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When do you dispense with condoms in a relationship?

My bf and I have been together for the past three years. We use condoms every time we fuck, but lately we've discussed going raw, for lack of a better term. We think it would be a sign of increased trust, and besides that, there's no denying that the sensation is better. We're both negative and monogamous. And yes, I trust him implicitly not to screw around on the side. And I really have no interest in other men. Having said all of that, I'm a little apprehensive about this, not because I don't trust him but because condom use is so ingrained in me. I'm 27, and with one exception have always fucked with a condom since my first sexual experience with a guy when I was 14. Wearing a condom has second nature at this point. My only slip was about five years ago, when I stupidly let a guy I hooked up with fuck me raw. It was dumb, and I agonized for six months over my status. Fortunately, I turned out to be neg. It was a particularly traumatic time for me, and the idea of going through all of that has me riddled with anxiety. We've discussed all of this, and he understands the reasons behind my apprehension. But I think there comes a time in a relationship where you just have to decide to trust your partner. Without trust, what else is there? Any thoughts from guys who have transitioned or have thought about transitioning to condomless sex with their long-term monogamous partner?

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