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Update: From the OP who let his friend live with him during a separation

I posted here a month or so ago because I had recently let a good friend move in with me during a separation. He is an old friend, and I am also close friends with his wife. The situation pretty much sucks. I thought it was a "trial separation" and that he'd basically spend some time deciding what to do, try to patch things up, and so on. Well, no. Without telling anyone, he served her last week. She is now calling me all the time crying, leaving messages. He has subsequently moved out (I didn't ask him to - he had plans to move out all along) into a hugely expensive new apartment and is dating tons of people. She does not know he's dating, I don't think. Meanwhile he's acting pretty cool and calm, and this weekend we and a bunch of college buddies are slated to go on an annual ski trip. She just left a message freaking out at me wanting to know who the other "women" are, if there are any, and if I can talk to him and try to get him to talk to her. I do not know what the hell to do. I like both of them individually. This situation has become untenable and I feel caught in the middle. On the one hand, I sympathize with the wife -- blindsided. And my friend is acting totally nonchalant. He is also asking me opinions/talking about his new dating life, and I feel uncomfortable encouraging (?) it, as if I am betraying his soon to be ex. I also know BOTH sets of parents, and his wife's parents have emailed me asking how she is and how he is.. HOW DO I EXTRICATE MYSELF FROM THIS????

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