Why are so many mothers so critical of their children?
Is there a psychological explanation for this?
Those people are usually critical of everybody in their lives, not just their children. It's an incredibly destructive trait. My sister had it and she used it on my nephew when he was young. I'd call her out on it when I would visit. She'd back off for a while.
It's because they only see them as extensions of their own self and not separate individuals in their own right. And they hate themselves and/or are insecure and anxious about who they are. Their lack of control over another person aggravates them and breeds contempt. Narcissistic personality disorder.
OP, only on DL are mothers invariably "domineering" and "endlessly critical" of their children. The overwhelming majority of mothers are entirely supportive of their children. The ones who aren't, however, tend to raise the bitchiest and whiniest gay sons, so we get to *hear* endless bullshit about "Mother being this" and "Mother being that" that is actually wildly disproportionate to the population as a whole.
lord r3, have you ever read a book, been to a movie, browsed a psychology text book, seen the line at the pharmacy?
yes MOST mothers are supportive....the stories abound....wow, just wow....you are on your own planet
I've known one hyper critical mother and a whole boatload of asshole fathers. But hey, at least they bothered to stick around.
let me guess r6....you are a lesbian.
Domineering mothers are responsible for gay males.
You see a weak father and domineering mother are found in virtually every gay male.
Of course gays deny it, but carefully worded questionnaires designed to ferret out such info, find this is always the case.
Show me a gay male and I will show you three things
1) A weak father, domineering mother
2) A gay male who denies this
3) Everyone else who knows it's true, but won't talke about it.
r8 took Psych 101 and thinks he knows it all.
R2 = correct answer
by r8 standards all jewish men should be gay
I'm surprised you use a computer, r8. You spout off antiquated bullshit psychology, yet you use "modrin new-fangled typin' teevees."
BTW, Honey Boo Boo called to correctly announce that she's more sophisticated than you.
because a bitch is gonna Bitch!
R8, take your cunt back to freeper land.
F&F R8 for homophobic hate speech. Perpetuating crap like this is not what the gay DL is for, bitch.
Granted I don't know a lot of mothers, but the ones I do know aren't even remotely critical of their children. Their little darlings can do no wrong and any suggestion otherwise will bring about a hissing, screeching tantrum.
Even if the "child" in question is 20-something.
I'm very supportive of that creature that slithered out of my womb.
My mother used to tell me that everything I did reflected on her. I think that is your explanation. Narcissicism.
My Mother was wonderful and I miss her terribly.
R4,R7,R11= same MARY!
Old-school thinking was that you shouldn't praise a child, otherwise they'd have ego problems. New-school, and just as bizarre, advocates "my child is perfect." Many Mothers and Fathers could use courses or books in how to raise very happy, healthy offspring. How many think that they would take the time, or actually admit they need guidance in how to be a better role model?
[quote]Old-school thinking was that you shouldn't praise a child, otherwise they'd have ego problems.
I think this is true to some extent. I think my Mother was too quick to praise. It took me awhile to figure out that the world didn't revolve around me. I don't think my brother has yet to figure that out.