I have read that they have relationships, break up, go on to other women, etc and all of those women are likely a huge clan or extended family? So, like, a partyful of them means everyone has already slept with everyone else (pretty much)?
Men -- it's a definite: NEXT!
Are you the idiotic "you 'mos" troll? Stopped by to take a few digs at lesbians as well as gay ment?
No. I am being completely serious.
OP, Just ask Martina Navratilova and Rita Mae Brown and Judy Nelson and Fannie Flagg and Susan Flannery.
And probably half a dozen others whose names I've forgotten
Ms. Behavior's book Explains It All For You
Women are big into remaining friends after you've conjoined with them physically, emotionally and spiritually. That goes for straight women too. That "let's be friends" line can be so annoying to a straight guy after a breakup.
Plus it makes pot lucks, kitty adoptions, and ride-sharing sooo much easier.
I wouldn't know anything about that, OP.
Who's making the bread pudding for our next get together?
It's called a daisy chain.
All the Michigan ladies have tasted from the same nutloaf!
No, OP, and you're a cunt.
Maybe I should have went to a better university but this post has left me lost. What is the question?
The question is: is it true that at any lesbian get-together the women have all slept with each?
Not being a lesbian I don't know but I would guess no. One should never use the word all.
Thank you very much!
It has been calculated that, at the present rate of relationship building and disentangling, every lesbian on the planet will be in an active relationship of some type (current love interest, past love interest, working on love interest, returned to love interest, living with ex but dating another love interest, etc.) with every other lesbian on the planet on March 22, 2019.
You have been warned. Christmas gift lists will effectively bankrupt the lesbian community long before that, even though "en masse champagne holiday brunch" represents 42% of all gift giving in this demographic, owing to the difficulty of logistics.
Didn't Alice in The L Word cover this topic with the chart.
I loved that Alice.
Thanks for the laugh, r10!
Maybe in a really small town, but I have never experienced this myself.
You're starting to cross some boundaries OP.
I'm assuming you are gay male pretending to be a woman. If not, I simply asked about a widely-known lesbian stereotype.
yes, maybe in a small town or some claustrophobic group, but that is all. Not a big city thing. And big city people are not "friends" after a break up.
I am. A femme who looks and acts like a straight chick and dates the same
I don't know if this specific issue about Lesbians is true, but I know the do most everything better than us gay guys. I really grateful for that fact.
This is certainly the case in both Portland and Seattle, where I lived.
I don't stay friends with exes - but my position is considered "not playing fair".
R26, did you ever go to the "Wild Rose" in Seattle?
Coincidentally, I am from Seattle myself. Lotsa butch, femmes ... not so much.
It's true, OP. It's true for lesbians who make thoughtful choices in partners to begin with. Our exes stay in our lives, for the most part.
In this case, the stereotype is true. At least for older lesbians.
Seattle and Portlnd lesbians all resemble Frau Merkel.
So were do the most appealing/sexy lesbians live (in the US)?
I would have a hard time getting in a relationship with a woman who is still close with her ex.
I mean WHERE?
My very male very gay ex is best friends with ALL his exes, myself included. We all call him Lesbian Pete behind his back and then compare war stories. He tends to like similar guys, so we all get along. Once the pain of the breakup subsided, it's been sort of fun. Maybe the gals are onto something...
r32 why is that?
I found getting to know my partner's exes quite refreshing. I learned alot about my partner from them, at least what she/they were like before I met them.
Where do the most appealing gay men live? It's a matter of taste. (no pun intended)
Land of the vaGiants.
My album 'Ladies Of The Canyon' was about lesbians, but nobody got it.
I suspect it may be truer for older gals, back in the day when the dating pool was a lot lower. Men traditionally didn't do as much socializing in general.
The dating pool was lower and no one changed the water!
Tiny segment of the population, plus we don't really have the opportunities for no strings sex that men do (because of how women in general are).
That means if you know of an available lesbian already, you go for it, standards and "boundaries" be damned.
How 'ready' is she, really?
Sounds as though you wouldn't mind NSA action with certain ladies yourself, but they are the "oh no, we must process our feelings before, during, and after" types?
There should be prostitues for lesbians or bicurious women. I'm thinking that is a huge market waiting to be explored.
I have a girl-friend who is in her forties and is constantly being hit on by older women, who are obviously widowed. It's at the supermarket, usually. She tells me that the women are kind of aggressive and seem desperate to be touched. I can see why that demographic would rather go for women because any man would be a gigolo and a risk.
I know of a few famous old women who have hired 'assistants' who just happen to be butch lesbians, just a random pick, huh!
It's too bad that lesbians cannot just meet up and have casual relationships and we all know straight chicks would like that too. But hookers that service men by and large are not appealing, yes?
Prostitues is not the answer.
It's just hard to meet people, and the numbers seem smaller for lesbians. Plus everyone is hidden away, no one goes out. Even lesbian bars have closed, probably because of the internet.
I thought lesbians have a wider choice with all those "straight" women who are open to swinging bi on occasion?
I'm trying to picture older gay men hitting on guys at the supermarket, and it just ain't working!
Gay bars in general have closed because its passe to drink--we're all health nuts now.
The key (for gals) is an elite, or at least, sheltered, environment. This meant school or college for most.
Once out in the world, work is the next usual place, but since most professions have been swamped by straight women (and HR was created) asking other women out there has become dangerous. (it just takes one who gets "offended.")
Bars suck, better themed concerts (Lillith Fair was great for young gals to meet each other) but MichFest is too extreme for many.
The elderwomen in the supermarkets have taken the cow by the proverbial horns, but that makes for discomforted younger gals.
Best are conferences. Weekends away from home with a pre-vetted crowd and hotel included.
straight women that want to swing bi are not that many, and they want to do it with other straight women and preferably in front of men
they are not the answer, either
Also, you can't smoke in (most of) them anymore.
I'm bi and I like to stay friends with everyone. If the split isn't amicable or was heartbreaking, I give it time...usually a few years. Never have romantic feelings returned for an ex with whom I've rekindled a friendship or had latent closure. So far, so good. I've been in relationships with mostly men.
You know, I'm gonna stick by my lesbian call girl ring idea, thank you very much.
Okay, so the rich old ladies (many of whom are Jewish gals, by the way) who want to have a nice girlfriend are not going to introduce said pick-up to the family and friends, are they?
Wouldn't they just like to experiment with a nice gal who will hold them while they watch Downtown Abbey?
I'm cordial with my exes, but don't socialize with them. Actually, I wouldn't be caught dead at your super-les potluck scenario.
I've met all of my girlfriends in the paint department at Home Depot. Lesbians love to congregate around the paint mixer machine because of the vibrations. I've known many gals to have screaming orgasms right there in the store.
Just to clarify, what 'type' would lesbians seek out as casual sex partners?
Kate Moss-y, or perhaps a Martina?
I'm just sayin for sex only.
Does pretty eyes matter?i
subject-verb agreement matters, skeev
Ladies, wait one second...
The question is not whether we stay friends with our exes, but if we sleep with our exes' exes: to wit, to use the OP's example, at a party, will all the ladies have slept with everyone.
I personally would never date one of my exes' exes: it gives me the shivers just thinking about it.
When I know too many lesbians in a city and who they slept with, I move...preferably across the country!
I'm not a lesbian, but I've been amidst some social circles where there seems to be SOME truth to this. Meaning, lesbians are bound to at least flirt with each other in an interconnected way; bisexual women hook up with each other in the same network, with no strings attached.
Thanks! That is the stereotype I have read about, where lesbians have serial relationships among a ... closed set, in a "musical chairs" type style, until the partnership possibilities are exhausted.
To give a rather bizarre example among men, I knew a couple where they considered themselves exes (NOT an open relationship, but single); HOWEVER, not only were they roommates, they continued sleeping in the same bed. How's that?
I live in LA and used to have a lesbian cut my hair and would tell me a about her social life. She had dated one of the women who started Girl Bar (I think that's what it was called) and I did get the impression that among her group of upwardly mobile lesbian friends many had shared the same lovers.
lesbians are the new man :)
[quote]I knew a couple where they considered themselves exes (NOT an open relationship, but single); HOWEVER, not only were they roommates, they continued sleeping in the same bed. How's that?
That is quite common among lesbians, at least of the older generation.
One of my lesbian friends was heartbroken when her partner started dating another. They were broken up, but still shared a bed, so my friend still considered them partners.
Thanks R62 -- among men this is downright freakish, as I would consider it if a straight couple did so.
Yes, I have been to the Wild Rose and, in its time, "The Easy."
r63, when lesbian bed death occurs, many lesbians are OK with it. The cuddling and affection remain, and the love remains.
This is why some lesbians are confused as to when/if the break-up occurred.
I knew several straight couples that had separated/divorced but continued to live in the same place and share the bed.
Financial comfort is usually behind all that.
In Sydney, there were a couple of businesses that catered exclusively to women. They claimed to have "classy" lesbian sex workers who would do out calls only, and only do threesomes with all women. They used to advertise in the publication Lesbians on the Loose, aka LOTL. I wonder if the businesses are still going...
well Lesbians are certainly Losers.
Terry Castle mercilessly mocks Alix Dobkin in her essay collection "The Professor."