Anyone had sex with someone who has Asperger's?

OP, I doubt all people with Asperger's Syndrome make love the same way.

Yep, it was like poking a robot. Loved it, hot chicken in Atlanta who had glassy eyes and a forehead big enough to use as an ironing board.

I'd rather upload my penis to a disk drive.

Someone at DL is majorly obsessed with Aspies. Por que?

Yes, several guys. I fucked one - he said he wanted to move on from being a virgin but girls were not interested. I tried being gentle and sweet and he just didn't get it. He kept looking around and acting impatient. So I threw him down on his stomach (Once committed they prefer definite moves, I found.) and just fucked him for a long time, and kept moving positions when he seemed distracted. He kept saying he liked it, that it was what he wanted. The lack of emotional responsiveness was offputting, but he had a hell of a hot little body.

Afterwards we never had sex again (He had done it and that was that.) but he kept "recommending" me to his acquaintances who were in the same boat. I called him at first when this kid showed up at my place and asked what the hell he was doing. He explained he thought it was a good idea for people to experience a sexual release with no string and I was reliable. I started laughing and said okay but gave him strict criteria of the kinds of guys it was okay to give my contact info to. And he followed through.

No, they're not all the same, and some (he was in college and so were they, except for one brother) were just socially backward. I had trouble getting rid of two, who decided we were boyfriends or something. Mostly on the thin side. I told him I couldn't get with fat guys. No athletes but they were young enough to be appealing. When he moved on to graduate school out of state it ended.

Fortunately he agreed to the ball gag before I bound him to the sling and fucked him silly.

I am an Aspie and I've had sex with Aspies and Neurotypicals. I'm very sexual...it's just hard for me to get past the awkwardness in between dinner and the bedroom. I need a little push, so I tend to go for people who are a little dominant in bed, although not to the point of it being a dom/sub sort of thing. Then they are surprised that I'm very uninhibited and active, and not at all shy.

As for the Aspies I have had sex with, some were great and some were terrible, at about the same rate as the non-Aspies were good/bad. This doesn't surprise me at all: social skills don't matter as much in the bedroom. If a guy who claims to be a gentleman thinks he should also be a gentleman in bed, he's 100% sure to SUCK (and not in a good way) at sex. Politeness and social grace are not part of good sex.

They don't take real initiative, just hint. They can't come out and ask for what they want. They are totally normal if they're on E or Molly. They are socially backwards & apprehensive after all but forget about themselves on the MDNA.

Pot helps too. Unfortunately there's some sort of "drought" in my area and I haven't been able to get any in ages. Maybe I'll start a thread about what to do when that happens...

Ugh, all this "Aspie" shit is so tiresome. It isn't even a real disease, it's just a fucked-up excuse to be a socially retarded self-absorbed asshole. Get over yourselves already and get a fucking hobby.

That's the suck job.

I'm a girl with Asperger's,

I regard myself as being quite straightforward when it comes to sex. I've never had any problem telling people what I want... and men who've had sex with me have never complained either.

As for mechanical: We're not robots. We might not appreciate some of the subtleties of social interaction, but provided you meet someone who doesn't care much for it either... there is no problem. For the record, none of the men I've had sex with have had Asperger's either.

R5 the Aspie Fuck Doctor is funny as hell

Aspie Fuck Doctor should be added to the Datalounge Music Festival lineup.

Yes. Several people, actually.

Asperger's Syndrome is now a term reserved exclusively for use by amateur and quack psychologists. There is no such diagnosis in the current diagnostic manual.

[quote] They don't take real initiative, just hint. They can't come out and ask for what they want. They are totally normal if they're on E or Molly. They are socially backwards & apprehensive after all but forget about themselves on the MDNA.

Swap out "E," "Molly" and "MDNA" for alcohol, and you've just described me.

Oh God. I thought I was just shy.

I suggested to my shrink to test me for both ADD and Asperger's and he dismissed both as not being real and keeps insisting that I am just depressed and in need of having a daily schedule (including daily hygiene regimens) and make lists of things I want to do and cross them off one by one when I accomplished them. And of course to take my prescribed meds which make me feel numb.

R10 Amen

Asperger's is the new fibromyalgia.

I think my mom is on the autism spectrum but I have no plans to fuck her.

You can always spot an aspie: white belt, on pants pulled high above the waistline.

An odd stride that's oblivious to the world around them. No eye contact. Poor hygiene.

An "I love Justin Bieber" (male or female) t-shirt, with deeply contoured sweat stains.

Hunched shoulders, big pot belly with no muscle definition whatsoever.

In fact, one of the hallmarks of Asperger's and Autism is the inability to build a muscular body.

Aspies tend to be double-jointed or hyperflexable. They are often attracted to yoga, of which detrimental effects I have written about here at the Datalounge quite comprehensably.

They tend to have stringy arms. Again, it is very difficult for an aspie to build muscle. You will NEVER see an aspie weightlifter. They cannot buff-out.

This is why skinny-fat women should pursue buff men as potential dads, to counter-act the aspie genes. The same goes for skinny guys--they need to seek out athletic, muscular women.

The tragedy of the Lanza family is that Nancy was a skinny-fat girl who married a non-athletic finance nerd, and these two only compounded their mutual aspie DNA.

Totally agree, R10 and R20. How long are we going to have to put up with this bullshit fake disorder? It's self-absorbed, no social skills and nothing else.

Totally agree with R16, too.

And the "aspie" bit is just nauseating.

Aspie on Seinfeld?

I'm told I have this shit. Though I agree that it's a bunch of bullshit. My oddity with sex? After doing it once with a person I have no interest in them anymore. Sexually at least. None. Zero. If that has anything to do with anything who knows.

R23, what the hell is a skinny-fat person?

And all the fat-skinny people, and all the tall-short people

And all the nobody people, and all the somebody people

[quote] After doing it once with a person I have no interest in them anymore. Sexually at least. None. Zero. If that has anything to do with anything who knows.

Other possible diagnoses:

You could be a) A straight male under age 25 b) A gay male under age 25 c) Male

R24, you realise that awkward social skills doesn't equal self absorbed, yes?

R31, they are self-absorbed OR have zero social skills. Sometimes both.

They tend to have huge dicks.

It's not fake either is Autism. Who would want to be socially awkward? There are tests online to see if you fall under the spectrum and to what degree. My SO's pricey Manhattan psychiatrist totally missed the ball when he prescribed him Pristique and Adderral. Nothing worked and it was up to me to figure out he's an Aspie. Had him tested and I was correct. We're a well-to-do couple and could afford this doctor. This downtown doctor was in the pocket of big pharma. Thousands of dollars later and my own common sense saved the day. Most psychiatrists are useless and crazy not to mention arrogant. However, the online tests available nail it. Surprisingly, an NT, I took the same online spectrum test also and learned a few things about myself. Part of my personality even had a little spectrum bent on the OCD characteristics. We're both info junkies and spend hours researching topics for hours. Similar in this way but I'm a social butterfly so his social ineptness prompted a visit to a shrink. He has a cousin who is a full on Autistic, btw. It's genetic.

R34, thanks so much for your post and information!

Your are correct that many psychiatrists are not up to par; many are simply pill-pushers for big pharma. I've had my share of good and bad.

If you see this post, will you please provide the info and/or link to the "online tests" you mentioned? I'm very curious about them. Thanks in advance and glad for your successes and ability to afford good care!

Most people who self-diagnose with Asperger's do not have Asperger's. They're just assholes.

I love r29.

I wish I had random college aspies showing up at my door for an NSA fuck. Maybe there's a mark I can put on the door?

r34 how does having as pie relate to depression?

[quote] My SO's pricey Manhattan psychiatrist totally missed the ball when he prescribed him Pristique and Adderal. Nothing worked and it was up to me to figure out he's an Aspie. Had him tested and I was correct. We're a well-to-do couple and could afford this doctor. This downtown doctor was in the pocket of big pharma.

Stuff like this scares me to no end. There are people out there who do have social skills deficits for all sorts of reasons. Some of these folks are unhappy and desperate to connect and when they feel denied their own feelings, it must be a stew. Please don't confuse a neurological syndrome with people who really want to be part of the human race, even though it is super-hard to connect.

I'm not talking about extremes like Adam Lanza here, but regular of the nerdiest kind. Please don't confuse him with them.

The latter kind is my brother.

Is there some Lanza shame contest going on?

R36, shut it. I don't know how to post links but just Google it and the tests will come up. The results end up showing a big pie chart. There's only like 2 tests available for Aspies online. You don't need to get tested or see a shrink like we did. The online test was free and nailed it. My guy has a fear of authority figures and would be totally useless if someone was being thrown on the subway tracks. I'd spring into action but not him...and he hates himself for it. If an argument in public happened, he wouldn't have my back. He worries about what strangers think about him, like in restaurants. His social perceptions are so out there. Law abiding to a fault. I could go on and on. I've tried to make him aware that not everyone is looking at us and most people are too involved with themselves to be bothered caring about what we're doing. The outside help was sought after he would critique MY social interactions at family events. His social perceptions were scary. He was bullied growing up but now I'm paying the price. For years I thought it was a depression plague and thought the meds would help him to see life in color, be spontaneous, joyful. The meds didn't work because he has Aspergers. The lack of empathy for myself and our pets at times makes me realize I need to pursue other relationships to have my needs met with another soul who knows how to "connect". I love him but at times I feel like I went out and adopted a special needs child. It's real, Aspergers. Nobody wants to be like this. He's a millionaire, makes serious bank at his computer based company. We're both doing really well financially. Want for nothing except for him to be comfortable in his own skin. He's real easy on the eyes as well which makes his whole social ineptness even more frustrating to witness.

R34/R41, is your doctor seeing a psychiatrist now? If so, would you mind sharing his or her name? It's very difficult finding a psychiatrist in Manhattan that has a practice that deals well in Asperger's/high-functioning autism for adults.

R23 is high. Aspies are rigid and clumsy, not fluid. They can't dance and have no natural rhythm. There's a couple of dumbfucks on here who are playing out their own warped personal perception of things. To be expected on an anonymous board, I guess.

R36/R41, I meant to write "significant other" not "doctor".

R35, if you decide to get confirmation from a center that tests for Aspergers, use a fake name. The cat is now out of the bag that Autistic and Aspie people can totally snap in their frustration if pushed and lead to violence a normal person would only resort to if under the influence of a substance. They don't have the insight to intercede an escalation. You won't have the warning that you have when you can see someone is under the influence. Always look out for the quiet, meek ones. They're in no way similar to a person suffering substance addiction. The addict usually has a sense of empathy. Their problems occur with an outside chemical influence. An addict will rise to normalcy when the substance is removed but spectrum people are fucked. Their fix isn't so easy. There's no escaping their problems except death and just hope they didn't procreate. Sorry.

Christ, R45 could you please do yourself with some scientific evidence? Oh, noes. Sorry. Your more interested in having a flurry of oral activity.

Stop being a stupid cunt.

Easy bake!

Thanks, R46. And with great gratification. We do that, 'ya know.

R42, no this doctor highly rated on the review sites but he's not so astute. Problem is, been looking for years for a stand up shrink and I've come to believe most of them are flawed. A wise woman once told me "People go into psychiatry because they are hoping to figure themselves out". She's right. I continue to look in the NY metro area for about 10 years now and finding a stable psychiatrist is like seeking a unicorn. I've run into so many clowns while looking for myself and others. Can't say I've ever met a grounded, stable psychiatrist ever. Most were dangerous, arrogant meglomaniacs. My advice to you is to seek out an internist or regular family doctor to try a round of tried and true regular old anti-depressants. Just like Adam Lanza exposed the truth about those on the spectrum, the time will come when psychiatrists are exposed as the arrogant frauds they truly are. People who focus on psychiatry as their specialty are really only trying to figure out their weird,insane selves and the crazy families they hail from. It's not you, it's the psychiatrist. Never forget this.

I've really worried and freaked out this past September when I realized how dangerous those on the spectrum can be. Why? They're relentless if they feel they've been done wrong. Look up their reactions if they feel insulted on WebMD. Exposes their violence. I've actually been stalked by an Aspie since high school. I couldn't understand why she was still holding a grudge after all of these years. Turns out her Aspie father is the grandfather to two Aspie kids. She works at a local hospital and has even been caught intervening in my and my dad's hospital records which got her a hefty suspension. I would never have known all of this if I didn't have a friend who worked in the same hospital who told me the going ons. I was freaked but then it dawned on me she was stuck at 14 but I didn't know why. Turns out both her kid and nephew are Aspies and looking back, so was she. Any normal person would just get on with life but the whole Lanza going back to school days made sense. Since this tragedy, I make sure my doors are locked to protect myself from other Aspies but the best part is...I'm living with one.

I'm glad we have so many qualified psychiatric diagnosticians on DL--how generous of you to give your very thoughtful assessment of AS as "bullshit." Trust me, if you have ever known someone on the spectrum (I have had a few students), you would recognize it as more than self-absorption or garden-variety narcissism. What a moralizing bunch of pricks you are! Has it been over-diagnosed and probably mis-diagnosed? Probably--welcome to the inexact art of psychiatry. Doesn't mean it doesn't exist.

R5 That's rather sweet. Sex therapist to the socially awkward.

Did they all want to get fucked or did they do other things?

Aspie...ADD... ADHD.... most of it is absolute bullshit.

It's mostly a fashionable excuse for obnoxious behavior. An excuse for bad parenting. It's a way for big pharma to sell ever more drugs. It's a way for doctors to have more patients.

Note too, that these fashionable phony illnesses are mostly an American phenomena.

In the USA, "the awkward years" are not allowed to be lived and worked through... it is now considered an illness, given a new name and powerful medication.

Children are often bored and fidgety. They daydream, their minds wander. What was once a natural part of growing up is now considered an illness...ADHD.... with the encouragement of the drug industry.

Natural personality traits that are chapters in our lives... part of our personal evolution... are put under a microscope and blown way out of proportion.

What a scenario: kids strung out on mood altering prescription drugs... hooked for life. Combined with the USA's lax gun laws.

Happy New Year...

Completely agree, R52.

I really want to hear more from R5.

I'm concerned about the people that are self-diagnosing in this thread. Sorry, R41, but you sound like one of those people that convinced themselves that they or someone they love has ADHD just to have a way to excuse odd behavior; sadly, the 'in' thing is to have a form of Autism and that's sad.

Your partner doesn't sound like he has AS but an extreme form of anxiety. The fact that you are a 'well-off' couple that resorted to using a free test online (you get a major side-eye for that) just because you didn't like what a medically trained professional told you, is beyond scary. Nancy Lanza thought she knew better than doctors and now she's dead.

Fuck off, r41.

Assburgers has been around for nearly 50 years. It ain't new, dumbasses.

Are many of you saying that you don't believe Autism exists?!

r41 sounds like an asshole. His partner's a bit shy probably, and r41 is a braying cunt of a social butterfly who wants his bf to be on "his level". But he won't consider ending the relationship, because the partner is rich.

This is assuming his posts are real. Which I reallllllly doubt.

Aspies suffer from very unique physical disabilites. I do feel for them in that they can rarely articulate their troubles or hate to disclose their issues.

They often share digestive problems, high blood pressure, speech impediments, anxiety, and an aversion to sounds and smells. It must be hell for many of them.

Maybe they lack empathy because they are so overwhelmed by their senses and can't manage it all effectively.

Aspergers does have an official clinical diagnosis and is accepted by the medical community. Case closed.

I've read that both Mozart and Einstein had Aspergers. Don't know if it's true.

Also, the daughter of Burt Bacharach and Angie Dickinson had Aspergers and comitted suicide.

It can be a lonely life for them.

[quote]Note too, that these fashionable phony illnesses are mostly an American phenomena.

PHENOMENON = SINGULAR

PHENOMENA = PLURAL

There is a test online where you can find out what kind of Harry Potter character you are.

r61

So did Multiple Personality Disorder. But we all know that was bullshit.

And homosexuality was a disorder too. So just because something is in the "book" doesn't make it true or real.

No, R65, but it doesn't rule it out as false.

I'm not saying it isn't real. But diagnosing yourself as Asperger's because no one at The Eagle will go home with you is a bit extreme.

It isn't real.

Hell, I don't know. I have Schizophrenia, 30 years old, and have not done it. If i did I would probably feel nothing. p.s. I had to write this quickly before I forgot to finish.

Fuck asperger's, piece of shit ruined my life.

Well it may not be "real", but Adam Lanza was haywire and something was definitely wrong with that weird sick freak and his mother too.

Although Aspergers people will now fall under the "Autism Spectrum Disorder" diagnosis in the DSM 5, that's hardly the same as the diagnosis going away. If you were Aspergers before you are now ASD, unless you were very mild Aspie in which case you might be clumped into the new diagnosis called "Social Communication Disorder" - those children will likely not qualify for intervention services. Many see the DSM 5 as a way for insurance companies to keep more profit in their pockets by denying coverage for those edge cases.

As far as sex, the aspies I have known are less aggressive with initiating their sexuality or wants / needs in bed - much the same as has been described here by others. Communicating you want sex and how you want it is still 'communicating' and Aspies have a disability there that doesn't go away in the bedroom.

r71 and others...

I sincerely hope you and others do not have the opinions that you have about Aspergers based on mass-murderer Adam Lanza. There are so many things wrong with this.

Whatever developmental disabilities or mental disorders Adam Lanza had (and we don't know what he actually had, was diagnosed with, or was misdiagnosed with) this young man had lived in total social isolation for years with little to no intervention. He had quit going to school, had cut off communication with his Dad and brother, had no job, no friends and did not leave his room. All clear signs of major depression and possibly psychosis.

He was also at the age when the bigger signs of schizophrenia surface, and if Adam Lanza had schizophrenia it was likely untreated in any way. He had clearly reached a point of psychosis and had lost touch with reality. The most common source of severe psychosis in young adults is schizophrenia.

We should all educate ourselves about the signs of schizophrenia. See the link.

@ reply 10. This is a very late reply but I wanna tell you to go fuck yourself. This is a typical alpha monkey bitch ass ignorant statement.

I almost did, but he wasn't in my program. He had a different major.

To those who think Aspergers is "not a real diagnosis" I suggest you get a "real education"

Aspergers is High Functioning on the Autism spectrum. It is absolutely real.

ADHD however- is a series of symptoms- most of which have a root cause. Either food allergies/sensitivities, cognitive differences, learning differences, even boredom.

If your Dr feels Aspergers isn't real, you need a new Dr.

It is not an excuse for social awkwardness, it allows you to recognize social interactions need to be taught to some in a different manor then most.

As for sex- many are asexual. But I landed A hot blooded one, the PIV sex is phenomenal!!!!!! Hours!!!! But foreplay non-existent. I can't even give him a BJ or hand manipulation he's too tactilly sensitive.

OP, Queen Ann Romney would know.

2 years with an aspie. Sex is horrible, conversations are like talking to a child. Unable to adapt to any situation.

Aspies are fun suckers! They appear to care but truly don't, they are skilled at deceiving when it benefits them, otherwise they're truthful to a fault. Very convenient! They're also huge ego maniacs and have ZERO empathy. A hungry mother bear with cubs has more empathy than an aspie. They will drive you nuts. They don't make sense and don't communicate and its all YOUR fault, at least in their sick heads. Listen to me: THEY DO NOT CARE ABOUT YOU! And they never will! The sooner you run away from them the sooner you will find yourself and true happiness. They make you think you are the CRAZY one!! You will wish you had never met them. BELIEVE ME! RUN!

R34 Autism has nothing to do with this fake Aspergers shit. Autistic is another word for retarded.

This topic came up at a dinner part and as several people shared their experiences, it would seem most Aspies are a clumsy fuck.

Don't bother attempting a relationship with one as it will be mostly one sided and your heart will be broken. Aspies and alcoholics both lack the ability to form a mutual bond with someone. Your needs and feelings will never be a consideration, let alone a priority.

r65, I believe multiple personality disorder is real. My first job was as a nurse's aide in a nursing home. There was a cranky old woman who talked to herself a lot and would swear if she bothered to talk to you at all. Her arm and hand had atrophied. The nurses kept a washcloth in her closed hand to keep her fingernails from cutting her.

One day I walked into her room and she smiled at me and nodded her head. Her face was relaxed and she looked quite pretty. I walked up to her to make sure it was her and she extended her hand modesty, like she had southern charm. It was her but it wasn't.

I flipped out and ran down to the nurse's station and asked the nurse if Emily was a multiple. The nurse stood up and said, "Oh, is Helen here? I'll get the scissors." I gave her a funny look and she told me the only time she could cut the woman's finger nails was when she switched personalities.

No way was this woman faking it.

I test high on the Aspie scale but have never been diagnosed. Sex-wise I'm great if I'm 100% in control: I like it when my husband just lays there and I do what I want. If he takes control, which he usually insists on doing (Scorpio), I hate it because I hate being touched, groped, yanked around and pawed at.

R82 And you are with him because??

[quote]So did Multiple Personality Disorder. But we all know that was bullshit.

Multiple Personality Disorder was not debunked; rather, it was renamed Dissociative Identity Disorder. It's still a diagnosis, but it's now called DID.

[quote]conversations are like talking to a child.

R78 how do you mean?

R83, we've been together almost 20 years and there's a lot more to people and relationships than just sex. In fact it's the only thing we don't have in common. I love him and our life together with our little pet family, and I guess he feels the same about me to the extent that he can live with the sexual differences (or maybe he just gets it elsewhere?!).

No. I've never been that hard up.

I agree that the Aspie Fuck Doctor's post at r5 is one of the funniest I've read in a long time.

I want a reality show called "Aspie Fuck Doctor."

Jhhh

I think every single lesbian I have been with had it.

I truly believe that SJW and this gender fluid shit was created by these demented aspies!

r91, eww! those are the type of lesbians I loathe

Yes. Worst sex I've ever had.

Best sex I've ever had. Mindblowingly hot sex. He just couldn't get it up for me after about 9 months of dating (this is really common with them) and he started fucking around behind me back. Bastard.

Straight guy here, "dated" an aspie girl on and off for a couple of years. She had sex mostly because she knew guys liked it. She seemed to derive little enjoyment from it and preferred cuddling.

On the plus side she would do pretty much anything I wanted her to, wherever and whenever. She was a complete rag doll in bed though and anything that required actual skill such as being on top or giving blowjobs she utterly failed at and didn't even want to do. She would make strange unrelated non-sexual comments in the middle of it and I first thought she was being hurtful but then I realized she was just clueless.

She had zero ability to have an orgasm with another human in the room because it was "distracting." She said she was an avid masturbator but even then it would apparently take her 20 minutes and extreme concentration to get herself off.

She never really initiated unless she thought I was in the mood first, and when she did she had no ability to be sexy and just took off her clothes and stood there in front of me. I made the mistake of asking her to send me some nudie pics and she sent several weird, artless photos under harsh lighting that made her body look like a slab of meat.

She had a string of a few dozen one-night stands in her past from guys who basically used her and then discarded her after realizing they never wanted to hit that again. The vast majority of them she couldn't even remember their names.

Interestingly, the one good and memorable time we had together was when I gave her some stimulant drugs and then she turned into a normal confident sexual girl.

Feel free to bang an aspie girl as long as you always keep in mind that she's essentially your sex robot for the night. Half her mind will be trying to enjoy it and the other half will be a million miles away. Don't expect her to do much more than hold a position for you to do your thing while she waits for it to be over.

If you're looking for any sort of human connection you're not going to find it, because aspies do not have the ability to communicate or understand communication at that level. They're purely verbal creatures.

[quote] Someone at DL is majorly obsessed with Aspies.

Aspies and incels.

Because most of these caftan flappers take great comfort in separating both of them from the herd....even though they have a lot in common with one or both.

Easier to throw stones from what they think is their high horse.

[quote] There are people out there who do have social skills deficits for all sorts of reasons. Some of these folks are unhappy and desperate to connect and when they feel denied their own feelings, it must be a stew. Please don't confuse a neurological syndrome with people who really want to be part of the human race, even though it is super-hard to connect.

R67 following my short bout with schizoid depression and the revelation that I'm in my mid-20s having never had a sexual/romantic relationship before, well-meaning relatives and the shitty pro-bono counsellors my Doc assign me to keep "diagnosing" me with it. My best guess is that they're confusing Asperger's with AvPd which I likely really do have (perhaps developed as a protective mechanism post-depression?).

I have tested negative for Asperger's and autism, so idk why my therapist (a student, btw) and my Moms still insist I have it (Moms is kind of a nutty smothering Frau, now I think about it). Unlike Aspies/Auties I have a desire nature that shows in my body language and responsiveness to tactile contact (only if it's desired contact, though, obviously). It's easy to break my heart and I love talking about how I'm feeling, or showing affection. I'm also great with people and do well in my person-facing job as a customer service rep, where I'm always on the phone or chatting with clients. I care about certain loved ones (people and animals) intensely and I have empathetic personal interest particularly regarding the Arts.

I just struggle to progress or keep relationships intact because I have a fear of giving up space/autonomy and vulnerability, like a lot of other 'normies' in the world. From reading this thread I know I don't have such hang-ups or negative experiences like many on that part of the spectrum. I'm a little like R27 in that I find it awkward to have someone interested in me when I'm not really into them - I believe the kids call this 'lithromantic' or 'stone'.

I'm inclined to agree with R52, actually, that a lot of this spectrum-talk is just to atomise people, sell more pills & books and pay for more MD grants.

R78, why exactly are you in that relationship-- you sound beyond miserable and I don't comprehend why you live that way? Mary!

[quote]Anyone had sex with someone who has Asperger's?

Every time I masturbate.

R98, it's a myth that people with autism/Asperger's don't want human contact. Some are fine without it, some are simply more independent and are less prepared to make compromises than more social beings often do, some are desperate for relationships without having the skills to go about it, hence the inappropriateness and blundering that people associate with the syndrome.

I also meant to say that people mistakenly think that a lack of empathy necessarily comes with AS/autism, which isn't the case. It's a difficulty in seeing another person's point of view, which can be picked up over time, as can interpersonal and communication skills. I'm not saying you have it, but if you did it wouldn't be a negative thing or prevent you living a successful life.

It is probably attributed too much (as opposed to misdiagnosed), but that is because it's more visible now, and some think high-functioning autism has a certain cachet, having connotations of intelligence and quirkiness. However, the myths still abound.