Have you ever heard people say you should NOT hold it in and let people see that you are weak. Honestly that is like the most awful piece of advice ever, when people see that you are weak they like picking on you.
Hold what in?
And who gives a fuck about "being tough"? That means nothing.
OP=victim of homophobic obsession with masculinity.
OP maybe you need to hang around fewer lowlifes.
And r2 sounds like an idiot.
The reason they say that is repressing your feelings damages YOU, sometimes in ways you aren't even aware of OP.