When people with many children have one die...

Do they feel the loss as much as people with only one or 2 do? In other words...flowers or what a simple sympathy card do?

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• Be sure and share that with them as part of your sympathy message, OP. It would be good for them to know who/what they're dealing with.

• I condole them.

• I'm sure the pain is as great but they are more surrounded by the love of others so it may help them cope better and recover faster. Staying busy is important and when you have other children there isn't much time to wallow or spend too much time thinking of your own pain. You move on and appreciate what you still have.

• It's like with abortion, they don't care, they just consider them an inconvenience not a person

• I think it depends upon the age of the child, do you mean actual child or when the child reaches adulthood?

• if the children were little....i'll take the feets for my collection

• I know what you're getting at OP, but I think with your own children its different.

• Well, OP, your hypthetical grieving parents have to cope with six hysterical children who have been traumatized by the loss of a sibling. I'd say that calls for sympathy.

• I forgive you, OP. Jesus loves you. Would you like to see my stillborn baby tribute video?

  Michelle D. and her Tunnel of Fecundity

• My parents had seven children until one of them, my eldest sister, died two weeks ago. They're absolutely heartbroken. We all are. She was 63. My parents are 84 and 90. I'll pass on your condolences.

• Agree with R10. Children shouldnt pre-decease their parents. I lost a brother when he was 45. My parents were devastated. As were the remaining 4 of us siblings. send flowers.

• Depends on if it was one of the favorites or not.

• Here are a few different ideas, all with equal amounts of sensitivity: 1. Say "Phew! One less financial hassle, huh?!", with a firm shake of the shoulder. 2. Say "Good thing you got those other six, amiright?!" 3. In knock-knock fashion: Knock knock / who's there / orange / orange who ... "Orange-ya glad yer a Fertile Myrtle and have some extras even after that one kicked the bucket?"

• OP - Treat each death equally and make no assumptions. I went to high school with a boy who turned out to be gay and later died from an AIDS related illness. He was the youngest child in his family and the only son. After his death, his mother told a family friend that her son had deserved to die. My aunt lost the 3rd of her 4 children at 18 months and she grieved for the little girl for the remainder of her life. The little girl had major physical and mental problems, and care brought significant stress to my aunt, but she was dearly loved. Strangely, my cousins NEVER mention her.

• I was thinking of singing "One Less Bell to Answer...one less egg to fry!!!"

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• Studies have shown that people with lots of children are less devastated when one of them dies.

• OP R2 R6 R15 - You really are sick.

• Were you expecting maybe comments like "oh hell, there's more where that came from" from the ones with alot of kids? My teachers in high school sometimes used to say that there are no dumb questions, butt...... I think it would depend on the family OP (and maybe even how dysfunctional they are??)

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• R4, STFU. Christ.

• Only on DL would a question like this be asked in all seriousness. Amazing.

• I have an aunt and uncle who had ten kids. A very closely knit family. Over the years, two of them have died, and each death was devastating to the whole family.

• OP -- Is that you, Umpy?

• Why are so many gay men single?