Why am I (and why are so many other gay men) sexually attracted to men with muscles?
I can't figure it out. It's not that we need someone to do actual heavy lifting for us, or to physically protect me.
All muscles really mean is that someone is physically disciplined for a long period of time and has enough leisure time to go regularly to the gym.
I don't like men with too many muscles.
Just one big one.
Speak for yourself, hate muscle queens and remember , when you make love in front of a mirror, your both looking at the same person...and it isn't you!
I am older. Years ago most men had natural bodies and I was attracted to many types. Hairy, short, baby fatted. There was always something about almost any guy that I found appealing. A smile, pretty skin, big ass, thighs.
I care not a wit for the usual gay male today. Pumped so they all look alike, shaven bodies and crotches. BORING. Give me something unique. An insanely hairy ass, sunken chest, nerdy , wimpy. RED HEADS, did I say red heads? Small dicks........I see a group of gym rats and don't really even look.
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Sexual dimorphism. You are attracted to an aspect of one sex that is least like the feature of the sex you are not attracted. Women don't typically develop large musculatures, but men do.
Big muscles means a guy doesn't read or do anything else interesting with his time. They are blinking neon lights that say: M O R O N. And they're grotesque.
A big butt is more important for me than big muscles. And a nice face.
R6, So that theory isn't exactly true...
There is evidence that facially lesbians and bisexual women prefer more "masculine"-looking women. The women that straight women and straight men and gay men, on the other hand, find attractive are more feminine-featured. Straight women, straight men and gay men alike usually prefer masculine faces.
What's more, in low-pathogen and income-equal societies, women who are attracted to men find feminine men more attractive than masculine-featured men. So it's affected by environment as well as not entirely predicted by the intended's gender.
big muscles, little brain, tiny dick
A healthy body implies access to good nutrition and an active lifestyle.
A muscular body implies continuous access to good nutrition and repetitive, focused activity. It's visible proof the person is refraining from the traps of success - sloth and gluttony.
A hyper-muscular body (see Gigantism in Art) implies that if a muscular person is close to God's intended image of Man, a bigger physique is even closer.
Michelangelo Buonarroti was a size queen.
I like a football player's build. Like Tim Tebow. Muscles, but a little bit of beef, too.
I like skinny little twink bois
The bigger the better! Football linemen are my favorite!
They are gross, so I don't know why you are attracted to them.
[quote]I like a football player's build. Like Tim Tebow. Muscles, but a little bit of beef, too.
Amen! Perfect description, perfect example, R12.
I like lean, a swimmer's body. Emphasis on TONE, not size.
Because homosexuality relates more to warriors than hairdressers.
Hey OP, I've often thought about this too and while I'm not a fan of "big muscles", I love the shape that man's body takes when he's been working out.
Their posture alone makes me grin - shoulders backm standing tall - they look more confident, their walk sort of struts.
I love the image from the back with wider shoulders, narrower waist, leading to a tight ass.
In the front, pecs fill out a shirt, and again the flat stomach keeps leading my eye to his crotch.
And I love chest hair on a fit guy... I think hair accentuates the dimensions a body takes on when a guy has been developing his body.
Non of that happens with unfit or fat guys.
It's all of that, R19, plus it's the way you imagine how musky they'd probably smell. I see that pic of Tebow and it makes me want to lick the musky sweat off his body from head to toe.
I like muscles, but a handsome face turns me on the most. This guy has both.
Women seem less interested in muscles than gay men, but many women ike muscles, too. I think women are turned on by emotional things like love and attention, while men don't need love or caring to be turned on. It's strictly visual for us, and also sense of smell and touch.
very interesting peek there at the end, R21...
I'm a chubby chaser.
I sexualize someone that can protect me. I don't need a man to actually protect me, but the thought of someone who is able to do that is a total turn on. So, an older man who is naturally muscled and beefy does the trick every time.
A total muscle queen does not equal protector to me. It equals a narcissist. Does nothing for me.
I've always been into faces, but lately I've been checking out guys arms and legs. Big guns really send me and nice legs make me wet.
r19, your post told no one anything about the relevant question. You just said you like muscles too. You've added zero insight.
R28, you added nothing except pointless waste-of-time hostility.
For me it was a visceral thing. I was drawn to the images on the covers of bodybuilding magazines from my earliest memories.
They had a physical effect on me that I didn't understand until I was much older.
Delicious in garlic butter
It's an evolutionary adaptation. Big muscles signify power, competence, confidence, masculinity. The attraction is innate, as R30 suggests, because the reptilian part of our brains understands that a strong/fit alpha male can offer protection/survival. Everyone wants to score first prize--the leader of the pack.
[quote]R19, your post told no one anything about the relevant question. You just said you like muscles too. You've added zero insight.
I think we can assume that Porky at R28, can easily be mistaken for a sibling of Gayle Grinds and has never seen the inside of a gym.
r32, that sounds like bullshit pseudoscience to me.
That's what all the fundies say about evolution, R34.
Apples and oranges, r35, apples and oranges.
I and almost all biologists can back up evolutionary theory. But you can't back up your bullshit claim at r32--you just pulled it out of your ass.
r32, how is it survival of the fittest when this rock god can't impregnate us?
He can keep you safe from harm if you are in his favor.
Mmmm a good combination of muscles and fat YES. I need to feel jiggle and hardness in the right spots like Manuel Ferrara in his scenes with some jiggle on his stomach mmmmm lol.
Tim Tebow may have an okay body, but his face could make a freight train take a dirt road.
I've always been into muscular men particularly bodybuilders. That round ass gay men like is from muscles. When you develop a body like that you become more confident and you don't mind being naked. You are also happier because of the effects of working out.
The muscle fascination is mainly an obsession of femmies (who make up an extremely tiny portion of all homosexuals). Most every gay guy I've ever met is NOT into that. Yes, some definition looks great, but when you start adding bulk and the face gets fat, it goes downhill.
Man muscles make Momma's mussy as quivering and moist as a jello salad.
LMAO. I think r44 has just confirmed r43 as correct.
It's funny the dishonesty and denial on an anonymous forum about gay men's attraction to muscles. Anyone with eyes can look at the guys that get posted on the threads and all of them are muscular, usually swimmer-underwear model-fitness model physiques. But there have been bodybuilders.
There actually have been studies on sexual attraction. The other posts were right. It has to do with looking healthy (even if its not) looking, strong, leader, energetic, futile etc. We project all these ideals onto people just based on their looks weather they are true or not. All subconsciously of course.
Symmetry is another one. We like things that look balanced. The Greeks built entire cites based off this theory (The Golden Section). Human body was part of is. Hence all the muscular statues of naked men in Europe.
Discovery did a thing on the face a while back. The results:
R22, Many females like fit, athletic men (but not gym rats) because we assume they'll be more energetic in all areas of their lives.
you posters who equate 'men with muscles' with roided out action figures need to sit down. sorry, don't sit down, you do too much of that already, go play outside and take a chill pill.
nothing wrong with putting some time and intent into taking care of your body. try it, you'll feel more better and less bitter.
I go to the gym four times a week. Does that make me a Muscle Queen? I will admit I am proud of the condition I am in, especially for a man my age. Plus a lot of guys like my ass.
Why wouldn't we be attracted to them?
I got the bottoms when I bulked up and packed on some muscles. Pile drive it better too.
Muscles are attractive (as long as they're not on roided out body builders). I don't know any gay male or straight female who doesn't like a fit, athletic man.
IT depends upon how muscular. A lightweight bodybuilder is hot, a heavyweight bodybuilder is not.
I think for the same reason some gay men are attracted to that whole "daddy" thing: Masculinity and affection mixed together is a very powerful and addictive mix.
I like muscle, but not of the serious body building size which is well, freakist- too much. I like athletic bodies, proportioned etc. Why? Well I am a gay man and for some reason athletic moderately muscles bodies, well placed body hair, big cocks, deep voices and all the rest, turn me on- big time. I don't analyze it any more than that.
I suppose it's for the same reason that almost all straight men like big breasts even if they're fake.
In an era before PLAYGIRL and before adult book stores selling HONCHO, INCHES, BLUEBOY and MANDATE, bodybuilding magazines were the closest thing one could get to see a semi-naked man in print
When you look at media and porn pre1990, you are struck by how small and unmuscular the so-called "beefcake" models were. Today, they would be considered scrawny.
When I came out in the 70s, I was active in the gay community and none of the hundreds of gay men I knew aspired to having a muscular physique and nobody went to a gym. The media wasn't saturated with images of muscular men the way it is today. The widespread adoration of muscles really took hold in the gay community in the 80s and 90s.
I sometimes wonder if, for me and my generation, it is connected to coming out as gay in "the Plague Years" (late 80s, early to mid 90s). In those years, among gay men, AIDS was hitting harder every year, more and more deaths. The sick and dying men were often very thin/frail. Skinny-ness began to be a feared thing. I have a tall/lean build, was very slim in those years and was often told, in so many words, that I'd better bulk up/beef up "just in case..." That was uncomfortable advice to receive; (a) it's downright morbid, and (b) how exactly should a whippet try to become a Rottweiler?
This created a reactive "big puffy muscley" type of uber-gaymale image that was prominent in gay porn and on go-go dancing stages in the bars. He - this big puffy muscley uber-homo - couldn't [italic]possibly[/italic] have AIDS. Not he. No, the big young muscley stud can be thought of as healthy, immune, safe.
The meds have come along and improved the HIV/AIDS outlook but the prevalence of this big beefy dude remains. He, as the ultimate desirable in homo imagery, still exists today, and he hasn't really changed much since then. Although today there is more diversity around the smooth/hairy thing.
I think (R65) is partly right. But straight guys are into muscle building in a way they never used to be too. Most of the buff guys at my gym are straight. The muscular body seems to reflect a widespread admiration In the States for men who can tough it out in an every-man-for-himself economy.
((hugs)) Torta because I haven't seen a post from him in a LONG time
I'm not, I just like a partner who's fit and ideally lean.
Muscles and athletic or strength ability is POWER.
More power than others to do anything physical.
It's not relevant to most people in the modern economy, but it sure was vital to humans for 200,000 years of our history prior to the Information Age.
It's primal power instincts kicking in. And YES, greater strength and fitness still allows you to do greater feats during sex. There's a thrill in being overpowered/ overpowering someone, and I don't mean rape. It's all the abilities of what you can do physically.
When I was in my early 30s I started working out seriously and packed on a lot of pounds in muscles. I got laid so much more and ever since. I became a whore, darlings.
I find men with big muscles to be too concern about their muscles than anything else (shallow), and the kind of dudes that think everybody has the same mindset as theirs.
Can someone start a "Presenting Hot Muscle Dudes" Thread?
I adore bodybuilders. In the sack there is nothing better, nothing even comes close especially if they know what they're doing. I think a lot of you are full of crap... everyone loves bodybuilders. Envy and narcissism are the problem with these big men. Lovable? They have to earn it just like everybody else but sexy over-the-top? Absolutely especially when they're blessed with good looks. Sigh...
[quote]Plus a lot of guys like my ass.
by: (relatively-fit) 55-year-old geezer
But now it's a draggin and a saggin.
It must be a new phenomenon. If you look at Playgirl or stuff from the 70s, people are so much less muscular.
yeah, dudes in the 70s looked so tiny and undeveloped.
not attracted to big muscles at all. Like in shape, in proportion and if they guy is muscled I like it to be relative to his frame.
There is something inherently insecure about the vibe many body builders [NOT ALL] give off.
I hate large muscles, hate. I have no attraction to men who are the typical overly worked out obsessed muscle head who posts weekly updates on his progress via Instagram with comments like "getting there" making progress while sporting an 8 pack. I'm attracted to guys who look like they are in the gym once a week rather than hours a day. Slightly nerdy, glasses and some natural body hair. These shaved, tattooed muscle clones do nothing for me. I don't even get aroused by that muscled look.
R81 "everyone loves bodybuilders" really? You are a brain dead moron.
Silly queens like R44 make me happy I am not attracted to bodybuilders.
Muscles meant that someone was strong so better able to take care of you and the children you make together.
Today, money means the same thing, so we are also attracted to rich people...
In my experience I am not sure most gay guys like big muscles as those of bodybuilders'. I have noticed most like moderately muscled bodies. Gregg Sulkin is a good example of the most popular body type among gay guys
But being a gay guy and liking muscles is completely normal and expected because when you are a gay guy you feel attracted to masculinity and muscularity is a visual display of masculinity.
In my case, I find big muscles highly attractive, especially when the guy is a bodybuilder because the poses in bodybuilding naturally demand some degree of masculine attitude when performing them. :P
Everybody have different prefernces on this though.
People who are attracted to males are attracted to masculinity, power, and strength. Muscles are a physical representation of those attributes.
It is normal to like muscles if you are gay just like it is normal to like very feminine girls if you are a lesbian. That's what your sexual orientation usually makes you lean towards.
I prefer the build of a swimmer or even a middle distance runner. Extremely muscular bodies just look deformed.
I have a friend who is gay and muscular and I have noticed men both gay and straight check him out when he wears muscle shirts for example.. Don't kid yourself straight men will check out other muscular men as well not just gay men.
Guys also check out themselves, but they cannot admit it or be too explicit because of hmophobia.
It doesn't matter if you are heterosexual, homosexual or bisexual, many guys see other guys as rivals.