Are you nice in real life?

Or you always as mean as you are here?

• No, I'm not really nice. That's usually one of my biggest regrets in life - that I wasn't nice.

• If you read DL regularly, it's pretty clear there are numerous eldergays here who have no friends and spend all day spewing bullshit here.

• Yes. But that has nothing to do with my pussy.

  Cheryl

• I'm a CUNT everywhere.

• You can never have a better friend than myself yet I am relentless and unforgiving of my enemies

• Yes, I'm much nicer in RL than I am on this anonymous board.

  Cowardly%20DL%27er

• I'm the same everywhere, baby. To thine own self be true.

• I'm also sickeningly nice in person. Behind your back is another story ...

  passive-aggressive gay

• I try to be.

• Of course most of the posters here are cunts in person. I picture them in line at Target annoyed that a woman with a stroller is trying to get passed them. Pursing their lips (armed with purse about to fall out) before they snarl at the "breeder". Then they run home to DL to post about how annoying "breeders and hausfraus" are. Did I peg most of you queens?

• I'm not mean, darling. I'm direct. Niceness is VASTLY overrated. I could name dozens of people I know who think "nice" should have gotten them ahead at work, or in their club or organization. There's a difference between being kind and being nice. Being kind is caring about someone and knowing when to ask questions and when to give them space. "Nice" is a generic word for rolling over and being submissive, and then expecting to be rewarded for it.

• I'm a cunt.

• [R4] and [R12] I can smell you both through the computer and can confirm this to be false! You're all bark and no bite. I appear nice but people find out that I'm not.I don't tolerate crap from any women or queeny mc queens either. Straight guys are more direct and they get it back more directly as well.

• At work, not so nice...because of the stress factor. Off work, the nicest guy you will ever meet.

• [quote]I'm a cunt. I don't believe you. You have to be nice, sometimes.

• Anyone who says darling hisses.

• Nope. Never.

  R12

• What R12 said.

• I've always been inclined to be nice but in the shithole I live (Venezuela) being nice is seen as a weakness and people will try to take advantage of you or rip you off, so I'm working hard on becoming a real cunt and DL has been very helpful with that

• I'm direct which, in a female, is considered un-nice.

  but my pussy doesn't stink

• I'm nice until the second someone annoys me or something doesn't go my way. Then I pretty much explode. I always wanted someone to set me up on that MTV show Boiling Points. I'd lose BIG TIME.

• You bitches must not have many friends.

• By and large, I think my co-workers would rate me a considerate, thoughtful colleague. These are people I admire and respect, who work hard and are really good at their jobs. I teach, and sadly, I genuinely loathe many of my students. They are a thankless, entitled bunch, whose parents have have instilled in them that they can they deserve everything. This is at a relatively pricey liberal arts University, so they come to education with a sense of privilege. Those that are willing to work hard have my respect and admiration, and they know it. As for the rest of them...I'm counting the days til I can tell them to kiss my overeducated ass.

  Bookmaven

• I'm a kind and loyal person and keep my word.

• No, I'm always mean.

• [quote]I'm nice until the second someone annoys me or something doesn't go my way. I have terrible gaydar, but at work, this is how I always spot gay men. You are not alone, R21.

• Hisssss!

  The Hissing Eldergay (THE)

• No. Fuck you, bitch!

• I guess I'll have to ask my friends - if either ones says "yes", I'll go with than...

• Just last night my very nice, attractive, attentive hispanic waiter called me sweet. Yeah, I go for women, but it still made feel good, especially since he was a good bit younger than me. Why, it's the afternoon and I'm still feeling good about it!! Next time I get another craving for Mexican food, I'm going right back there.

  Georgoa%20Gal

• [quote]I'm a kind and loyal person and keep my word. Wanna do lunch?

• Everybody thinks I'm nice...until they don't. Happens on DL too.

• I mean I listen well, and I'm not all about me, but then I say that one unforgiveable thing after they've known and liked me for years, and, poof! I'm dead to them.

• r4 = Jordon

• To a point.

• I try to be kind if someone needs kindness, listen if someone needs to be heard, appreciative of people who deserve to be appreciated, supportive to those who have supported me or who feel alone. However, I don't suffer fools well and if someone is vindictive and malicious in real life, I give them what they need. On DL, it's a different story as it's generally just a game and entertainment, although there are exceptions.

• [quote]Don't talk to me, no, about people who are NICE. Cos I have spent my whole life, in ruins, because of people who are NICE. That's Morrissey. I'm not nice, I'm kind (to those that deserve it), generous, friendly, but honest. And not everyone likes that kind of directness. I don't really do 'faces', I'm just me, always. Some people don't like that. So be it. Nice is death. Nice is suffocation, pretence, vacuity. I'm not nice. I'm good. I think, in life, you can get the measure of someone reasonably quickly by weighing their words against their deeds. Always judge by actions and not rhetoric and you won't go far wrong. Of course, in love, it's more complicated. *sigh*

  ayb

• AYB has a broken heart.

• I'm very nice in real life. I'm not always a bastard on DL but there are times when I can't resist.

• AYB, are you flattered by the AYB stalker or find it as creepy as we do?

• I.. I don't know, really.

  ayb

• Real life? What is that, OP? Something you live through every day so you can feel like your daddy should treat you better? Get a clue, baby.

  Helen%20Lawson

• I am sometimes nice in real life. I am sometimes nice on the DL. I am also cunty at times in both arenas. I assume it's pretty much the same with most posters.

• Hello, OP. I'm the same in real life--a real cunt. My name is Julie!

  Julie

• Very few people are truly nice. It's a great inner quality and acting nice and being nice are two different things. I am not nice. I am we'll mannered and for the most part considerate. Anyone who says they are nice "to a point" are not nice or kind. They are respectful. Nice people continue to be nice no matter what the other person does. It is possible to be nice and enforce your boundaries but that is RARE.

• It depends on what entertains me more in any situation. And, yes, it is all about me keeping myself entertained. (Heavy)Flow King once said that true misanthropes are the kindest, quietest people on this earth - something about it limiting contact. I fear I don't have the attention span for that kind of behavior.

• I'm a really nice, laid back, unpretentious guy. No, really!

  PPSM

• I saw AYB on this thread, Bitch @ R47. Better run!