Have you ever known someone that you positively could not stand, yet been keenly aware of an underlying sexual tension? Did you wind up fucking eventually?
I loathe myself, yet I can't stop masturbating. Does that count?
No stories? C'mon, you guys.
I'm straight and female. That pretty much eliminates my participation.
No. It is very rare for me to be attracted to someone I hate. I had an evil vicious college roommate who looked like Rupert Graves in Maurice and I didn't jerk off to a fantasy of him once, even though I fantasized about every other guy in the dorm. Evil really is a turnoff.
The person doesn't have to be evil for you to hate or dislike them.
Anyway, I have found this saying to be true on occasion. Years ago, there was a fellow college instructor who I absolutely could not stand. The word arrogant doesn't begin to describe him. We butted heads on a weekly basis, and once we nearly came to blows.
Within 3 months, we were having sex. Within a year, we were living together.
I'd say definitely yes, but not in the context described by others. Someone I was deeply in love with betrayed me horribly, and that love fueled the deepest level of hatred I've ever experienced to this day. But feeling secret love for someone you absolutely cannot stand? Not a chance. Btw hatefucking someone is not even remotely close to "loving" someone.
I think of it more in the reverse. It's usually your "loved ones" family, BFs, partners whom you get angry with.
There's a thick line between love and hate. The "love" that people are talking about here is just a hyper-emotional reaction that is confused for love by people who can't get beyond adolescent surges.
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I think what most people mean when they say this is that they are initially attracted to someone, and then, as they find out more about the person, they find a wide divergence of attitudes, beliefs, etc., leading to conflict.
So, they are stuck with the initial sexual attraction and the reality of person. IMO, this paradoxical feeling quickly devolves into hate.
Also, disagree that the opposite of love is indifference, not hate. Although this helps rejected lovers get over things - as they go from disbelief over the rejection, to anger (the hate part), to final acceptance.
Love is love and the opposite is hate. Although anger in a lover is often confused with hate.
Agree with R12, especially the first paragraph. I think some people confuse the feelings that come from great sex with love and then later discover the sex is the only good thing about the relationship.
[quote]yet been keenly aware of an underlying sexual tension? Did you wind up fucking eventually?
I believe you are confusing lust with love, dear.
Yes, when you love someone and they cheat,lie and steal from you that love becomes hate rather quickly. Add to the fact that their blow jobs are becoming rather toothy as of late.
Well, this thread became tedious extremely quickly, didn't it?
A thin line for those suffering from borderline personality disorder.
Love and hate go hand in hand like two brothers who go on a date.
This thread became tedious because no one in their right mind agrees with this.
"in their right mind" being the key phrase.
There are those that love a person who mistreats them and they get angry whenever it becomes so obvious they have to deal with it. But, that's just a sick love.
I think OP is referring to an unconsumated attraction. I see it in the early phases before the other person's character reveals itself - but not long term.
The line is very thin but we don't want to go there because we've already hurt someone and one is enough. Lonely. But. Enough is enough.
Walter...There's a thin line between love and hate. And you're erasing it
Slightly different point perhaps, but I have several times found that with guys I am lusting after, if I can't get any reciprocation, I want to hurt them. It's not revenge; it's that I want some kind of emotional connection, and if it can't be affection, hurt will do. Spooky and obsessive, I know.
I agree with r23 - if sexual attention is not reciprocated, then it can devolve into hate very quickly. It's the scorned lover thing.
But, can you be sexually attracted to someone you despise otherwise? Not some sex worker - although we shouldn't judge.
But, in normal, every day life, you despise the person but still want to get it on with them. I don't know.