- by thought, word, and deed.
No lying ever!
There will be pop quizzes!
Trustworthy (big with me), considerate, and intelligent with a good sense of humor. Good looks would be nice but I would date an average looking guy if he fit the bill personality-wise.
People always say that, but look at any gathering of gay men and the guys who aren't lookers are generally ignored. Men are superficial creatures and it is difficult for these plain guys who could potentially be good partners to even get noticed.
Attractive face, nice features.
Interests beyond me. Independence.
Always has our relationship in his forefront of thought. Most important.
Job, phone, and vehicle.
1. Nice cock
2. Trust fund
3. Not too bright
I know what you mean R4, and it's a shame. I guess with me because I grew into my looks after being a plain, gangly kid through my teens I've experienced both sides of the coin and don't judge based on looks alone. It's funny because I've had some guys I've ended up liking who were just okay in the looks department say they were afraid to approach me because they thought they'd have no chance.
I hate when someone uses the word "confident". It sounds so Fifties Housewife. Because what you want is them to give YOU confidence. And that's weak.
What is confidence anyway, except a false sense of security?
That he gives me jingles for my pocketbook and my songs.
Sometimes it's braggadocio, R8.
Also, it's too vague R8. Confident in what? Sexually? Socially? Physically?
I take it to mean, please don't show me any baggage or insecurities until I know I like you. It turns me off.
R8 clearly lacks confidence.
That "false sense of security" is visible in your body language, words, reactions..everything. It is one of most noticeable and important qualities about a person. In dating and life in general.
I require the following:
1. He generates a good income.
2. He is highly skilled in sucking dick.
3. He is versatile.
4. He is caring and loving.
5. He is optimistic.
I don't need his apology. What I do need is an accurate, truthful and believable account of certain things that he did. Not for me, for him.
He can't move on with his own life until he squares this with me.
It's vital that he have the ability to understand that although I can love him with all my heart and soul, I have a strong sexual appetite that needs feeding outside the relationship. And of course be a great dad to our daughter. My long-time bf encompasses both of these qualities luckily.
Honest, loving, accepting, sweet and kind. Good intellect, good in bed, progressive. Thinks I'm funny. And luckily, he is all those things.
R16 is the "cake and eat it too" type of boyfriend.
Go ahead on, son.
R8, it means comfortable with himself. He is relaxed, not uptight, not nervous, not defensive. He likes himself and is not afraid to be who he is. He doesn't hide who he is because he naturally expects to be accepted. This is what confidence is.
It's not false. The false kind comes with arrogance and is just another face of insecurity / fear. Confidence comes with self-acceptance.
Thanks for the syphilis, dear. I gave you and our daughter AIDS... Hope you both like it!
A willingness to communicate.
That's been the only trait that has led me to successful relationships.
expectations are resentments under construction
Don't we all know R16 from the "Just to be clear, my bf and I MAKE LOVE; we FUCK our tricks" thread?
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