It's been almost three years, but Sean Penn is obviously still recovering from his divorce with ex-wife Robin Wright.
The actor, 52, who stars in the upcoming flick "Gangster Squad," opens up to Esquire magazine about his struggle to understand the concept of marriage, especially after going through two heartbreaking splits. (Penn was married to Madonna from 1985 to 1989).
“There is no shame in saying that we all want to be loved by someone. As I look back over my life in romance, I don’t feel I’ve ever had that," Penn reveals in the January issue of Esquire. "I have been the only one that was unaware of the fraud in a few of these circumstances blindly."
Penn continues to explain that he didn't know the truth about his relationship, presumably with Wright, until it was over.
"When you get divorced, all the truths that come out, you sit there and you go, 'What the f**k was I doing? What was I doing believing that this person was invested in this way?' Which is a fantastically strong humiliation in the best sense," he adds. "It can make somebody very bitter and very hard and closed off, but I find it does the opposite to me.”
Penn, who has two children with Wright -- daughter Dylan, 21, and son Hopper, 19 -- is also struggling with co-parenting, admitting that being a father to two adults is difficult at times.
Hopper had to have emergency brain surgery after a horrific skateboarding accident, and Penn says it left him in a daze.
"When he was recovering, seeing the morphine go into him and give him relief created kind of a love affair for me with morphine and that usage of it," Penn confesses. "It had already been eight months of divorce and s**t, and raising a kid that's going through the divorce himself, and then this f**king thing happens ... it was a tough, tough time."
Penn explains that Hopper, who had been living with him following the divorce, moved back in with Wright -- leaving him alone and unsure about his future.
"I thought, 'Wow, I can actually go on a date.' And so I go out and I strike out four nights in a row, drinking at a bar and ending up home, you know, drunk. And on the fourth day I said, 'I could just go sit in the middle of the bed and watch TV at four in the afternoon, too. I don't have anything.' My daughter's ... doing her thing, my son's with his mother. So I turned on the TV and there was this earthquake in Haiti."
That's when he discovered what to do with his open schedule -- he co-founded the J/P Haitian Relief Organization and has been running a 55,000 person tent camp in Haiti since the earthquake in 2010.
"The road started with the most obvious kind of trauma -- my son's head -- and then to get to a place that had been just so devastated and traumatized, and then to see that in fact most of the trauma actually predated the earthquake," he said. "You had a country that had never experienced anything that related to comfort, and out of that you had great trauma -- but also this great strength that, I think, we all benefited from."
He so ronery!
Boo fucking hoo
Poor guy. I'm sure he felt defrauded by Robin Wright Penn when she stopped letting him use her as his favorite punching bag.
Abusive men love to play victim.
His arms are just massive on the cover of Esquire. I've often wondered how he gets them so big. He's not a handsome man, and he's no longer thin, but there's little he'd need to do to get me to go to bed with him with arms like those.
“There is no shame in saying that we all want to be loved by someone. As I look back over my life in romance, I don’t feel I’ve ever had that,"
Poor thing hasn't figured out yet that the "being loved" think is a 2-way street.
This from someone who would hole up in a hotel room, do massive amounts of blow with hookers...
'I need to be LOVED!!!!"
What a massively self-absorbed, entitles, egomaniacal, clueless douche!
He hits his wife, he cheats and parties while married, and then he whines that she didn't love him enough.
R7, I'm sure Robin wasn't understanding enough about it. He had needs. If she had really loved him, she would have understood.
It sounds like he may have tried to get his hands on his son's morphine. I can't imagine him having enough impulse control to stop himself if it looked that appealing to him.
I feel sorry for Robin, for being so stupid as to stay with him as long as she did.
Looks like he should have stayed with Madonna - they seem perfect for each other.
My God, has there every been a more self absorbed, selfish whiner? He makes EVERYTHING about himself---his son's brain injury and even the earthquake in Haiti. Waaaaah! Thank God the earthquake happened because he needed it to heal his damaged soul. *snort*
Is this what Chris Brown's future holds?
Robin is a terrible actress who's been coasting along a fairly blah career. Her only option is to be married to someone famous.
Shut up and go away!
And take fucking Morrissey with you too!
Awww, he has a sad.
I like Penn as an actor, but my god. Narcissism is so interesting to behold.
No one on Datalounge has ever posted a link to articles that Sean Penn hit Robin Wright Penn.
what about me?
[quote]No one on Datalounge has ever posted a link to articles that Sean Penn hit Robin Wright Penn.
Indeed not, honey--that's why this is called a GOSSIP forum.
He's on testosterone -that's why scrawny Sean Penn has big arms.
My guess is Robin has moved on and found love again. He's just a bitter old has been.
What a typically pompous and angsty bunch of blathering from this twit.
I put him right up there with that other obnoxious poseur, the one and only Ms Ashley Judd.
Those 2 drive me nuts with their annoying 'gravitas' and posturing. I would love to put the two of them together on a desert island for a year and force them to see their own self-important 'jackassery' mirrored back to them.
I don't know of any articles about him hitting her, it's more common knowledge - like Josh Brolin. (I think they've both had the cops called on them about this.)
I do recall years ago, before they married and maybe before they had kids, anyway she'd be hanging around outside the Viper Room, begging the doorman to let her in. Penn was inside partying up a storm, giving the doorman his instructions. She'd be out there for hours, crying and begging.
And she stayed with him for about a hundred years after that, so there ya go.
In some Madonna bio I read thru years ago there is a story about him tying her up (in a violent way not a sexual way) and police having to come to the house. According to that book that was their last night of marriage (she moved out)
Penn also denies he's Jewish.
Well, r27, under religious law, he isn't Jewish. You might also consider that his brother was named Christopher, so it would seem that his parents didn't consider the children Jewish.
So are you saying there a no Jewish Christophers?
A few years ago I was a regular at a very small dive bar. He walked in with some male that seemed to act as a handler, trying to score coke from strangers. Everyone thought it was weird.
[quote]under religious law, he isn't Jewish. You might also consider that his brother was named Christopher
I know a Jewish Mary.
It isn't impossible, r29, but Jewish children are generally not named Christopher, Christian or Christina.
Variations on the name "Mary" actually predate christianity. I'm sure the ancient Egyptian eldergays screamed "MERYT!" at each other.
End thread hijack.
I'm making bowing motions in front of my computer R33.
Typical left winger
What are this kids like?
[quote]Typical left winger
Says the idiot freeper on the gay gossip board. Are you lost, R35?
I feel so bad for the guy who beat up Madonna. Seriously the guy is a bash artist and he hits women which makes him a cowardly bash artist.
Sean Penn you are a bastard. Lol. Fuck you very much! You are an abusive, cheating, drinking, stuck-up bitch and you have a nerve to speak about 'love' in interviews.
He looks like a white trash meth user. But Sean boy grew up in Malibu privilege. He's successful only because of nepotism.
He is a good actor but much overrated as a human being. I don't like his attitude at all. I wonder why he is so respectful. Ok, he is an activist, that's indeed very good, however, in his personal life he is not that good. He is an egotistical, abusive, drinking pig.
A cheating pig as well
I feel bad for Robin be cause she spent years with that asshole and had kids with him, and put up with all his cheating and manic episodes and now he calls the relationship a "Fraud?" yeah, he was the fraud.
Sean Penn is bi-polar. He has to be. With a strong narcissistic streak. No one can ever love him "enough." And yes he was abousive to Robin. Emotionally and physically, not to mention how hard it was to deal with his alcoholism and his drugging. Wonder when he'll tell those stories.
I admire his politics, his talent, and his intelligence, but he is not someone I'd ever want to be close to. He's toxic. How terrible for their kids that he says these things.
R19, I think it's rumored and gossiped about because Penn was convicted of domestic assault while married to Madonna. Given his past history with violence (spousal, papparazzi, etc.), and the fact that the Penn's went through multiple splits/reconciliations, it's not a real big stretch.
He's just an addict. Addicts are cra-zee until they get in recovery. Then we're still crazy, but we're more careful about it!
I doubt he has the capacity to humble himself to do it 12 step style tho. Not that that is the only solution, but it is one.
r37, there are MANY gay conservatives deal!
Is English your second language, R41?
I feel torn about the fact that he beat up Madonna. Sometimes i'd like to do the same.
Even if true, how classy to reveal this in public because, after all, I'm sure living with Sean Penn was one big picnic.
Something about that pig is sexy, I can't put my finger on it, repulsion perhaps.