What are you getting your significant other this Xmas?
My boyfriend and I decided that since we don't really need anything special, to give each other "something small" this Christmas. We've been together for about a year but I'm kind of flummoxed for ideas. He works a lot and is more of a snacker than a meal eater, so I'm going to make him a big batch of spiced nuts along with some good coffee for his office.
What are you all doing?
I'm getting him a wool monkey hoodie sweater.
I'm hoping he'll buy himself a new MacBook so I can justify buying myself a new one.
You're giving him office snacks for Christmas? How utterly romantic!
I don't know what to get my boyfriend. I was thinking a nice sheet set with a note that says something like, "Looking forward to getting these dirty with you."
Or maybe just dinner and a movie.
The same thing he got us for Christmas last year:
We are planning a trip to Costa Rica in late April. No gifts under no tree.
My gf and I have been together for three years. I'm in my late 40s, she's in her early 50s. We have everything we need.
We decided to forgo gifts for each other and asked our family members to give extra gifts to others instead of sending us any.
We are pooling our money and giving half of it to a friend who really is in need and will take the other half to KMart to pay off layaways that have kids' stuff in them*.
*Not our idea, we read about a man who did this last year and thought it was one of the greatest things ever.
[quote]and will take the other half to KMart to pay off layaways that have kids' stuff in them*.
K Mart lets you pay off stranger's bills?
I kinda like that idea - my childhood was filled with k-mart x-mas layaways.
Bless you R7!
Appointment book, non-fiction hardcover, DVD set, another DVD.
We lack for little so we keep it simple.
A sportscoat and a shirt.
R8, yes, they will. I went to a KMart near my house today to make sure. They won't tell you exactly what is on someone else's layaway list, but they will tell you how much is owed and if there are items for kids in the basket.
We want to target ones that are behind in their payments. I was worried that if we paid off one of those that they might not know to come in - I'm not explaining this well. I was worried they might think "I'm late and I can't afford to pay this off so I won't even bother." The layaway lady said that the owner would get a call to come pick things up.
There weren't any late ones with kid stuff at that KMart. The lady told me to go to the one over where she lives because there are sure to be some there. Guess I'm going to the Westside tomorrow!
I DON'T HAVE A SIGNIFICANT OTHER, YOU INSENSITIVE CLOD!
We have enough 'stuff' and our house is full. This year we are giving each other non-credit classes from the local community college.
I am giving him 2 weekends of blacksmithing classes. I have asked for workshops on home brewing, winetasting, and pairing wine/beer to food.
OP, your idea sounds perfect.
I'd love to see your recipe for spiced nuts.
Can I see your nuts?
[quote]I went to a KMart near my house today to make sure. They won't tell you exactly what is on someone else's layaway list, but they will tell you how much is owed and if there are items for kids in the basket.
Then they pocket the money for themselves.
Ina Garten's spiced nuts:
3 cups whole roasted unsalted cashews (14 ounces)
2 cups whole walnut halves (7 ounces)
2 cups whole pecan halves (7 ounces)
1/2 cup whole almonds (3 ounces)
1/3 cup pure maple syrup
1/4 cup light brown sugar, lightly packed
3 tablespoons freshly squeezed orange juice
2 teaspoons ground chipotle powder
4 tablespoons minced fresh rosemary leaves, divided
Preheat the oven to 350 degrees.
Brush a sheet pan generously with vegetable oil. Combine the cashews, walnuts, pecans, almonds, 2 tablespoons of vegetable oil, the maple syrup, brown sugar, orange juice, and chipotle powder on the sheet pan. Toss to coat the nuts evenly. Add 2 tablespoons of the rosemary and 2 teaspoons of salt and toss again.
Spread the nuts in one layer. Roast the nuts for 25 minutes, stirring twice with a large metal spatula, until the nuts are glazed and golden brown. Remove from the oven and sprinkle with 2 more teaspoons of salt and the remaining 2 tablespoons of rosemary.
Toss well and set aside at room temperature, stirring occasionally to prevent sticking as they cool. Taste for seasoning. Serve warm or cool completely and store in airtight containers at room temperature.
his bday is tomorrow so i am doing the dreaded bday/Christmas combo gift - but only so that he does not yell at me for spending too much. i found a really nifty near startup that sells interesting fixies/one speed bikes. he has been talking for months about how he wants to ride to work, but has an old heavy clunker of a bike that he will not lug down the two flights of stairs. i got the bike on sale as well, they are not that expensive. so bike for his bday, and some small accessories under the tree.
R18, that crossed my mind ... but it really doesn't bother me. Our goal is to help someone. It doesn't matter who, really. It is just our desire to help kids, if we help adults then so be it.
A 3 month subscription to weight watchers
We bought a new TV as "our" gift, and donated an equal amount to a local homeless shelter. The cat's getting some cat treats and a new catnip mouse, but did not want to part with any of her allowance, so we also donated to the local animal shelter in her name. Ungrateful little brat.
OP, I understand the inclination to exchange gifts of "something small," but spiced nuts and coffee really seems to be overdoing it -- or underdoing it, as the case may be. Unless you're also giving him something big on a regular basis, you might well be single by New Year's.
A bag of switches and a lump of coal.
I'm getting Calvin a 12 inch black rubber dildo
Giving small,simple,inexpensive gifts doesn't mean you're romantic...
it means you're CHEAP.
Ina Garten is a CUNT!
R7, you and your gf are wonderful! I read about this last year, too, but didn't think I'd "know" (in the sense of knowing, sort of, fellow DR posters) anyone - brava!
I've agreed to one three way per quarter. I don't really want to, but it's what he wants.
Very nice R7. And may you be blessed many times over.
I'm in a sham of a marriage with kids. So, nothing.
R27 can't get fucked without paying for it.
Mine is a big surprise. I've comissioned a portrait of myself in antebellum atire to hang over our fireplace. I've been hiding it in the carriage house, so he genuinely has no idea!
New tires. Hey, it's what he wanted. But since they don't fit under the tree, I also got him a pair of Vans and a hoodie.
A new fucking tie
R15 is a bottom.
One gift each, we are getting each other new bikes. Then fun little stuff for our stockings. I also rec'd a pair of tickets from my job for The Book of Mormon, so I'll surprise him with that - any yes, I will let him know they were a work thing.
A nice messenger bag, cable knit sweater, scarf and some nice lotions from L'Occitaine. R7 has the best gift idea, though, and if I didn't already spend my money, I would have convinced my boyfriend to follow their example.
We've been together 25 years (this NYE) and don't need anything. So, we adopted a family - 7 kids and 2 parents - from the school where my partner volunteers.
It was fun buying their gifts and we will think of them on Christmas. I have a feeling they are going to be very happy.
Very nice R41. Merry Christmas to you.
Oooh, report back on this year's Xmas Holiday Hell thread, r22.
I'm already anticipating the dramatic hilarity.
Seriously---we don't buy gifts for each other. We just take the money we would have spent and go on a vacation to Vegas, the Bahamas etc. after the holidays ( usually in spring )
One of my buddies is a bladesmith, and I got him to design and make a custom Bowie knife for my ol'man. We will be on annual deer hunt in Colorado when I give it to him. But it is New Years gift, because that is what we celebrate.
Would someone who paid the $18 post a thread and ask what was the best gift a partner ever gave them?
We don't have a lot of money and I am truly at a loss. I bought him a nice winter coat and a dress shirt, but nothing "fun" or romantic. We are barely making ends meet and I would've preferred we didn't exchange but he already bought me a gift, so I must reciprocate. Someday I hope we have enough money to help someone else. I love the idea of adopting a family or donating to a charity.
You sound sweet, r48.
since you're all handing out free suggestions what should I get my aunt and uncle?
r48, It may be cheesy, but it's free and can be funny and it's free. Write out coupons for silly, sexual or sweet deeds to be be used whenever you boyfriend decides to redeem them.
Good for winning one argument
Good for a BJ/back rub/ anything he likes on demand
Good for making a meal of your choice...
That's nice, but they live in another state.
That's a terrible idea, R51. These people are not children giving mommy a coupon book. They have sex with each other.
r48---you two have each other. You are very fortunate.
r53, I realize that. It's why I included a blow job as a possible option.
The reason I thought of it was a broke college boyfriend did this for me and it was fun and sweet that he took the time to think of a bunch of things I would like. It was half x-rated and half sweet.
r48 wanted something free, funny and romantic. Better ideas than mine would be helpful.
R23, I love that. Maybe next year she will realize she was selfish this year... but you guys are generous to make sure she represents...
R48 wanted a pity party...not a terrible idea. That coupon gift might be palatable if you're in college, but, even then, the guy would need to be incredibly hot to pull it off.
R48 should give his man the coat and shirt and stop stressing out about not giving enough. If his man isn't happy enough with those gifts, then the relationship is doomed anyway. It's bad enough that a gift is even expected if they're living hand to mouth.
R53 - go take a pill. A home made coupon book is a sweet and thoughtful idea when money is tight (or even when it's not). Something along the same lines is a gift of a promise to do something your partner would enjoy (or to do something your partner doesn't want to do on his/her behalf).
The coat and the shirt are enough as far as presents go. If you want to do something romantic, give him a spa night at home, if possible.
Buy some massage oil, candles and a Lush bath bomb. Get out the crockpot and a cooler. Set up some "chill" ambient-type music in the bathroom (free over the internets). Have his favorite drink or wine on hand. Light the candles and draw him a bath using the bath bomb. Turn out the lights in the bathroom. Let him relax with his glass of wine with the music. Meanwhile, heat up the towels in the dryer and toss into a cooler to keep them warm. Use the crock pot to keep the massage oil and some washcloths warm.
Make sure the bedroom is also lit by candlelight and has the "spa" music going. Dry him off after his post-bath shower and hustle him to the bed. Give him a massage. Start with the feet and calves using the warm oil. When one foot is done, wrap it in a towel while you do the other foot. Wrap that one when done. Go back to the first foot and rub it using rubbing alcohol, wipe with the washcloth and re-wrap. Do the other foot. Then continue with the full-body massage. Make you use do his hands and fingers.
You can google for some techniques.
If he likes this kind of thing, it's a nice thing to do. I do it for my partner from time to time (I'm way overdue, but now I'm inspired). I get bored in the bath myself but I love the massage.
A Xanax is nice too.
R58, that coupon book idea is so circa 1980s. Might as well come with a calendar with your glamor shots and feathered hair while your at it.
With all the generous people on here espousing how they are going to adopt poor families etc....
WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH YOU PEOPLE! Not a single one of you is going to help out anyone gay on your list. What happened to giving back to the community.
Poor families get help from churches, charities and government assistance, toys for tots etc. Gays get nothing. Whatever happens to taking care of each other?
I am revoking your gay cards, you dues have not been paid in a long time. You are very welcome for all the free help you got from previous gay people who literally died for you. Narcissistic Bitches.
OP, nuts for Christmas? If there is not a hot man attached besides yourself, you better get something more substantial.
Food gifts are what you give an office coworker you have no personal relationship with.
I have made those nuts for parties, and people like them but its like you just bought a can of planters. Takes like 5 minutes to make.
Your first xmas should be special, if you really want to do nuts, that should be a stocking stuffer not the bets idea you came up with.
He has everything he wants that I could afford. So its boring but cloths, hoodie, slippers, polo shirt, jeans. He doesn't like shopping so in a way its a gift.
It's torturous going shopping with him too. He will spend like 2 hours in one section of one store. "should I get this? How about this? Don't go anywhere, I need to you to find me this"
No significant other here. Old and alone.
Me too R65. :( Tough, so I give stuff to my family, and never get anything, really. I stopped expecting years ago.
A good vacuum cleaner for his asthma and for pet hair
Well R65, consider yourself lucky. Save lots of money, time and frustration and faking a smile because all you got from you love was a can of nuts.
R6, you are kind of a harsh bitch, aren't you. Can your friends sit on your new couch, or do you want to charge them for wear and tear?
At least get a tree.
[quote]WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH YOU PEOPLE! Not a single one of you is going to help out anyone gay on your list. What happened to giving back to the community.
Maybe the posters here just didn't respond because we feel it is unseemly to tout one's charitable donations.
My partner and I donated to one of our local gay youth organizations. We are in a group of eight couples who are friends. One of the couples donated $50 per couple to a local AIDS-services provider.
So, for the purpose of refuting your assertion that no one donates to causes that help gays, I posted my experience.
But I was brought up differently.
We went to see Les Miserables and had a great dinner and night out on the town going to jazz clubs.
Oh, how adorable...just ALL of you!
Is r71 posting from the future? How was New Year's Eve?
Oh and this:
[quote]some nice lotions from L'Occitaine
A box of Fleet Enemas and a pair of Spanx.
Been Together Too Long
The Miserables starts on Christmas Day...HEL-LO?
"Something small" means it should be in a small blue box tied with a big white ribbon...
R60 just SCREAMS straight woman!
No, r77. I'm a gay guy with a partner who loves a nice long bath with the weird music and a massage. He might be a straight woman with a cock, though.
Clothes n shit
[R62] Damn, you're right! Help your own first.
I want a significant other for Christmas.
r20 I am a Christmas Baby too,tell your BF I said happy birthday.
I got a care package of candy, weed, toiletries, We agreed to spend no more than twenty dollars on each other, the holidays together are enough
I have a question. Last year I gave me friend a 6 month subscription to Netflix.
Now yesterday, I get a notice in the email that says, "Your gift subscription to Netflix was never claimed. You have the option to resend it or reuse it for yourself."
1) Give it to him again
2) Use it myself
3) Tell him to go fuck himself.
1) Give it to him again
This thread is mostly filled with nice posts and good feelings, except for the shrewish few who inexplicably attack the posters who propose ideas they don't like. I've never understood this. If you don't like someone's idea, then suggest something else, but why bring so much negativity and vitriol into a nice thread?
I like your coupon book idea, r51. It is very sweet and meaningful because it's personal, and the gifts are moments shared between the two of you.
OP, I'd think twice about giving your BF a bag of nuts. You're really taking a risk with that one.
An Apple product of course.
I splurged and bought myself a Quacker Factory sock to jack off into. I tried to put it in my stocking but that was already crusted over, so I had to put it under the tree.
Bengali in Platforms
What else would you get a fruit
Someone told me to get the Apple "box" that hooks your computer up to the TV. Does anyone know what they're talking about? Said it costs about a hundred bucks.
I say get him a bag of nuts and enjoy the netflix yourself
I got her an XBox.
Chill out R83, there are many reasons you friend may have not used Netflix. If the gift was through email, he may have thought it was spam. If it was given in person, he may have had a subscription already and being gracious to accept the gift. Or he could have lost it in the shuffle, or even be afraid he will be stuck with it once it runs out.
I have sent digital books before to people I know use a computer and they still never got them because they were clueless about if it was real or some scam.
R62 there is no gay community stupid
just a bunch of phags givin each other aids
noone even mentioned the homeless teenagers who are gay ,it is said half are gay after parents kicked them out after coming out.and dan savage will still spout his crap about it gets better and coming out.
more like it gets shittier and then you die
you cretins should donate to red cross.hahah
R94 could we get you a chardonnay or an Effexor?
on the tv just now there was a commercial for.... paying off a stranger's layaway at kmart! and the celebrity spokesperson? miss sandra lee!
can you imagine u paid off a loan for some guy that likes to gaybash gay men?
[quote] Giving small,simple,inexpensive gifts doesn't mean you're romantic...it means you're CHEAP.
Merry Christmas....ya gold digging WHORE! xoxo
This reminds me of the thread about the guy buying shoes for a child whose mother couldn't afford them, and seemed to want a gold medal for his efforts in embarrassing a woman.
Paying off someone's bill does sound strange. You could be paying off the bill of some asshole who has plenty of money but still uses layaway.
R95 women get depressed when faced with reality.men deal with it
When two people "don't really need anything special," it's fun to go together to a toy store, play with the toys, notice what they have that didn't exist when you were a kid, and then buy a bunch of toys. Take them to the nearest Toys For Tots place for the Marines to give to children.
You'll have a fantastic feeling on Christmas morning as you think of the happiness you've given some poor kids. That wonderful feeling lasts all day. Been there!
What is a k mart layaway?
Too bad R60 is already partnered. I'd marry him!
I got him a Bose Wave radio.
It does my heart some good to read about the posters paying off lay-aways and being Christmas Angels for families in need.
I was the recipient of a gift basket of food when I was desperately poor (due to illness, unemployment and pride). I have never forgotten the gesture, and now that I am back on my feet (this was over a decade ago), I bring food to our food bank.
Ive just completed my 2013 list. Cant wait to star shopping and put up the tree.
[quote] Cant wait to star shopping and put up the tree.
You are already starring!