In the past year or so, I've gained about 40 pounds and gone from cute and in-shape to "OMG KILL IT WITH FIRE". I honestly didn't realize how bad it had gotten until I forced myself to take a photo in my bathroom mirror with no clothes on, and then I wanted to kill myself with a rusty butter knife and a length of twine.
So, instead of going out to the parties I was invited to this evening, I stayed in, watched Netflix, and ORDERED A FUCKING PIZZA, then I ATE the damn thing. WTF?!
I'm BARELY 30, so it's not like I've got some kind of middle aged spread or something.
Has this happened to any of you? You just looked at yourself one day and thought "Jesus christ, what the fuck happened to me?!"
If you're THAT horrible, how is it you're still invited to all those parties?
Friends remember us as we were. Long after we aren't that anymore.
Cheer up, OP. It happens. You can take it off. Use the months until spring. Go to weight watchers or check them out on line. If you're a man they do really well on WW for some reasons. It will be gone in 4 or 5 months - certainly before summer.
Because most of my friends are girls and straight people who don't care if I've put on a little weight...not EVERYONE is a shallow HK queen, you know. Putting on weight doesn't automatically make everyone hate you.
It just makes you hate yourself.
Did you smoke some good weed and get the munchies OP?
go for a walk or a jog - burn those calories off
Thanks, R2. I think I'm going to get off my lazy ass and dust off my Insanity DVDs (and delete the fucking Dominos app from my phone.)
In my case though, it was partially the result of a botched surgery that fucked up my metabolism.
I was already gaining slowly and I just ballooned after the surgery.
I'm also bi-polar, so I haven't tried to take it off yet. (MI thinking: I should just kill myself anyway, so why bother.)
Sorry, that sounded unintentionally whiny.
Anyway, bottom line is you can take it off, the good part is you've recognized it and are suitably appalled.
Read Gary Taubes' book, Why We Get Fat and What To Do About It.
Welcome to your new metabolism, it hits near 30
Nah, metabolism should change around 40 not 30. Damn, these younger generations are too fat. Too much drinking for no reason and too easy to get food. Just eat that app now, OP. Replace it with one for a sushi place if you need take out.
Good luck, OP.
It is really very simple. Go on Dr.Gott's no sugar no flour diet. Basically you can eat what you want, no bread, no any kind of flour and no sugar. YOU ARE AN ADDICT, addicted to sugar and pasty white flour.
No flour, noodles, pasta etc sound impossible.
You can eat
corn tortillas made from ground corn which most are
Polenta, polenta lasagna is wonderful. There is a whole world of polenta recipes.
OP just don't keep delicious food in your house.
You are right, R10, and I'm going to try it. I am going to cut out all flours and sugars this week, and see what happens.
My two cents, OP... you are isolating, becoming anti-social, and over-consuming a substance -- in your case, food. This might be a sign of clinical depression.
Maybe you just love great food.
I'm an alcoholic who loves cheap Vodka from a plastic bottle. I isolate so that I can feed my addiction and not deal with things. I can't blame my behavior on a love for great Vodka.
At 30, 40 lbs overweight is too much, but who am I to judge?
I feel great when I am sober, but the pull to feed my addictions is sometimes stronger. It becomes a biochemical dependence thing.
Pizza has delicious carbs and fats that give the brain reward signals and a short-term feeling of well-being.
That's why you ate the whole pizza.
Your path and mine do not usually have good outcomes. But it is possible to change behaviors. Good luck.
I can eat an entire Digiorno's flat crust pizza. I also only eat that the entire day.
It balances out.
Drinking, over eating, too many cats, too much time on message boards - we're all so miserable.
R10 offers some excellent advice eat more whole grains, and they even make whole grain pasta.
Everybody knows that 25 is middle age in the gay world
"Jayden" - lol - gay porn has forever ruined male names.
Too many cats is the main reason for weight gain.
Um wait. They don't really make whole grain pasta...they have to crush the grains into flour, which causes the blood sugar to rise as fast as normal flour, spurring cravings to binge on more. Whole wheat flour, garbanzo bean flour, it doesn't really make a difference. Spaghetti squash can be tasty, though; and it's lower carb.
It sounds like you do have the onset of a food addiction, and you might want to read lots of websites. Not having sugar or flour or starch is sometimes known as "abstinent" eating, and there are many accessible cookbooks for it, some of which are online and free.
I saw a gay (he would stress that he's bisexual, but whatever) therapist for years. He pointed out that, "You might be considered fat/overweight among (often picky) gays, but among the general population, not really." At the time, I was 6' and around 205.
[quote]At the time, I was 6' and around 205.
If the weight was distributed throughout your body and not just concentrated in your belly, you may have qualified as fit-fat. Or bear.
In the general population, that's height-weight proportionate.
In absolute terms, you were at least 25 lbs overweight.
It happens to a lot of people. Some people drink, some people smoke, some people take pills. It's adiction, nothing new.
Just reading this I am now craving antipasto. Just wanted to share.
We have been warning "22and2hot" for years that this would happen some day.
I'm craving oxygen.
I cannot WAIT to see you when you are BARELY 50. I'm sure it is going to be horrifying!!!
Not all middle aged people are fat OP.
How is it possible to eat a whole pizza? (Don't) FUCK ME.
OP you get kudos for your honesty- I finally lost the 40 pounds I put on (and my boyfriend dumped me over it)... Took me a long time- you can't lost the weight if your heart isn't into it- When it happens it happens.
40 lbs in one year is a LOT. I mean, at that rate and at your current habits (a whole pizza at one sitting?) you'd weigh 300+ lbs in only a few more years.
I say keep that photo prominent and get a plan, change the pattern because the next 40 lbs are going to look even worse on you than these do.
eat less, drink more. learn to drown your problems away, don't eat them. you sound like a menstruating female instead of a gay.
I'm surprised at how many people are surprised that someone could eat a whole pizza in one sitting.
OP is at least 60 years old.
Welcome to my world, except I fluctuate from 10-20 lbs overweight. In my 20's, NYC. Oh, and add lots of weed to that equation.
Psychotherapy twice a week (one is a group, one is private)
But also, highly functioning, successful, outgoing at work. Most people would have no idea I have these fun little mental health issues.
R33, Do you give life coaching sessions!?
Mmmmmmm......pasta carbonara sounds good!
I just pulled a pizza out my oven, about the eat the entire thing! Fuck that pre Thanksgiving diet!
Ugh, I'm jealous R39. My pre-Thanksgiving diet is killing me to the point where the rancid meat on this BBC America repeat of Kitchen Nightmares is making me hungry.
r40, I couldnt take it anymore. Im going to try to eat like a bird until next Thursday, and then I will again eat like a fat ass!
Yeah, R41, if I make it until then, I doubt there will be any food left for everyone else at my Thanksgiving dinner table.
R30, please share how you did it.
R30, your boyfriend dumped you because you gained weight? WTF? Did he tell you this?