do you have this with guys?
I meet a big threatening brute of a guy, all macho bluster and am nice to him, mainly pro forma but why not, right?
Subsequently he melts and becomes my bestest buddy being all vulnerable and sensitive around only me.
Am I the only one?
I get that a lot too, OP. Usually, they end up becoming my defenders against any anti-gay comments or behavior they believe to be directed at me. Ironically, they, not I, are the ones perceiving the anti-gay element.
It has happened to me and think the conclusion in this case is "don't judge a book, or man, by its/his cover". I wouldn't count it as a bad thing if a man like that shows his truer, better colors.
Never happened to me.
[quote] Ironically, they, not I, are the ones perceiving the anti-gay element.
I've seen that too, kind of the big chip on the shoulder thing, which i just don't have.