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Closing the Deal

Last night I reluctantly agreed to join some friends for a few drinks, and somehow I ended up meeting "Mr. Right." One of my friends kept goading me into talking to random guys because she knows how much I want to be in a relationship, but I'm a textbook introvert with low self esteem. Anyway, in an attempt to get my friend to stop trying to get me to talk to some guy I wasn't really interested in, I pointed out a guy at the bar who was more my type aesthetically. My friend eventually encouraged me to go to the bar with her to get us some more drinks, and surprise surprise, she decided to order from a spot right next to "Mr. Right." My friend initiated introductions and I apologized profusely as she tried to tell this guy how great I am. Fortunately, he was a good sport and an awkward first couple of minutes segued into him joining us at our table, where we talked until the bar started to close (a little over 3 hours). Our group then headed to another place to get a late night snack, and in brighter light he was even more handsome. I ended up driving the guy home and we exchanged numbers before hugging each other goodnight. Here's the deal: I want to keep in touch with this guy and see where things might lead; however, I feel like I need to strike the right balance between being enthusiastic and playing it cool. I'm not exaggerating when I call him "Mr. Right"...he really does possess a lot of the attributes that I tend to be drawn to in terms of looks, personality, interests and goals. At the same time, I'm idealizing him and it'd be naive of me to act like me and him are destined to live happily ever after. I guess all I need are some suggestions on how to proceed from here. My goal is to build interest/momentum without coming across as too strong. I have the dating skills of a junior high schooler due to the sheltered life I lived up until 26. Now that I'm 31, I think it's time to start taking chances and quit playing it so safe (i.e., always being the pursued and never being the pursuer). Advice?

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