Do you know any techniques to small talk. Please give me some tips. Thanks.
Find something you have in common, or some type of common interests.
I've got to buy me a dressy dress. The one that I have is such a mess. (Small talk!)
Who will you vote for next election? How do you like my stamp collection? (Small talk!)
I've got something better for your lips to do. And that takes no talk at all.
People have plenty of things they want to talk about, given the opportunity. Offer yourself as someone someone can talk to. If you do this well, your problem turns into how you can get people to leave you alone.
"Who will you vote for next election?"
That's the exact opposite of 'small talk'. Wow.
The news of the day. Current events. The topics are endless.
Say to one and all when introduced:
"So happy to meet you I could drop a log!"
With enthusiasm, OP, so they know you mean it.
Non-controversial current events and "human interest" stories.
The non-existent girlfriend of the football player, the miracle dog found three thousand miles from home, Lance and Oprah, your most recent vacation, the weather/traffic/real estate trends/etc.
Think small, OP.
Is it rude to ask someone what they do for a living? And how do you best phrase that question so as to seem genuinely interested but not rude?
My favorite opener - "How was your day?" Show a genuine interest in the other person. Ask questions which cannot be answered yes or no. For example, rather than saying "Nice sweater," ask a question about it like, "Did you buy it locally? I've been looking for something like that for my cousin's birthday."
Talking about the weather is a cliche, but it's non controversial and usually works. I stay totally away from anything political.
With Americans it is considered fine to immediately ask people what they do for a living, not so much with Europeans.
Be interested. Ask starter questions such as "how do you know so and so" or "when did you become interested in"? People love to talk about themselves. They will give you plenty of cues. Save debate and insights for people you know well.
If she's over 30, offer her $5 to dip her scrotum in the pâté.
She will spend all evening trying to convince you that she's a female.
If he's over 30, tell him you banged Tebow. Offer details.
If he/she is under 30, start a pull-my-finger contest.
Smoke copious amounts of pot, silly!
R5, you do realize those are lyrics from The Pajama Game, right? (Babe and Sid have a duet called Small Talk)
Mention that the chip dip smells just like the Governor's smegma.
Six principles to active listening to focus on:
And, in my opinion, the mist important: emotional reflection.
Ditto what R13 said.
The sweetest sound in any language is the sound of one's own name, and the favorite topic of conversation for most people is themselves. Show interest in what others do. You'll do fine.