I've known several guys who couldn't keep an erection when they tried to top. Others said they don't want to try topping at all.
Can any of you who can't/won't top explain to me why?
If you had a decent ass it wouldn't be a problem.
When fucking, I cum way too soon. No fun for you or me.
I'm too lazy to top.
The "top" and "bottom" thing as an absolute is freakishly abnormal. It's unfortunate that the concept has spread outside of the tiny urban cliques from where it originated. People aren't naturally like that.
Just realize that you're a boy and he's a boy and that's a great basis for whatever fun you'd like to have. Sex is about having fun, not some scripted performance.
With 3 inches I can barely tickle your anus.
I don't identify with top/ bottom as the ultimate sexual experience with a guy. Fucking is hot, but just one sexual activity of many.
I'm in the same boat as R2: the few times I've tried to fuck someone, I came so quickly it was embarrassing. Now the thought gives me performance anxiety, so I have trouble maintaining an erection. At 45 most of my sexual experience has been oral and mutual masturbation
I can't feel anything with a condom, so I wilt. I've given up. It's becoming a problem in my LTR. :-(
The guys who don't want to try topping may just LOVE having their prostate ravaged.
Topping feels wonderful. Never any pain for the top.
I love it when a guy lays back, puts his hands over his head, and tell me to "go for it." There's something about the sweet surrender of a hot guy underneath me that make me wanna go for hours. Just the thought of it turns me on. Also, usually you don't know who's gonna be what when you leave the bar. But within two minutes, I know I'm gonna be on top just by the way the other guy moves with me. Such a turn on.
I can't cum from fucking so my mind begins to wander or I'll start concentrating on my glutes until he cums from jerking off. It takes forever.
Oral is so much more fun. Plus, you can do it again and again without anyone complaining about sore hole.