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So, my friends are separating

A couple that I've been friends with for many years have announced they've separated. It is completely his decision, not hers. He refuses marriage counseling (says it would give her false hope) and has moved out. He has asked to stay with me for a few weeks until he can find a new place. She meanwhile is totally against the separation and wants to make the marriage work -- she is treating this like he just needs to work some stuff out and will come back. He is treating this like a permanent separation and has confided to me that he has absolutely no feelings for his wife anymore. Another person isn't part of the equation; he just feels checked out of the marriage. We have many mutual friends. She is telling everyone that it is completely his idea and that she is committed to making it work. How can I gently break it to her that ... he doesn't want to make it work? I know it's not directly my business, except he's crashing with me and she has called me many times to cry, ask how he is, etc. I am not sure what to do. Those of you familiar with separations -- is it ever possible to reconcile, or when a guy moves out, well, is it OVAH?

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