How legitimate is it for women to get upset when their husbands jack off?

Are they just trying to control them and being inappropriately intrusive and typically (we need to talk about this)... or does it really really have some serious psychological effect on them that causes them to go into some deep self doubt and identity crisis. Answers from women only, please.

• It depends completely on what he's jacking off to.

• I have no idea why anyone would feel this way. If somebody wants to jack off, let them. It's not like the woman is going to drop everything and come running every time her man suddenly gets horny for five minutes. I've never heard of a man doing that, why should women? It's probably a religious thing - "jacking off is evil," or something. Sexual ignorance.

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• im really interested, R1. Can you elaborate? If you are female, do you have any experience with this?

• I'm relieved. It lets me off the hook for a few days.

• It depends on when and where he's doing it. Somewhere private - fine. In the bed next to the wife while he thinks she's asleep - not so much.

• Agree w/ R1. Rape and gonzo porn pisses us off (women) and rightfully so. Otherwise I, and most women on Earth, don't give a shit.

• R1 has a point. If he was jacking off to pictures of cows, watermelons or horribly mutilated, tied up dead bodies, that would be troubling. On second thought, watermelons would be funny.

• Don't really care tbh so long as it's not with someone else. Don't care if it is to images or fantasy however.

• It's his busness and his fantasies. Trying to control that in your partner is dangerous territory. When they leave your ass don't be surprised. What someone fantasizes about and what they want to happen in real life are often unrelated.

• "Answers from women only, please." Ever thought that you might be asking in the wrong place, OP ?

• so, it's about you being comfortable with his particular fantasies and not really thinking about his biology?

• OP DL is probably not the best place to carry out a straw poll due to the nature of those who are likely to be reading. I can't really see any Sarah Palin apologists posting or even reading here.

• I know that men like their private JO but I really regret that I can't participate in some way. I wish he could save it all up for me, if I'm not there. I've never understood women who turn their man down.

• are you kidding, R10. That seems to be the only people on here these days.

• The guy is really saying that his hand is more sexually attractive than his wife/girlfriend.

• Lester?

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• "I've never understood women who turn their man down." Then let me explain it you. Women are not handcuffed to their man's penis 24/7. They have jobs, kids, they are physically gone. They have periods, some women like having sex then, some men don't want to, some women get cramps and diarrhea and the last thing on their minds is sex. They get pregnant and don't always feel up to it. They get sick. They or their husbands travel for business, sit in hotel rooms alone. The idea that a woman is an inanimate toilet that is always available no matter what, or else they are a bad woman, is offensive as hell. Women are human, they are not just holes. Married people jerk off (not just men), because their partner is not there or not up for sex, and they're horny.

  If you're looking for a hole that's always open, buy an inflatable doll.

• gonzo porn

  http://ts3.explicit.bing.net/th%3Fid%3Di.4869888073859734%26pid%3D15.1

• Get lost, OP. This is a gay site. I'm sick of threads inviting straight people to talk about their problems.

• As with teenage sons, discretion is advised. In other words, allow them this private pleasure.

• If somebody is really interested in what kind of porn would turn off a woman, any porn that shows women being raped or beaten is scary to a lot of women, because it means you are living in the same house with someone who might think beating the crap out of you would be really fun. Men can't always differentiate between fantasy and reality. I was once involved with a guy with a huge porno collection. At first, it didn't bother me, because the porn was all about people having fun. He did not want to watch it with me, but ok. It's his life. After a period of time, he got into S/M stuff, starting with bondage, then scat, other stuff he hid from me. When they're hiding it, it's not good. He did not want me touching it and I respected his wishes. One day I was putting away some of his work papers, and some porn fell out. Pictures of beaten, bruised, drugged up women having sex with animals, and underage stuff. Not commercial fake stuff, this was real stuff. I have no idea where he got it. I asked him about it, he said the people in the film were just "exploring their sexuality." It was obvious that some of those people barely knew where they were, and the underage...let's just say I moved out. The most frightening thing about it was that he seemed to have no idea that these people looked like they were in real trouble. He thought they were "having fun." That's so disturbing I didn't feel safe any more.

• It isn't always the women who are too tired for sex, sometimes the woman is the one who wants more action, and the man who isn't interested. So here's another circumstance... if a woman wants more sex with the husband, and he'd rather jerk off to porn, she's going to feel rejected and the relationship is in trouble.

• R17, You seem very anti-male. IF you'd read my post correctly, I said that I regret it when I'm not able to be there for my man. He would NEVER want me to neglect work related duties. Still even if I am very sick, I would participate in some form of sexual activity. I've heard too many women complain that their men have affairs, and then talk about how often they've turned their man down, because "they didn't feel like it." Maybe that's why I've always had my choice of extremely desirable men in my life. I would NEVER "not feel like it" because my man always really turns me on. It's not just because he's extremely handsome either. He's very kind and understands what I need from him as well.

• [quote] Men can't always differentiate between fantasy and reality. But women exist on a higher plane.

• I didn't need to see that, r18. That being said - someone please explain "gonzo porn".

• R23's man has 6 different women. A month.

• If he was jerking off to pictures of men, I'd say she has a brief. Not so much the fact that he's jerking off (everybody should have a right to that) but because of what it reveals about his real sexual preference.

• R26, Would your man, when you only knew him a few months, drive more than 6 hours RT to take you to your Mother's funeral, put on his best suit, and hold your hand the whole time? Not all men are selfish jerks.

• Was the suit purple, R28? Just asking.

• What is gonzo porn?

• Why is there always that woman who doesn't want sex with her man? If I were a woman I'd have my cunt primped and ready 24 hrs a day. I don't understand women who don't love good dick.

• Only with the pool boy, OP.

• I wonder if the woman decided to buy porn and fingered herself to it a few times a week if the man would be accepting. It seems that men are much more insecure about these things than women are. Men HATE to be cuckolded.

• Imagine the responses if OP let gay men answer about their relationships!

• R29, Purple? At a funeral? LOL No it was a custom made navy suit, to match his eyes.

• [R25] and [R30] - here is info on Gonzo Porn.

  http://bit.ly/TTItYI

• Women masturbate almost as much as men, they can just be more discrete about it.

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• I agree with r19. Who the fuck cares what a straight cunt thinks? Straight women GO FIND YOUR OWN SITE. You know, where you can exchange recipes and talk about Fifty Shades of Grey.