What qualities do you respond to or look for in a significant other?
Not your ideal but real life qualities or even characteristics.
As examples, I don't have a 'type' but brown eyes always do me in.
And I like someone who is self effacing.
A kind nature, without being a sap, is also very attractive.
I agree with all of yours OP. I would add someone spiritual, but not religious. Respect for ones self as well as others, aware and involved of the world around him and as we begin our relationship, that he, like I, value us as well - that's the tough one. I finally found that after 40 years.
I actually think you can have good luck finding the right guy once you've entered your forties. So much changes for the better.