A query received on a dating site.
By big do you mean huge muscles?
Never heard from that fatty again.
The sender was probably heavy set.
The obese hate the word and will never use it.
Some have even had the nerve to refer to themselves as "muscular".
Sorry, but being fat is not muscular...
OP has an eating disorder.
Reminds me of my blind date with the fat guy who had said he had a 'football build'.
Muscles yes. Not chubby or fat. I'm fit so I like that in my dates.
honestly, I don't even try to look for a relationship or even sex when I need to lose a few lbs.
And by few I mean 20.
I'm there right now. I'm hitting the gym regularly after the holidays.
When you don't feel good about yourself it's ridiculous to try to bring someone into your life.
Work on yourself.
Definitely means "fat but doesn't want to say it".
You all are such assholes.
I like big asses myself.
OP = Bryanboy
fat guys should just be honest and ask "do you like fat fucks?"
big guy = big anus
One should always be honest and forthcoming on dating and hookup sites. Post recent pics that show your full body and/or face, and list realistic stats like height and weight. Don't describe yourself as "VGL", post a face pic and let the viewer decide.
Don't claim labels like "jock", "body builder" or "swimmer's build" when you're clearly overweight; it makes you look ridiculous and you're only setting yourself up for rejection. In general don't force yourself on others and don't be coy about your looks or body type.
And for god's sake, have some self awareness. A muscle god might be a closet chubby chaser, but let him come to you.
R14 Well said. Chubby Ubsies types can be attractive to a few but it's best to be honest! Do you know how many guys lie that they're thin and built and then turn out to be skinny and flabby? Though I've had problems with fat guys whose cocks and assholes smell like rancid vinegar! It's best to make them bathe before anything kinky goes on.
Or he realized he sent the email to a hideous fucking troll instead of the person he meant to message.
Good lord, R15 ...rancid vinegar??
I tell people I look like Justin Bieber. Hooking up has never been easier.
Fit fat is my favorite body type. So long as people stick to the true definition of it.
Younger big or actually fat guys can be hot. Fat and older not so much. I think it is the face thing more than anything.
There's a guy at a Best Buy that I go to who is the very definition of sexy but not totally in shape. He has a thick body, but he's not fat by any means. His face is model-gorgeous, and he has a thick mane of lustrous black hair. I would do him in half a hearbeat.
Thickness is great
There is a big difference between big vs fat. A lot of people who are fat will call themselves big due to social stigma on obesity, and on dating sites, because they want to get action they likely wouldn't otherwise. If anything, that's a bad thing. There is a reason the US is so overweight. Being mean is not cool but people should call a spade a spade and those that are overweight should be honest with what they are.
There is a website called "biggercity" and fat men can get all the action they want from all types of men. There are a lot of chubby-chasers who have movie star looks. The majority there are called bear-for-bear, and like other big hairy men who look like themselves. It is counterproductive to lie about your appearance on hook-up sites. If you just say exactly what you are, there are plenty of people who are looking for that. If you are particular in your own preferences, then finding a match is a little more difficult.
[quote]One should always be honest and forthcoming on dating and hookup sites. Post recent pics that show your full body and/or face, and list realistic stats like height and weight. Don't describe yourself as "VGL", post a face pic and let the viewer decide.
Amen, darling Chub at R14. I believe you that you sometimes get hotties. Seriously. I'm very skinny and have found the same. I find your advice is good no matter what: Be honest/confident. It's impossible to second-guess another man's tastes in men, based on what *he* looks like. Not just body type and facial attractiveness, but age and race -- it is impossible to know which men will be attracted to you, based on their demographic/appearance. One of the greatest joys in life - really! - is that moment of unexpected chemistry that rocks and could not have been predicted.