Looks: Just how important is it to a relationship?
I've never been in a relationship so I don't know.
Depends on the person, OP.
For some, looks are everything; yet blind people have relationships too.
For me, though I may be shallow, I have to have a good-looking boyfriend. Looks are how a relationship begins with me.
if the earrings and caftans go together, why not?
People who say they're not important are lying.
Not as important as subject-verb agreement.
But at the same time, R3, I have been in a situation where I fell for someone whom I initially thought was fug.
As far as appearance is concerned, what a woman does with what she has is more important to me than natural good looks. I tend to be attracted to someone who takes care of herself and dresses well.
Attraction to his cock is much more important.
"may be shallow"? No R1, you ARE shallow, period.
They aren't usually important for me, but there are a few types that evoke bad memories, which is unfair I know, to penalize people because they resemble somebody I used to know, but there it is.
And you have the cheek to call me shallow, r10?
I have to feel a sense of attraction, even if they aren't gorgeous. I tend to look into people and see the interesting, or flawed features as attractive, though. But I'm shallow if you define not attracted to certain looks shallow (I'm not into the trashy look, nor into the impeccable look - I like regular-looking guys with big hearts).
Then, once I'm in love, it really doesn't matter what they look like, because I just love every single thing about them, even if I didn't feel that way in the beginning, and I love them more and more (assuming a good relationship, of course).
True love makes space for non-Hollywood looks, but you have to start with some kind of attraction.
"True love makes space for non-Hollywood looks, but you have to start with some kind of attraction."
I agree with this, r12!