I sense that I'm being rejected in the sauna/steam room because of my body hair.
It seems like all the gay guys I know and see around are getting it on in the sauna and steam except me. I'm fairly good looking and work out regularly. I'm not one of those queens who runs gets to the gym and never sees the gym floor. I actually work out. Still I'm ignored. I think it's my body hair that has them running for the hills. I have a hairy chest and some hair on my shoulders. I've noticed that all the guys getting laid are smooth, so I'm convinced it's the hair.
I'm going to shave my upper body today and see how things work out tonight. Monday typically gets the most traffic in the sauna/steam, so it'll be the ideal time to try out my new look and see how much cock I can attract. I'll let y'all know how it turns out.
we need pics.
If you are as attractive as you say, normal male body hair is just going to make you much more attractive. This is a secondary male sex trait, and as such it is something that gives sexual excitement and stimulation. Only pedophiles are turned off by secondary sex traits.
I don't think that's true of shoulder and back hair though, R2.
OP, don't go completely smooth. Shave your shoulders and back...and while you're at it, you might as well take care of that unibrow and the jungle growing out of your nose and ears. That's what's making everyone squick.
Agree with R3.
It's probably not the chest hair, assuming it's not grey/gray.
Leave it be for now, but get rid of the shoulder and back hair, unibrow, ear and nose hair and then get back to us.
Thanks for the advice, r3. I had a haircut the other day, and my barber knows to sculpt my eyebrows and clip the nose and ear hair. I don't have any back hair, but maybe the shoulder hair is repulsive to them.
I'd never shave my body hair for anyone.
[quote]Only pedophiles are turned off by secondary sex traits.
Interesting way for you to come out as a pedo, R2, but you're wrong. There are plenty of men who don't want to carry on with a hairy ape, unlike you and your pedo ilk.
It's not the hair, it's your breath.
since you spend more time cruising like the troll that you are, instead of actually exercising, you're no doubt a saggy mooby troll.
Yes, you're a troll and you do not deserve to have sex or any human contact. You're creepy.
It's the thought of a hairy puss-he. Hair is porous, so when rimming, it's like sucking on a shitty stock cube.
I prefer "va-guy-na" to "puss-he," but that's just splitting hairs.
OP, where is this location with high Monday traffic? a gym? banya monday?
[quote]I prefer "va-guy-na" to "puss-he," but that's just splitting hairs.
Don't get me started on split ends. People should use a quality conditioner on anal hair. Preferably a scented one.
I never understood how the completely shaved or waxed look did anything to turn guys on. Naturally smooth is one thing, but anything other than trimming and upkeep is a turnoff.
Actually, you're being rejected because of your dirty ass.
Seriously. So many bitches need to get a washcloth or a loofa/pouf up in that coochie to clean it, and yet they somehow think that a little trickle of water that goes sorta kinda down their back totally makes their ass as fresh and dewy as a mountain stream.
Y'all bitches be STANKIN' - get a washcloth and some soap/shower gel on those nuts and in that ass!
R16, I couldn't agree with you more about the need for cleanliness "down there" but unless someone has dingleberries falling out of his ass, how is one to know if someone is unclean with just a passing glance or quick cruise?
I'm sick of hairy fucks acting like everyone needs to love it and if they don't they don't love a real man. Get a grip.
OP anyone can shave it off, but not everyone can grow it. As R2 pointed out it is a secondary sex trait. I'm a rather hairy guy in my mid 30's and I would never shave my chest, but I do regularly shave my shoulders and upper back, I only trim my chest.
I seriously doubt it's your hairy body that is not getting you any at the gym.
Actually, you are being rejected because they can smell the desperation.
OP, if you're in good shape they may be expecting you to hit on them. You may be a daddy without knowing it.
If you're not a daddy, you may have to sing a few songs and suck off a troll or three before the other meat's willing to try you out.
Should I even bother pointing out that you aren't "supposed" to be hooking up in a public gym? Or be the "this is why they hate us troll"?
Perhaps it is because you look like a transsexual?
[quote]my barber knows to sculpt my eyebrows
R24 got it right.
Trimming a furry brow is one thing, but sculpting? Especially on a hairy guy?
No. Just, no.
Hairy as a zoo ape? OMG - YES, PLEASE!
How about you develop some self-esteem, grow up and get some respect for yourself? Steam room sex is nasty, pervy and completely puerile. I can't believe nobody seems to think they might get some class and standards and cut this shit out. we don't need you to come back in six months all teary-eyed because one of your steam room tricks won't say hi to you on the street and doesn't want to go have coffee with you!
R31 was definitely in that famous painting, "Hissing Eldergay with Clenched Asshole."
Stop trying to make hissing happen, R35.
OP...you are right.
I shaved today, and guess what...it didn't make a damn difference. No takers at all. Now I'm really depressed. Seriously, I don't know why it is. Again, fairly good looking and worked out here, so I can't figure out why the rejection. I want to fit into the gay world, and this actually torments me. My friend says it's probably because they all think I'm straight and afraid to approach me. I don't what to think anymore.
[quote]I'm sick of hairy fucks acting like everyone needs to love it and if they don't they don't love a real man. Get a grip.
Are you serious? Hairy guys are the sexiest, and the most wanted in the gay world.
Truth is, op, you're not good looking.
Good looking people don't have this problem.
R20 has a good point. There's nothing more unattractive.
R36 is right. Someone's trying way too hard.
OP, do you look like a cop?
I never had luck buying drugs because people always said I look like "5-OH' as in "Hawaii 5-0".
Perhaps people think you're a cop looking to make a bust.
I'm telling you, you're going to have to pick someone below your league and suck his dick like you have no standards.
Do you look constipated when you cruise someone? People might mistake your Blue Steel look for a case of constipation.
OP it is NOT the hair, they are just not that into you for other reasons. Take it out and start stroking.
Where are these saunas where people actually have sex? A gay bath house, I get it, but the gym?
"they all think I'm straight"
Not with those eyebrows, Mary.
[R44] i don't think OP is saying actual sex. in almost all gym sauna's i've encountered there's always someone trying to start a little flash tug and pull. maybe a grab and jerk if timing allows. if OP was talking about actual all the way sex, i doubt there would be an air of tension and unsureness. it would just be happening already.
OP, you really have to initiate things. I think you might be giving off signs of disinterest without knowing it. Don't be so hard on yourself.
Join another gym OP! Why would you what a little queen who's ashamed of being a man anyway?
You are going to have to try a different way than sitting in the steam room. Fact of life: some people need to try harder than others. Another fact of life: sculpted eyebrows on guys are hideous.
I've heard whipping it out and saying, "YUM!" works wonders, OP!
Hey OP why do you care about this?
All this prisserie about HAIR. Most homosexual men are strictly Amateur Hour, being led around by purely surface desires. If a real man, even the Ultimate Man, came along they couldn't help but "make a hell of heaven and a heaven of hell" (sorry, Milton).
Actually, you're being rejected because they can smell the desperation.