By DataLounge standards, you are a Gayling until age 20. On your 21st Birthday, you are instantly regarded as Eldergay and are banished to a life of loneliness and despair, and you are no longer relevant. There is no in-between.
26 Year-Old Eldergay
No transition. You come to a point when you realize you crossed over years ago
r1 almost nails it. I'm generous and would say that gay men would allow a person to reach their 22nd birthday. But one day past the 22nd birthday and you are ready for the rocking chair.
"Sure, I've heard of Liza, and I like some of her work. But it's not like I'm going to marry her or anything."
The gay life span is but 20 years. From Gayling to Eldergay represents the beginning and the end. The in-between is filled with fear, hate and despair. Not a state of being anyone would choose for ones self. Being Gay for most is just a very short, unhappy lifespan, best avoided.
It's much better to be a simple mo. The gay thing is treacherous.
So tell us how "it gets better."
if one survives the gay-years, one becomes an ordinary homo and thing improve from there on.
Silly stuff like "gayling" and "eldergay" is why (at age 47) I have never regarded myself as gay. I'm just a dude who happens to suck dick. I'm not superficial, I don't worship Liza or Babs, I don't like musicals. I just live my life and love the cock.
Past Gayling & Not Yet Eldergay
I find a gay guy in his 40s or 50s who dresses like he's 20 pretty sad.
At what does Twink expire?
I find a gayling who tries to show off his pathetic hairless chicken legs and arms like he is an actual man equally sad, R10
'Gayling' will never happen the way 'eldergay' did.
sorry, REgina, looks like it has... i know it wounds, but, well...
When does one become an elderlez?
[quote]When does one become an elderlez?
When one is no longer a lezling, obviously.
Yes, OP. whore.
The Twilight Zone
Was that even English, R16?
R16 is the pathetic drunk who keeps trying to make "gayling" happen.
LOL@ R9, and caftan wedgies with personal stains.
La Vie en Caftan!
It is when you miss only about 6 months from the dance bar, return to it, and suddenly notice that the music has changed and is less understandable. Instead of dancing more, you drink more at the bar, standing around watching the dancers and sometimes even drinking alone.
And then one night, you think of trying out that other bar further downtown, where the older guys go and you discover it isn't half as bad as what you had been led to believe it would be. And from there on, buddy, it is like a big snowball rolling downhill for the next 40 years.
Play Misty For Me
R23 = bitter gayling
You’ve got to climb to the top of Mount Everest
to reach the Valley of the Dolls. It’s a brutal climb to reach that peak, which so few have seen... You stand there, waiting for the rush of exhilaration you’d thought you’d feel - but it doesn’t come. You’re too far away to hear the applause and take your bows. And there’s no place left to climb. You’re alone, and the feeling of loneliness is overpowering.
R27, Oh Neely! Come home with me tonight! My rikshaw is parked around the corner.
Between gayling and eldergay is Obsession.
The transitional period is 30-40, neither group wants to claim them. I'd say they're gaylings, but younger gaylings think the middle-90s is ancient history. The Ricki Lake thread today was declared an eldergay thread, her core audience would still be under 40 today.
[quote]So tell us how "it gets better"
It doesn't. Behold the trajectory:
20-30: life seems full of possibilities.
40-50: Creeping doubt
50-60: Reality hits. Panic increasingly sets in
60+: Screaming despair or resignation
Basically, "It gets better" is a feel-good Santa Claus fib put about by eldergays to prevent suicidal adolescents snuffing themselves because they need FRESH MEAT. But preferably not with shingled hair.
Lets use real stats. For straights by adjusted down for gay years.
According to this article, middle ages is 40 to 55. So about a 15 year transition.
I think someone dropped R33 on his head as a gayling.
Come on people, we really need a good name for in between gays. You all are creative, I know you can do it.
There is such a thing as an ElderGayling.
Richard Simmons comes to mind.
If of course he were gay.
Is R16 ok? Should we send help? Can we call someone?
Between gaylings and eldergays fall most of YOU.
[quote]What falls between "gayling" and "eldergay"?
There is a bro period.
Can we make Middlegay happen? This is any gay male in their 30s.
Just a suggestion.
What falls between them? The same damned thing between most of your ears -- dead air.
Both terms are fucking ridiculous.
You people (and you know who you are) are hypocrites to the nth degree.
Instead of trying to break away from labels, certain gays are hell-bent on applying and using them.