Well what is there to discuss. I stick my dick in a guys butt and wiggle around for fifteen minutes then I leave. During this time I don't roll over.
I don't get penetrated, orally or anally. Not my thing, dude.
Liars! Every damn one of them!
Is it so wrong to love men's ass?
Love them! Seems it's getting harder to find. Total bottom here now in my 40s. No matter what age, the total tops mostly seem to prefer guys in their 20s.
R5, you have to have-a ass in moderation!
I'm 48 and I only bottomed twice in my life (back in early high school). I hated it and have no desire to ever do that again. Fortunately, most men are bottoms or "versatile" so it's all good for me. I will never willingly get poked again.
Byron M. - Strict Top
R7, ever thought about sex change operation?
R9 You sound like a fatty fat bear.
Strict total tops who will never bottom are highly sought after on dating sites and in personals. Total tops are the Alpha Males who have the pick of the liter.
R11 - No, dude. Far from it. I am tall, thin and in pretty goddamn good shape for my age. Not overly muscular, but lean and tight. I'm not even close to being a "fatty fat bear"
It's stupid how not liking to bottom is supposed to say something "alpha" about you.
I don't believe R3. At least the orally part.
I'm a hung vers bottom and every total top I've met has loved sucking my dick. If I date them long enough, they'll give up the ass too, but they don't get into it as they get into topping.
R7, that makes sense. I imagine it's tough being a bottom after 40. I used to sleep with early 40's guy who after a while told me he used to be a bottom back when he was younger but switched to topping later on. I'm 28 and only bottom for guys over 30. I tend to imagine all 20-something year olds as bottoms regardless of what they say.
But yes total tops are rare. I've had so many "total tops" tell me early on that they'd bottom for me, but only me. I always secretly roll my eyes at them. I will top them but then I'll lose interest.
In most "total top" cases it seems to me it's a mental thing. For example, I was actually a total top myself the first 7 years I was out. I tried bottoming and hated it. It wasn't until my first serious bf when I really started getting into it. Ever since, I've gotten even more into it.
R10, that makes absolutely no sense. Then again, you're probably used to doing that.
R16, why no sense? Total bottoms are just women with penises. Sexually, they're women.
R16, it makes total sense!
Maybe if you hated yourself as much as R10 does, you'd understand.
i wish i enjoyed bottoming. i am turned on by the power play and being in the moment is really hot, but i have hemorrhoids and that makes it difficult to ever fully feel any good. anyone else get around that somehow?
I think there is a difference between guys that top because they dont enjoy how bottoming feels, and guys that like bottoming and topping but only top because it gets them off more mentally.
Some of us are just driven to fuck and love hot ass. Sorry, but it's true.
I don't even think about sucking cock, but get into it with a hot enough connection. Never mind getting fucked. On my bf's birthday and once in the summer is our deal that he can fuck me. He is happy to forget it. Ha. He loves my dick deep inside him as often a day as he can get it. It is only unsatisfied bottoms who don't believe in exclusive tops.
He is black, I am Italian. His cock does not get ignored, butt, but my dick is the boss and his ass needs the action........ why judge?
R21 = heterosexual couple
I hate them. I have a dick, too, so you'd better suck me, kiss me and generally act attracted to me if you want to fuck me. I'm not a human fleshlight, and if you want to use me as one you're getting kicked to the curb.
I've been exclusive top, exclusive bottom, and flip-flop, depending on the relationship.
A lot of it how you "gel" with your guy.
R15, you make the juvenile mistake of thinking your experience and small world are universal. In all likelihood, you and I are very different people who live very distinct lifestyle. Just from what you have said already, I am not the type of person that you would encounter. You think that all men who have sex with men adopt your tastes and preferences, although in fact that are a huge number who do not. You should at least be aware that any most cultures, there are still strict, nonflexible Roles in male-male encounters, especially in Latin America, the Caribbean, the Middle East, parts of Esstern Europe, and amongst urban African Americans and Latinos. Some penetrate only, others only get penetrated. And we like it this way..,
I kind of get R20's post. Being a total bottom, I usually end up with exclusive tops. There are some who make it about being in charge and the bottom being the "woman" in the situation. I like guys like R21 who just love ass and are all about it. One of my buds is like that and he doesn't get into all the crap about being the dominant one, and he's an older guy, too. Seems like more older tops are like that, so glad to have found my bud!
r21 = Mario Cantone!
R23, that's not a total top, that's a douchebag. Real total tops are into kissing, and sucking, they just aren't into getting royally fucked.
R25, also these "cultures" have the highest rates of homophobia. I wonder why?
i'm a top when it cums to fucking -
but a very oral bottom...
just acn;t take being fucked - tried a coupla times years ago with a close buddy - cannot get my head around it! had a bad experience when i was very young - not rape or molestation - but the family doctor digitally examined my rectum - and it HURT - and anytime something other than a tongue goes near my hole - it just closes up for business.
I suppose i could really work on likeling it - but I like other guy's arses too much. Love to kiss, and LOVE to suck cock and eat arse... love using my mouth - and really important to me that my bottom buddies are satisfied as well...
i'm late forties - tall - medium build - not a gym buddy - but not a fatty either - just average body & looks i think - but don't get many knockbacks -
I like a briad varietry of guys - and get to have meets with men in their early twenties thru to fifties. Lotsa repeat visits too - so muct be something right :)
R25, I disagree. I'm from a different culture myself (one you listed) and think you are way off.
In many of the countries you listed, there's an even larger degree of homophobia then here. Many of those "total tops" are not "total tops" because that's who they are, they claim that because it makes them feel less gay. In fact, as someone who is a foreigner and has traveled to many of the places you listed, those so called "total tops" will bottom on the down-low. Many of those "total tops" don't even consider themselves gay unless they bottom. You meaning to tell me that not sucking dick and not getting fucked makes you NOT gay?
And when did I say ALL gay men have my preferences. I know plenty who don't even like anal, and I believe them. The only thing I disagreed with you about was that you said you don't even suck dick. Maybe you don't, but imo, that probably has to do more with self-loathing than anything else. That's like a "straight" guy who thinks pussy is yucky.
Trust me, I've met plenty of total tops, and not one of them was opposed to sucking my dick, they were just opposed to getting fucked.
I used to enjoy a pretty active sex life, but then I stopped drinking, and now any type of anal intercourse seems ... gross.
If there were no alcohol, there would be a lot less anal sex in this world.
I don't enjoy bottoming. I've tried a few times and I can still be convinced to do it occasionally I just have way more fun topping. Nothing more complicated than that for me.
What makes you think that my partner and I don't kiss and make out like crazy. I could lick him all day. But it is he who needs fucking and me who wants that ass !!
We are not a heterosexual couple either, and I don't know who Mario Cantone is.
We are happy and try not to judge, but we both come from a culture of strong masculine identity and we know enough to avoid the fags that always want to label a happy and hot gay couple in some political or sexual way, in attempt to bring them down. Such bitterness masking as liberation.
Not gonna work. Say what you want.
It is a diverse world and not everything is for everyone. Accept that fact.
R15, R31, Does "self-loathing" just mean that I don't want to be homosexual, but I have to accept it because there is nothing else that I can do about it? I don't hate myself, I just hate the fact that I am homosexual. I am neither a "top" nor a "bottom". I don't engage in anal sex at all, and it is disgusting to think about it. All I really like is for a goodlooking man to suck me off. And the looks are not that important. I used to go to bathhouses and get head from a dozen men in one night, no matter what they looked like. Of course, I did not get off for all of them, and if I got off after the first few times, it would be a dry orgasm. The fact that I don't do anal is why I am still alive, because I've been an out-of-control slut during periods of my life.
R34, so how musculine does your bitch feels about being an exclusive vagina for you super-macho italian ego?
R34, my ex and I were just like that. He was a top and I was a bottom. He needed ass and I needed dick. We never gave a shit about what others thought of our relationship. Fuck 'em. We had lots of problems, but our sex life couldn't have been better.
R36, Exodus International awaits you.
I might loan out a T-shirt or polo, but the dress shirts are custom-tailored.
I've already tried all of that, R39. I must accept that which I can not change.
R41, you can always cut off your balls.
Knowing the bottom is getting his sexual peak by me hitting that sweet spot DEEP in that ass is enough for me...
The physical part of feeling a phat ass on my dick is just the icing on the cake!
You don't need some huge chip on your shoulder R36, so you aren't into anal. Not every gay man is, hell there was some big poll that showed of gay men's last sexual encounter only like 35% of them even had anal sex.
Do all of you exclusive tops only date younger men? If I were to believe the DL, I would have to officially put up my bottoming shoes in about 8 years when I hit 40.
My pussy stinks.
I welcome all exclusive tops. Ever since the prolapse I haven't been getting as much. Any takers?
Worn Out Bottom
Total top here and just slightly under 40 and prefer men in their early 40's. I don't want to fuck children.
I'm a 28 year old total bottom who is dreading turning 30 and having to become a top. Maybe I'll switch to oral only. I just don't like to fuck, it's not my thing. Now you can drive a freight train up my hungry hole and I'll purr like a tabby cat, but I'm just no good at fucking.
I'm with r21 and r43. It's just what I want. But I don't have a chip on my shoulder or feel like I need to brag about it or anything.
I'm a total top if I'm just hooking up, but I'm willing to be a bit flexible if I'm in a relationship with a guy. Bottoming just doesn't turn me on, and I don't get very excited about giving head either. I do it, and sometimes I enjoy it (especially if I really like him), but I don't get as excited about giving head as a lot of guys do.
I would love to be with a total bottom who never wants to top ever, but being on top all the time is less important to me than having a good connection with a potential boyfriend.
They are too few and those I have met are complete -- assholes.
OP/R35, you can hang up your shoes already. Your ass is worn out.
R49 when you turn 35 I will fuck you...you are still young for me.
Why does youth = bottom?
R55 I don't know when, but every single 20 something I have met in the past decade has describe himself as a 'total bottom'.
Honey child, there's no such thing. Every "exclusive top" I've brought home has ended up riding my peen and screaming like a bitch the whole time. Anyone who says they only top is a liar and very insecure with themselves. I'm totally versatile and proud of it. People need to get over it and quit lying to themselves. Please.
Your experience is yours alone and does not take into account all the millions of men worldwide whom you have not taken home.
I would never ride your cock, or anyone's for that matter.
But since I would never go home with a guy like you, you won't find out.
you type like a slut.
People who don't believe in total tops are bottoms in denial. They feel bad about being a bottom so they lead themselves to believe that everyone likes bottoming just as much. So stop projecting your insecurities onto others R57.
Maybe if you didn't sound like a total bitchy elder-queen you'd attract a different set of guys. Seriously, who goes around saying honey child?
I'm masc, hung and a bottom. Every once in a while I'll hook up with a "total top" that suddenly becomes vers when he sees my dick, but I've dated plenty of total tops that didn't care to get fucked no matter what.
R51, no offense but you don't sound like a total top at all. Sounds like you enjoy bottoming too much. You say you're only a total top if you're not that attracted to the guy but you're more than willing to do it if you do find the guy attractive? Sounds like you need to stop hooking up with guys you don't even like.
Judging by Internet sites and profiles, total tops are on huge demand. So many guys looking for guys they can just "service" with a
absolutely no reciprocation.
Versatile here. One thing I've always wondered is that if you are an exclusive top, why does it matter if you are fucking a guy's hole or a girl's hole. Gender shouldn't matter if all you can deal with is hole.
When I'm attracted to a man, I want his dick but I want him to want mine too. Otherwise I'm just his blow up doll and that was only hot when my self esteem was lower.
i only top, live in NYC, and only seem to come across vers and vers/tops. i hear people saying their are too many bottoms and that tops are in demand....where they at?
Before you get to the hole as you call it you have to deal with the person.
Romantic attraction is part of the package.
If a girl would just spread her legs and give up her hole, I would fuck it. However girls rarely to that. Men do.
R63 we are here, we are just not that into you.
I will turn 60 this year. I have been sexually active since I was 13. I have NEVER bottomed and NEVER will. It does not appeal to me. I respect bottoms and versatiles, but being poked up my backside does not hold any place in my life. Never has, never will.
, or maybe your prolapsed hole dragging on the ground is keeping you from walking out of your home
R62, that's not a total top, that's an insecure asshole you are describing.
If a total top won't kiss or suck, then he's messed up in the head with insecurity issues. The total tops I've met loved kissing, sucking my dick, and licking every part of my body. The only thing that did NOT want to do was get fucked.
R66, I'm shocked nobody wants to fuck you old saggy ass.
The so-called "total bottom" has some sort of psychological impotence which prevents him from being able to penetrate. I suspect it is caused by some sort of gender conformity syndrome where they see themselves as female in sexual matters. They often refer to their assholes as "boi pussy" or "mussy" or some such foolishness. And some of them will refer to their dicks as "clits". I go ahead and have sex with them if they are goodlooking, because I am very promiscuous, but it is somewhat of a turnoff. I am also rather embarrassed to be out in public with someone who is very gender nonconformist. But I like to fuck people so I go ahead and keep company with them.
Exclusive tops are complete fiction.
R71 is complete fiction.
Doesn't "total top" mean a dude who only penetrated, orally and anally. Can you be a total top and suck?
R60, When I said I sometimes enjoy "it" especially when I really like a guy, I was talking about giving head, not bottoming. Bottoming doesn't ever turn me on, but I'm willing to do it occasionally if I'm in a relationship.
I have never heard a guy say he has a clit. What kind of guys do you hang around?
R70, why are you promiscuous, man?
[quote]Romantic attraction is part of the package. If a girl would just spread her legs and give up her hole, I would fuck it. However girls rarely to that. Men do.
So what you define as romantic attraction is actually just ease of hole accessibility.
R76, I think that the reason that I am promiscuous is that I grew up with very low self esteem, and I thought that nobody would ever want to have sex with me. When I found out that many men do in fact want to get it on with me, I very quickly go addicted to it. It is an ego boost.
R73, total top means they don't like getting fucked. That's it.
A gay guy that doesn't like to suck dick is messed up in the head and insecure of his sexuality. That's like a straight man that is scared of pussy or boobs.
For example, go to the homophobic middle east. You'll find tons of closeted homos who think fucking a guy doesn't make them gay but sucking a dick does.
R70, you sound like a complete self-loathing loser who only attracts other self-loathing losers.
R74, my bad...
R77...hey it helps.
Actually, my ass doesn't sag at all (it's very firm). I am very fit. Remember, I wasn't always an "elder-gay". I had a beautiful ass in my youth, and it's still not bad today. As a matter of fact, I was quite the twink in the 60s and 70s. Live your life right (don't bareback, don't use drugs, don't over-drink, exercise regularly, eat healthy), and maybe you will live to be 60. I am healthy, happy and I hope to live to be 100. You are young now, but time moves quickly and in no time you will be older. Time goes very fast. And, no worry, son. I am not into younger men, so you will never have to deal with me. Peace.
I've said my piece, I disagree that the rigid constraints one places on themselves is healthy or good, but to each his own. My life doesn't change if people out there want a fucked up version of their sexuality.
I wish someone would do a study to determine which preference (top/bottom/versatile) most likely exists in LTRs. Couples that have been together for generations and are interviewed tend to talk about sacrificing for each other, working to meet each other's needs, compromise, etc. Not a one of them says something like "I just won't do that."
It seems the only 'exclusive tops' and 'exclusive subs' in LTRs are in BDSM relationships, which looks sad when you both turn grey and wrinkly.
I am in a LTR (30 years and monogamous) and I find BDSM to be disgusting.
r82, that works for YOU, dude. Everyone is not like you.
I consider myself (in my mid 30's) a nearly exclusive top but I guess it would depend on the guy I was with since compatibility seems to be a fluid thing, much like human sexuality. When it comes to meeting guys or hooking up I'm an exclusive top, but were I in a relationship and my partner wanted to top me I would likely be fine with that so long as it wasn't 100% of the time.
There was a time when I was truly versatile in my 20's and I enjoyed bottoming, but I grew out of it for some reason and after enough experience (yeah I'll fully admit I'm a whore) I have decided the top bunk suits me better.
I agree that in the gay community it seems that tops are in short supply, but then I've never minded the plethora of willing bottoms. Even ones who aren't in thier 20's.
Can you ever be totally anything forever?
r79, do think a bisexual guy who doesn't suck dick is messed up too? You have a lot of expectations about sexual activity based merely on sexual orientation.
Wikipedia: "A total top is one who assumes an exclusively penetrative role for both oral and anal sex. A total top by definition never assumes a receptive role for either oral or anal sex."
Wikipedia: No scientific study has ever been conducted as to what percentage of the gay and bisexual male population prefers any given role. The popular assumption is that the majority prefer to bottom and that those that prefer to top are in the minority. A tally of 55,464 profiles on gay.com from the United States showed that 26.46% preferred top, while 31.92% preferred bottom, and the largest group (41.62%) preferred versatile. The preferences seemed to vary by state, however. In Wyoming, for example, 16% preferred top, 44% preferred bottom, and 40% preferred versatile. In West Virginia, tops outnumbered bottoms by a slim margin (32% top, 29% bottom, and 39% versatile). In Oregon, "versatile" profiles made up nearly half (48.42%). Prior to the 1970s in the US, the ratio was reversed.
R86, yes. If you like men, that means you like dick. Maybe not up your ass but you like it. Do you ever hear a straight guy saying he doesn't like pussy or boobs?
R87, well, that's settled. I can imagine you going around discussing issues by saying: Well I disagree with you because wikipedia told me so. Anyone can edit wiki, you do know that? I could go on there and type that a total top is a person with no legs and you'd probably believe it.
I'm 29 and I find the idea of anal sex (dominant and submissive) to be disgusting. To each their own, but I don't play with shit. I love oral and frottage, but leave the butt out.
Total top 4 Oral bttm - 38 (flagstaff )
Date: 2012-12-31, 10:56PM MST
I'm looking for ONE guy to have a trustful, safe and discrete understanding with. . In public straight looking and straight acting. In private, I want total submissive perfect girl. Just want to make you happy and hopefully...... Really totally fulfilled sexually and emotionally. Send picture and tell me something about yourself.
Myself im 38, black male. Career oriented, considering moving back up to the mountains.
Currently in L.A. and wants a slower pase, no drama, bs. Just good relaxing times.
Anybody can write anything on Wikipedia. I wish the men on this anonymous website would just tell the truth about their sexual practices so that we could learn and understand the variety of human sexuality a little better. But we have people on here trying to criticize and put down people for telling what their practices and preferences happen to be. R79 in particular seems to get some pleasure out of saying there is something wrong with people who are not just like him, particularly in the cock-sucking department.
R90 & R92: There are lots of gays who are not into the buttsex. I find it to be undesirable as well. I have done it, but I prefer other things. Too messy and too much trouble. Shit is gross.
R85 sounds mature, logical and hot.
Total bottom and proud of it
Married Visiting Total Top for Country Boy bottom - 35 (Americus for work)
Date: 2012-11-25, 5:52PM EST
masc hung thick top 8+ for clean neg country boy bottom.. prefer other married dudes. here till next friday for work can host or some travel
clean discreet bottom is what im lookng for... 6f4.......200
if your new to it cool can go very slow.. not looking for complainers
r89, the fact that many men who have sex with men are not into sucking dick (or being penetrated) means that your theory that all men who are into men must like dick is erroneous. The evidence contradicts your theory. Likewise, you have no evidence to support your incorrect definition of total top.
R97 if your links to craigslist are trying to prove that tops and bottoms can rarely be more than two ships passing in the night, then consider your work done.
R96 thanks! And you should be proud!
r100, I am not out to prove anything about the duration of such couplings, only about the fact they exist, and in fact, are often sought. At any rate, it is not like there are not plenty of total bottoms out there who appreciate total tops.
R94, thinks it's ok for a gay guy not to like dick, but ignores how you will NEVER find a straight man who doesn't like pussy or boobs. Can you imagine a straight guy saying: I don't like a woman's boobs or pussy, I just like fucking it.
R90/92/95, sound like idiots who think if you like anal then you must like shit. You do realize you can clean yourself right? I mean if you said you're oral only because anal doesn't do it for you, than I understand that, but you sound like idiots when you imply liking anal means liking shit.
You know what I think? I think you're all fucked in the head!
Butts are gross
[quote]Anybody can write anything on Wikipedia.
And then it goes through a verification process and is clearly noted that it's pending verification. Wikipedia is pretty reliable, it's not like anybody can just say whatever they want and it sticks.
Wikipedia is much more reliable than people on this board just making generalizations from their own limited perspective.
r70 you are freaky just like those 'total bottoms' you fuck. But you are embarrassed that you are like that.
What you and some posters havent said is that in order to have really good sex you have to get off psychologically too. Most guys get caught up on the physicality of it. You can be a good sex partner like that, but to be a great lay you have to get inside the head too. That is how you make a guy your fuck slave!
I dont think I would like topping so much if I never liked bottoming before. Since I know the feeling Im giving the bottom it makes the sex more enjoyable for me.
R70 is the definition of self-loathing.
I imagine that exclusive tops are like the Coneheads: no ass crack.
Most men that I know who identify as total tops also tend to be more the "man" in other areas of their romantic relationships with other men. They tend to be older, more masculine, more likely to drive, etc. then their partners. Does this ring true for DL total tops? I wonder if there is a natural correlation between total tops and a desire or predilection for also being the "man" (I realize that word is controversial, but you know what I mean) in ways other than fucking.
I think the slight gender-bending thing is hot. I don't like a noisy bitch, but sweet guys who like to play girl in bed are fine with me.
R112= closeted hetero
R113= exclusive bottom w bottom shame
Whiny bottoms who complain about what you call their pussies need to be choked while they are fucked into submission!
They are all truly the biggest bores in the sack
Do exclusive tops actually like for dudes to describe their butts as a "boypussy?" I am not asking whether versatile or versatile tops like it, but only asking total exclusive strict tops.
The exclusive tops I've had sex with liked it that I was masculine, R117. They might be willing to be play along with boy pussy nonsense, but I haven't met one who really was turned on by it.
I know a fellow who ONLY wants the other guy to suck him off; that's to be their sex life as a couple. Period.
Sounds like a real catch.
If a guy is into it, has a nice ass, and tells me to fuck his "boypussy", I think it's hot.
So sue me.
Any boypossy talk or just in general acting in an incredibly feminine manner tends to be a turn off for me.
In my experience, masculine gay guys tend to prefer other masculine gay guys. Not always of course, but there is truth to the cliche that gay couples tend to be similar in looks in personality.
I'm a total top have been for years. I used to get fucked every now and then and the idea of it isn't unappealing at times now. As I have gotten older I have become very susceptible to getting hemorrhoids so I have to be very careful with my ass, or pay the price.
I think a lot of guys who are adamant about being tops to the point of getting upset if you call them a bottom even in jest have mental/emotional issues and these 'dudes' aren't rare.
R123, what type of guys do you go for? Younger guys? Guys smaller than you? Guys who want you to be the "man" in ways beyond topping? Sorry to be so nosy...
Yeah, but who doesn't have "mental/emotional issues." The issue is how he handles them, like with desperate overcompensation about his boipussy.
I had to make my partner a total top. It took a few years, but I did it. He also does the driving and the yardwork; I cook and do the laundry. He is older with a bigger dick, but I am taller and make more money.
I'm sure your partner appreciates you trying to limit his sex life in order to conform to your cliche box about what a sex life between two men should look like R126.
If you know he likes to bottom sometimes you should indulge that, relationships are give and take. By not doing so you are encouraging him to stray.
Personally, I'm not into bottoms who want to more or less "be the woman" outside of bed. I'm not into sexual dynamics running over into real life.
I just can't do it, r127. Can't get hard for it. We manage.
[quote]I had to make my partner a total top. It took a few years, but I did it. He also does the driving and the yardwork; I cook and do the laundry. He is older with a bigger dick, but I am taller and make more money.
R126 is the ULTIMATE bossy bottom
R126 sounds like a wild control freak, with said partner being a wimp with low self-esteem.
Just my two cents.
In a strange twist, R126 is kind of acting very toppy: Do what I say, bitch! Fuck me! And drive the car!
The man just told you that he can't do it, his dick does not get hard for asshole penetration. What part of that do you not understand? If he has a man who likes to fuck him, what are all you uninvolved characters complaining about? It takes all sorts of people to make a world, we did not all get stamped out of a cookie cutter machine.
R133 thank you for your kindness. R132, I've been called a pussywhipper before!
I really like watching fucking in porn especially videos where the guys flip-flop and they're both really into it but the few times I've fucked a guy I just wasn't into it. I don't know if it's nerves but I've never gotten anywhere close to climaxing while fucking, The condom doesn't help either in that regard but I'd never fuck without one. So needless to say I'm mostly into oral.
R122, it depends. A lot of urban thug guys who are in DL like boypussy talk from bottoms because it makes them feel like they are more manly and downplays the notion they are really getting with a man. Notice how in prison bottoms are feminized do as to exalt tops as more manly. The same dynamic goes on with other subgroups of MSMs.
Michael Lucas is one.
I think there are alot of wishful thinkers on this thread. Most of you are bottoms and need to own up to it. If you are strictly a top then post your hole and let me/us be the judge.
In general, don't most bottoms tend to have smaller or smallish dicks?
Fuck me like your bitch
Jeff Stryker is basically only a top, although there are rumors that he has tried bottoming a couple of times off-screen in his personal life.
I'm tired, have to go to bed. I need better arch supports in my shoes. I'll touch base with you guys tomorrow.
R143 go to a foot doctor. pay the $250 for orthotics to be made. It will change your life!
R!42 I saw Stryker bottom once in a film with his then bf. He was in a prison scene I think. And I recall it was an anniversary tape I had of his best work. Showed his original dick slinging shower audition as well.
Boi Pussy under 30 but over 18 is da bomb!
R145, Stryker has never bottomed on film to my knowledge.
Stryker never bottomed and did not have a boyfriend while in the business if ever.
yR147 & R148 - Yes, he has. I wish I could remember the tape...it was a video tape so it was about 10-13 years that I rented it. I think it was his 10th Anniversary tape. One does not forget that payday!
R149, Stryker did not bottom on film. He sucked cock in that return anniversary video, but that's as far as he ever went.
I remember a scene where he inserted a tiny dildo in his ass. It was some release like Jeff Stryker's Hollywood Nights or something like that.
never heard of that, r151
My lover is a total top. I tried penetrating him last night and we tried. I'm not what you would consider "Big" but after I finally got it in he complained loudly that it hurt. I told him to relax and enjoy it but it didn't happen. I finally withdrew and we switched places. I love him very much and it really didn't matter what we did in bed as long as he was by my side; however, he has a beautiful bubble but that is so fuckable that I HAD to try.
Versatile Man Meat
Luke Macfarlane is an exclusive top.
exclusive tops are just men that are ashamed of their ugly asses.
How do you know, R154?
Tops prefer ripe, firm asses.
I'm a top, I just don't want anything in my ass period. I don't enjoy it. It's almost offensive that people think everyone gay likes anal, please.
R158, so as a top, you don't like anal?
Just because you sit on it, doesn't mean your a top, dear.
[quote]doesn't mean your a top
How humiliating for you.
Nice try twisting my statement, R159. Did I state that I didn't like anal? I said it was offensive that people think everyone gay likes anal. I said that I'm a top, wouldn't that pertain to anal sex? Get a grip.
I never really had a choice in my top/bottom role,I developed an anal fisher as a child and anyone whose had one knows they are excruciatingly painful, so the idea of sticking anything up my ass has filled me with terror ever since!
R158, why are you so angry? What are you trying to prove?
Sweetie R163, they are fissures, not fishers.
[quote]I developed an anal fisher as a child
Black tops are the best.
R167 = Lindsey Graham, fantasizing about his new Senate colleague, Tim Scott
I like to do both, ideally on the same date, but I seem to only attract bottoms in their 20's. I can't quite figure it out. So I'm a top by default.
I love being a top and banging some hot ass.
Being a top is a lot of work and so I am putting a shout out for all you bottoms to help...become power bottoms and MOVE THAT ASS! That's right. Don't just lie there. Pump my cock, milk it and grind it. Shove it in. And ride it up and down like a little bitch.
so do I, but I love switching it up too
...which reminds me. We need a thread on how to have great gay sex whether as a top or a bottom. Tips, etc.
r171, I guess being a total top is a lot of work, but the overwhelming majority of men that will ever exist will only penetrate for all of their lives, and I think they are fine with that. I don't bottom, but I imagine that being a bottom is actually more taxing because of the preparation involved, the horrible pain, and the psychological issues associated with a man being penetrated. I think bottoms are the brave ones.
[quote]and the psychological issues associated with a man being penetrated.
Exclusive tops is the definition of an oxymoron isn't it?
R171 - They (bottoms) love, love, love it in my experience. Its only requires bravery the first time. After that...it's on baby!
[quote]the horrible pain
Hurts so good
Cmon baby, make it hurt so good!
Sometimes love don't feel like it should...
Hurts so good.
Yep not all bottoms are good bottoms. Some dudes are just better at taking dick than other ones...I have no time for a bottom bitch that is so uptight you cant call his hole a pussy sometimes
The concept of someone being "a top" or "a bottom" is exclusively an e-ffeminate concoction.
Normal guys just have sex and don't think in such freakish absolutes.
Being in the middle is hot (fucking while being fucked)
Eldergay here. When I first started messing with men, most wanted to be topped. Those few who wanted me to bottom were usually hung. I just always found being a bottom hurt. I got no sexual pleasure out of it.
OTOH, I've fucked guys so well they were able to cum without touching themselves.
It's very telling that the 5 remaining friends I have from my youth in the 70s are all tops. And all of us are HIV-.
R181- I think being in the middle being fucked and blowing whilst on all fours would be hot too. Or maybe combine your idea and mine...wowza!
Is it true that Zachary Quinto is a top?
"normal" men want to fuck, that is what we are built for.
it takes one to know one. and so total tops are lousy at their job and don't even know it. the total bottoms must be getting off on the purely psychological aspect because the ones i've been with are some lousy fucks.
Are short dudes doomed to be total bottoms?
I'm looking for the lick it before you stick it type. That's my definition of a True Top! If He Eats It Good......Then I really give it to him. Orally and Anally.
WestCoast/LA=Land Of The Bottoms
EastCoast/NY=Land Of The Tops
We need to start flying and moving coastal often ya'll!!
Zach Quinto does top, but no guarantee he does it exclusively.
Exclusive tops never have bottomed and never will. The thought of bottoming is unfathomable to an exclusive top.
There are two types of gay men: bottoms and liars
Can an exclusive total top suck a dude and still be an exclusive top?
R196, sure. Exclusive top is just about ass fucking. I've been with a few exclusive tops who would suck dick, but weren't good at it, nor were they enthusiastic about doing it. This was a total turn to me.
This is the only kind of top I like. I also prefer that they do not want to suck cock or want to do any kind of reciprocation.
Dick has never done anything for me. I like to know that it's there, but I have no desire to suck it or allow someone to fuck me. I like ass, male ass. I've always been this way.
I knew I liked boys at a young age and even then I knew I liked male butts and not dicks. I like to fuck ass and get sucked ( and depending on the guy and our relationship, rim and kiss). It's just the way I am, it's what I like. I'm not trying to prove anything. I don't think being a top is better or worse, it's just my preference. I love bottoms, particularly total/exclusive bottoms.
I love R199.
OP sounds like a bossy bottom.
bossy tops are rare.
I'm confused by this thread. Everyone here is talking as though enjoying bottoming is a natural phenomenon... Has it been for most people here? For me, it was not, and I've always assumed that that was universal, considering that anal insertion is (for lack of a better term) an unnatural act. Bottoming was a counter-intuitive behavior that, once I figured out what the hell I was doing via practice and being with skilled tops, eventually became enjoyable.
Currently, I consider myself versatile and only seek the same... My inclination to top or bottom varies with my mood. I find both can be equally satisfying. It's my belief that people who are "total tops" have an unfortunate mental block preventing them from gaining the fullest experience of their sexuality. I don't see why this wouldn't be the case unless they didn't have a properly functioning prostate.
Additionally, I don't understand what sort of prosaic mindset would prevent someone from WANTING to figure it out and see what all the hype is about. Bottoming truly makes for some intense orgasms...
A study published in the April 2013 journal Archives of Sexual Behavior examined the perception of 'to' and 'bottom' roles in gay couples:
In intercourse between men, one of the partners typically assumes the role of an insertive partner (top) while the other assumes a receptive role (bottom). Although some research suggests that the perceptions of potential partners' sexual roles in gay men's relationships can affect whether a man will adopt the role of top or bottom during sexual intercourse, it remains unclear whether sexual roles could be perceived accurately by naïve observers.
In Study 1, we found that naïve observers were able to discern men's sexual roles from photos of their faces with accuracy that was significantly greater than chance guessing.
Moreover, in Study 2, we determined that the relationship between men's perceived and actual sexual roles was mediated by perceived masculinity. Together, these results suggest that people rely on perceptions of characteristics relevant to stereotypical male-female gender roles and heterosexual relationships to accurately infer sexual roles in same-sex relationships. Thus, same-sex relationships and sexual behavior may be perceptually framed, understood, and possibly structured in ways similar to stereotypes about opposite-sex relationships, suggesting that people may rely on these inferences to form accurate perceptions.
If there is a nuclear holocaust, exclusive tops should be given first priority for evacuation and safety. There are way too many bottoms.
[quote] anal insertion is (for lack of a better term) an unnatural act.
seems natural to me, a hole and a pole
Political correctness can't change the hard-wired inclination to assign significance to gender roles and masculinity. It effects not just sexual behavior, but most of life's interactions.
which is fine with me, within reason
Why are so many tops today non-verbal?
I tell everyone I'm a strict top because I am too lazy to do all that anal douching stuff (who has the fucking time?). I would be too embarrassed for a guy to go in with me unprepped, so I just say fuck it. I have a nice dick and I like to use it, so I'm happy.
R213 At least you're honest.
Quiet tops are the worst
Verbal tops are the best.
The 80s and 90s were the heyporn for porn exclusive tops. Today, we don't have nearly as many.
I was a bottom until I found out I liked topping when I was 22. Then I hooked up with a guy who wanted a top only. So for seven years I was a top. I don't like getting fucked. It has never been comfortable. My last lover told me it was a "power" thing for me, but he was wrong. It just fuckin hurts. I'm amazed people like it. I don't care for much talk. I like to get down to business. But this one boyfriend, he'd say stuff like "Go for it." That was hot.
Ive tried to bottom, honestly I have. It was either really painful or just didnt do a thing for me. But I love to fuck, I mean I REALLY LOVE TO FUCK. Apparently I'm pretty good at it. I have a big dick and my ex used to cum from just being fucked by me without touching himself. Thats really mind blowing to see.
It's a total top's world.
It's weird how whenever someone describes fucking a guy and making him cum hands-free, it's always an ex.
[quote]It's weird how whenever someone describes fucking a guy and making him cum hands-free, it's always an ex.
You've never cum without hands r222?
[quote]It's a total top's world.
then it isn't my world, I find them extremely tiresome
r224, that just means more total tops for bottoms to grovel for.
exclusive tops are the bi Alpha Males everyone is looking for on Craigslist.
No sexual act duller than bottoming
Exclusive TOPS tend to be bisexual. And HOT!
[quote]Exclusive TOPS tend to be bisexual. And HOT!
True, they usually fuck so good they can go back from from ass to pussy and back again and their lovers dont care
I just find anal sex painful. It takes FOREVER for a guy to work one finger in, then two, then slowly open me up until a dick can go in without being intensely painful. Like half an hour or so of working it. It's rare that I can find any dildo that is thin enough to work without significant pain. Even small, thin butt plugs hurt like hell and take a good 5-10 minutes of working it with tons of lube to actually get it in.
I just don't know how bottoms do it. When I see a guy just shove his cock in all at once in porn, I have to believe that they've been working up to that for half an hour...
r231, it's a mental thing. If you really wanted to get fucked and you are lubed enough, you feel nothing but pure ecstasy once the dick is in.
R232, I'm not talking about "once the dick is in". Once it's in, it's okay. But it's 20-30 minutes of torture to get to that point...
Yes, they exist. As do exclusive bottoms, genuinely versatile guys, asexual men, bisexual men, men who only get turned on by certain sex acts, men who are most turned on by doing things they've never done before, fetishists, etc.
Along with a great many of us who are tired of trying to convince a great many on DL that there are a great many types of sexuality than are somehow not dreamed of in your quite limited imaginations.
Which city has the most exclusive TOPS?
R7 I'm a total top and I love total bottoms in their 40s. My bf is one
Sean Cody Abe is giving Brandon a run for his money as the Alpha Male King.
Paddy O'Brien is gonna bottom!
I have 4 friends still alive since we met during the Disco years. All of them are/were tops. Most of the people I knew were infected before anyone knew unsafe butt sex caused HIV. Some died within months, others lingered for years.
Will Brandon finally bottom this week?
My college roommate was a beautiful German guy with a beautiful cock. He preferred to bottom.
It was funny to hear him talk about how many "total tops" all of sudden weren't so "total" when they saw him naked.
My own experience with bi-sexual men is they tended to be bottoms - wanting something totally different than sex with a a woman.
I wonder why exclusive tops would ever want to compromise their status by being versatile even once. The total top is the Apex Male amongst M4M.
The total top is the most boring lover, I avoid them
r244, you are in the minority, man. See Craigslist.
Total tops tend to be most masculine
DC is not a good place is you are looking for total exclusive masculine tops.
total top means huge issues and boring
r248, and yet so many dudes are looking for total tops. there must be something attractive them to a lot of people.
not in my neighborhood. many guys love getting fucked but no one I know Needs a "total top"
where do you live, r250? online, there is a lot of demand for total tops.
I never will bottom. Not my thing.
Why do some gay guys think they're so masculine because they're total tops?
gays are dumb-dumbs. getting fucked means you can fuck better, sorry.
I prefer total bottoms in their 40s in my age bracket, R7. Call me.
Actually, a search of personals ads will find that exclusive tops are very much sought out. Total Tops are the most prized role position in all of the m4m world.
I can't say I am an exclusive top but I sure love total bottoms the best.
what is a versatile TOP?
90% of the 'total tops' I've known, all have masculinity issues. Entirely fucked in the head, and oblivious to their own shortcomings with reality.
you sound like you have issues, r262
Blasting total tops rock!
Not exclusive by choice; the fact that my wrist thick 8 incher can provide so much pleasure and I know my my way around the male anatomy makes me want to try bottoming. Every time I try it, no matter how skilled the partner, I just don't enjoy the feeling.
ETs are the most sought out and desired guys in the gay and bi make world.
SC Brandon is friggin hot
Exclusive tops rule
My exclusive line of stylish tops is now on sale at your local Kmart!
Three friends who insisted they were "exclusive tops" have or have died of AIDS. I thought tops didn't get AIDS.
Brandon is my perfect dude. All man, muscular, plays sports, a dude bro, and a forever top only!
I tried very hard to bottom .. can not do it. But I love men's asses, and if I may say since this is anonymous and all, I have brought a LOT of deep pleasure to a great number of them. So many yet to go.
Forever exclusive tops are the Alpha Males, especially if buff.
I don't enjoy bottoming but my husband loves being a bottom. He doesn't like topping. Are we freaks DL?
I see the asshole thread-bumper is back.
what is a total top?
Arabs tend to be total tops.
r292, grow up, dude.
Post some from social media and Craigslist.
Exclusive tops rule. They are the Alpha Males, bro!
the most wanted bi/gay dudes
Hot Alpha Male bros are always desired
I am a top now, I've been vers before but I enjoy topping. Luckily my husband is a bottom and he doesn't enjoy being a top. He is my equal in every way. If he really wanted to fuck me I'd let him. He hasn't asked yet.
THEY'RE NOT GAY.
Idiot thread bumper is back, I see.
Love and lust with tops means never having to say your sorry
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