The thread about self-loathing was deleted, so I started a thread asking why that thread was deleted, and now my thread was deleted as well.
So much censorship considering it's a gay site where gay issues are discussed.
Insanity is doing the same thing over and over while expecting different results. Loon.
R1, you mean like you constantly being a bitch?
let;s see if we can go 3 for 3
Being a bitch works.
Creating always-deleted threads, apparently, does not.
It does work if it annoys the webmaster every time he has to delete it.
And how has being a bitch worked out for you romantically? How about with friends? Yep, being a bitch gets you no love except on anonymous boards. How sad for you.
Web master does not want to upset the flyover idiots who now make up the majority of posters on DL.
i was wondering the exact same thing. must a touchy topic for those that wear that kind of lace.
Yeah I was upset it was deleted. What was wrong it? I thought it was a decent argument that was going on.
Are we not allowed to talk about how yes self-loathing very much exists in a lot of gay guys and to some of us we think it is evident on this board?
You may loathe yourself, but you may not speak of it. You may recognize it in others, but may not accuse.
Most of those hurling self-loathing accusations are morons who use the accusation on anyone who doesn't agree with their views.
as a person who identifies as a member of the greater LGBT communities or as a person who may have same-sex encounters without identifying with any community, you may have a strong interest in keeping your personal orientations or behaviors private."
this forum endorses the closet.
Self loathing is just pejorative used by my way or the highway types.
I admired the realism - and kindness - in this sentence from the link on the Jodie thread:
Any step a gay person takes to hide their identity that they wouldn't take to hide the fact that they're, say, Irish, vegetarian or left-handed is probably not a neutral quest for privacy but reflects their own doubt about just how OK it is to be gay.
It's a complicated, individual process for all of us. We'd do well to remember that even if almost all of us know out is best in the end.
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