I was supposed to travel to SF for Thanksgiving and I just bailed.
I called and admitted I was just too tired and didn't want to leave home. I know my mother would have liked for me to be there, but it's so much traveling for just a dinner. With only one missing, I shouldn't be greatly missed. I really like having the long weekend to rest up. My cat hates being up there as she doesn't get along with the other cats. I think this is the best solution.
BUT I STILL FEEL GUILTY.
Your cat? Why don't you just leave it at home?
Are you traveling from the northeast?
[quote]My cat hates being up there
R1, he's clearly driving. Which makes his bailing out just because he's "tired" even more pathetic. Don't be such a fucking pussy, OP! (and speaking of pussies, leave your cat AT HOME when you go on trips like this)
Pack your cat into a glorious hatbox and board a train.
Enjoy your stay home. Sometimes, you just need a break.
Guilt is a choice. Get over it.
Don't mind me, I'll just sit in the corner back here eating wet cigarette butts.
Should have lied and said you were coming down with something.
r8, I disagree.
His honesty now could be remembered and referenced for another much worse family situation he wants to avoid in the future.
A hideous yuppie frau wedding, or Christmas could potentially be much worse.
"No, I really have had stomach flu the past few days-I'm so weak I can hardly stand. I was honest at Thanksgiving when I just didn't want to come"
Is home Oakland?
OP here, I live in southern CA and I was intending to drive north. It's a 6 hour drive, but often 9 hrs, when holiday traffics keeps you in LA for 3hrs. My cat always goes where go or we both stay home. I used to fly up, but the cat's ticket has become more expensive than my own, so I drive most often. In future, I'll leave one car permanently at my mother's and that way I can fly and have a car to use without possibly inconveniencing anyone. I know there are rental, but if there's game or some other attraction in town, the rates are astronomical for 4 or 5 days.
East Palo Alto
I don't blame you OP. I-5 from the Grapevine on up to 580 through the Altamint is an asswhip the day before thanksgiving. Glad I don't do this shit anymore. Though I-95 from Richmond VA to DC is not much better.
Go eat with some friends or go to a restaurant open tha day, call mom to tell her happy thanksgiving and have some me time and have no fuck to give what people think.
God, you're a friggin' weirdo freak, OP, having your cat go wherever you go.
That's just not normal nor mentally balanced.
You sound mentally unbalanced.
And as for not being present at Thanksgiving, it is meaningless to dwell on it - it just doesn't matter in any scheme of things - and guilt over it is meaningless. It is also meningless that you will not be there.
OP, don't feel guilty. Your situation sounds perfectly reasonable. Your mother will understand; that's what moms do. I successfully bailed out of TWO THanksgiving dinners at my brothers: roast beef Thanksgiing Day and big dinner: turkey and ham - Sat after, to accomodate my sister-inlaw's numerous relaties. At 12:00 noon, yet(!)
I said I don't feel well - have slight mental and some physical issues - and they both understood (or SAID they do, hee-hee!) I wlil spend Thanksgiing with several other disabled pepole in my HUD housing building; is free and no one will COMMENT ON HOW MUCH I"m EATING!!
(yes, there comes the real reason.) I'm hugely fat and have been trying hard to lose weight; am NOT going to go crazy on Thanksgiving, but I need peace and quiet. Brother is only 5 miles away so isn't a traffic issue, but I bailed once or twice over the years with my aunt; same issue: NONSTOP comments on my weight. No, nothing good abou being overweight, but people don't realize: sometimes the more they (family, I mean) comment, the more it makes one want to eat.
Sorry to sidetrack about ME and my weight issues! Your reasons sound much more sensible. And "cats are people, too" - if you know what I mean!
I salute you, OP
OP, the comment at R15 should show you what kind of nutso company you're in. Just as it is NOT NORMAL to weigh 500 pounds like R15 and fabricate illnesses to escape justified harassment about being morbidly obese, it is NOT NORMAL to travel EVERYWHERE -- even for a couple of days! -- with your cat. It sounds like you have some rather substantial mental issues, starting with undiagnosed/untreated severe depression (hence your reason for skipping the trip) and ending with pet codependency problems. Cats may be total cunts if you leave them unattended for too long, but NO cat is going to lose its marbles if you leave for 48 hours. I mean, Jesus, you can't even fly in and out in one day, if your cat mania is that severe? It's a 70-minute flight each way!! How do you even make it through a day of work? Or DO you make it through a day without seeing your pussy? Do you fucking drive home at lunch to make sure Miss Sissyboodles has some company?!?
PLEASE, OP, SEEK HELP, unless you really want to die totally alone. And YES, your cat WILL DIE LONG BEFORE YOU DO (unless you off yourself). You can't have a normal life until you ACCEPT this reality. Dare I even ask how long it's been since you had a boyfriend, or even since you got laid??
OP, you're a horribly selfish person.
[quote] Do you fucking drive home at lunch to make sure Miss Sissyboodles has some company?!?
R17 is so right. But this bit is fucking hilarious!
[quote]My cat always goes where go or we both stay home.
That's beyond ridiculous. Cats are very independent animals. And they can take care of themselves. They're FINE on their own for up to three days, as long as you set out extra food and water. Seriously.
If you're just going to be gone over-night, then it's beyond ridiculous to take your cat.
OP, don't listen to the cat haters and don't feel guilty. Everyone knows what a pain it is to travel at Thanksgiving. It sounds like you have a good relationship with your mother and you see her regularly. Your mother will understand;
You do realize I'm going to die eventually?
Reality is hilarious.
Thanksgiving was so depressing with several relatives getting older and complaining about their failing health non-stop. I'm sympathetic, but it's just getting to be too much for one day.
As much as Thanksgiving is an emotional minefield, Christmas is 10-times worse, with all the chaos of shopping for presents. Now that I'm old (almost 50), the holiday means a lot less to me. I'd rather spend time at a restaurant, having a nice dinner and having people wait on me.
OP means from LA to the Bay Area. Real San Franciscans do not move to LA; it just isn't done. Like New Englanders not wearing white shoes after Labor Day.
But kudos to the OP for not travelling by any means btwn LA-Bay Area this holiday. That would rank up there with being trampled at Wallmart on Black Friday.
OP here, I love San Francisco, but I prefer living at the beach here in Southern CA. I enjoy returning to the City, but it's so disastrously different from the times of my childhood. I could never live there again. It looks the same, but (to me) San Francisco is just a shell of its former greatness and world pre-eminence.
I know you young guys could never know what something was like before you were born, so enjoy what's left, I'm sure it's better than anything place else you may have lived.
I have to agree with the 'taking your cat with you makes you a nutjob' contingent on here. Jeez, your freaking cat would probably love to have a day off on their own without having to fulfil your weird dependency needs.