I haven't had anal sex before and wonder what it feels like. How did your first time feel like and what advice what you give to someone who's new to being a bottom?
[quote]How does anal sex feel like?
[quote]How did your first time feel like
You learn from experience, so it's better to ask people what their 100th time was like the next year.
It feels great when getting it from a Johnny Depp look alike.
You have elected the way of pain!
Sort of hurts at first. And stings at first. Once you're used to it, it's fine and feels mindblowing being filled up. Why d'you think there's so many bottoms?
Advice: buy a dildo and tonnes of lube and practice on yourself.
Anal sex is painful and devoid of any pleasure. You should try it just so you can say that you've done it, but be prepared for pain that you've never felt before and pain that you'll remember so you won't want to feel it again.
Gay man who doesn't want or need anal sex
It feels like nothing you've ever experienced. The feeling of a big cock sliding into your hole is heavenly. Then when it's rooting around in your hole, rummaging and pillaging and thrusting and ramming it sends you to places of ecstasy that are indescribable. Then when it shoots and floods your hole with hot white lust you feel that all is perfect with the world.
It's only painful if you don't know how to do it. You must relax. You must wait for the internal sphincter to relax (it will if pressed) and, most important. you have to want it.
it's a great feeling, physically and psychologically. I LOVE being filled up, the pain is always there but I kind of get off on it
Very painful at first. Either you're going to enjoy it, or never get into it. The trick is to loosen up and relax your anus.
What the world really wants to know is do you guys cum when you have a really big shit? Do you clench it back and forth to simulate the movement of a dick?
And tops, are you ever disgusted by the thought of sticking a dick in someones shit hole?
R6 and R10 clearly were not in experienced hands. Of course it was painful for them.
For me it was fantastic, partly because I had heard how horrible it was and was thrilled when it was no such thing, but more because I was with a boyfriend was great in bed, who had been fucked so he knew to think about me -- foreplay, lots of lube, asking me if it was okay, slow and deep fucking rather than trying to pound me to get off for himself only.
And I did not go in never having played with myself.
As we say over and over on these threads, you experiment with toys first, so get the feel of when you're "ready". Small toys followed by a dildo will tell you that, where you're opened up just enough so it does NOT hurt but just right, just tight enough, so you can feel your partner.
The feeling of another guy's cock really working those sensations around your hole and being inside of you, hitting the right spot... AMAZING.
Couldn't tell ya, mate.
R11, probably about as much as straight guys think about fucking the hole where menstrual blood, vaginal discharge and babies come out of.
R12. You have no idea of my experience with anal sex. I have a lot of experience with sex, possibly even more than you. And it doesn't much matter how fantastic you think anal sex is.
Based on my extensive experience, I think anal sex is painful and devoid of pleasure, and it's about time you accept that some people don't like it and don't desire it.
OP Want to find out, from me?
R11, why not ask the straight guys who want to fuck their female partners' asses, usually spontaneously with no allowance for any kind of prep.
[quote]Based on my extensive experience, I think anal sex is painful and devoid of pleasure, and it's about time you accept that some people don't like it and don't desire it.
Prison rape? Why the fuck would you have extensive experience if you think it is devoid of pleasure?
Pain makes me feel alive!!!
R6 you are weird dearie.
R6 keep raging on.
Despite your claim that you have SO much experience with "sex" and it's painful to you, you don't make sense.
Are you telling us you do it over and over and it hurts every time? You've done all the things that people tell you to make it not hurt and it still hurts for you?
The bottom line is you're the EXCEPTION not the rule. And you and people like you come on these threads about how we know NOTHING about your experience and it hurts like hell and anal sex is terrible, blah blah blah.
Here's a tip: If it HURTS you, DON'T DO IT. And don't lecture those of us who do like anal sex about how it hurts for you because (a) we're not like you either, (b) we're not having sex with you, and (c) the opinions of people like you who are either doing it and hurting all the time, or who hurt and don't do it because of a bad experience are IRRELEVANT.
You're irrelevant, and an hysteric. Go get help.
[bold]SOME OF US AREN'T BOTTOMS[/bold]. Period.
I'd LOVE to be able to bottom. Several potential relationships could have happened if I was able to bottom. I just can't.
And I have tried toys. Anything beyond a tiny plug is just painful.
I think it's strange that people who dislike it are telling OP he won't like it, and people who love it are telling OP he'll love it.
OP, give it a shot. Your mileage might vary. Just be aware a lot of people don't like it the first time.
I'm squeamish about feces. Even if I do thorough enemas, if feel like something is going to pop or ooze out of me after the partner does heavy thrusting. Same thing if I top, I'm afraid there will be feces on my penis when withdrawing from the partner. As another poster said, it's just not for everyone, and that's ok.
I like to watch on videos, though.
Then why are you posting on this thread, R22?
You don't bottom, you just can't, etc.
Are you on some kind of crusade to get other people not to do it, or you just want to come on to these threads and talk about how you can't do it?
The thread is clearly NOT a thread devoted to people who have pain, stopped trying and don't have extensive experience with it. The OP wants to try it and is asking people who have found it pleasurable.
There are plenty of people who have fulfilling sex lives (they say) without bottoming. Be happy to be one of them, and stop coming on these threads to whine about how painful it is for you.
ooooh r6 sounds a little bit bitter... was she raped?
Meh, once on awhile it feels great, not a regular thing though. It's good for the prostate.
I have only enjoyed it while drugged, e.g. downers and a glass of red wine or two.
[quote]Are you on some kind of crusade to get other people not to do it, or you just want to come on to these threads and talk about how you can't do it?
Erm, no. I felt a need to respond to the people insisting that I'll love it if I just try hard enough.
Next stupid question?
I started with toy soldiers.
You admit you're not a bottom at R22. You clicked on this thread which was people who are EXPERIENCED at it, and have advice to give.
You have NO ADVICE to give, but just came here to chime in that you're NOT A BOTTOM, in bold face no less, and that it hurts, and act as if people giving the OP advice were directing it at you.
This was not your thread, no one brought you into this discussion to tell you otherwise.
The thousands upon thousands of guys who bottom and enjoy it don't do it because it's painful. We're rational that way.
You cam here to insist otherwise, and then to act as if you were being told to bottom.
And this attitude is probably part of the reason you're so uptight you can't get fucked no matter what advice you're given.
Stop butting in on threads where you admit you have no experience other than to whine that it hurts.
P.S. to R22/R29
Go back and read your first post. You say you'd love to do it but "I just can't." By your own admission, it's you.
And you're not a bottom.
This thread is clearly not for you since you've come to that conclusion.
Again, why did you come here? Clearly you weren't looking for tips.
OP: Anal sex is painful and not in a good way. Personally, I don't find any pleasure in it. But try it for yourself--and try it more than once. Perhaps you'll like it, perhaps not. Some find pleasure, many don't.
But please don't listen to these bottoms who say that if you don't like it then you or your partner are not doing it right. You're doing it just fine. Some like it; some don't.
But no matter what, make sure your partner wears a condom. Even if you like it, it's not worth risking your life with a life-threatening disease.
Still no answer to R11???
Do you get hard when you take one of those really long, hard shits? If I ever visit a mens room can I expect to hear sexual moaning followed by shit splashing into the toilet bowl?
And you can be as rude as you like, I'm not much of a lady.
I'm with R6 It just doesn't make any sense to me why we would mistake the anus for a sexual organ. I'm gay, out & have no sexual hang-ups, but just consider the fact that your rectum better not be relaxed or you'll crap your pants, then think of the tiny size cock a guy would need to have to get it in there without doing damage & causing pain. It doesn't add up.
Gay sex is great, but that's what cocks are for. If you want one in you-give a guy a blow-job, that's a lot of fun and it won't stretch your mouth out or leave you in Depends.
It feels like you're squeezing out a huge turd. And then it doesn't. And then it does. And then it doesn't. And then it does...
If you can manage to relax, it feels great. If you can't relax, it hurts worse than just about anything.
And like the poster above said, you have to want it. If you're uptight about it, you will not like it.
It took some getting used to for me, but I love it. I like topping to. It really depends on the chemistry with the guy.
In addition to R34, would someone answer these:
The pornstars talk about going on a 2 day diet and then douching thoroughly before a scene. Do you guys have to do that to clean out your colons too? Doesnt it kill the moment to be sticking a nozzle up your ass and then watch smelly brown water flow out? Do you wish you had vaginas to save you this hustle (and also the pain)? Are there some of you who watch anal sex porn but dont do it in your own lives?
What the fuck is this shit?
[quote]I'm with [R6] It just doesn't make any sense to me why we would mistake the anus for a sexual organ. I'm gay, out & have no sexual hang-ups
Really? You have no sexual hang ups? Really? Really!?!
You don't have to be into anal, some gay guys aren't but you sir have sexual hangups.
I'm a virgin too Op. I wouldn't worry about it. When you find the right person everything will fall into place. You may not even be a bottom.
R39, How revolting. I doubt anyone here fantasizes about vaginas. Lets keep the thread tolerable.
R34, it can be fun play together
It feels great. The first time you really need a patient and caring top. It's nice to learn how to douche and stuff because later you'll want huge sizemeat banging your hole and possibly move on to fisting. When you get there call me.
Fisting? No way would I ever do that to someone. Never.
Prepping for anal is tough on me. My anus is fine on the outside, but I have a hemorrhoid on the inside which only seems to get aggravated by enemas. I guess pushing the water out several times until it runs clean creates some sort of pressure inside, inevitably the 'roid swells inside and sex becomes painful. It's not a problem in my everyday life, for example moving my bowels causes no problems and it cannot be seem from the outside.
The last surgery I had for hemorrhoids was brutal, I was in bed for 3 days on vicodan. I'll do anything to avoid going down that path.
[quote]If you can manage to relax, it feels great. If you can't relax, it hurts worse than just about anything.
Which explains beautifully why most gay men on DL hate it.
R41 I'm interested in your response to my post. How could you possibly have come to the conclusion that I have "sexual hang ups" from what I posted. You don't know anything about me other than the fact that I am clear and confident enough to know what I like, what I don't like and I'm not someone who can be coerced, cajoled or guilted into doing something sexually I choose not to do.
R49 read your post again. You have hangups about your sexuality.
Oh come on boys. You cant say you dont think life would be easier if you had a self-cleaning hole i.e. a vagina. Lets say you could remain male in every other way but have a vagina to slot penises in, instead of having to shove them in your exit passage.....dont act like you havent thought about as you watched that sludge pour out of rectum while you douche.
Before you answer, remember that vagina is a ready slot, no preparations needed and also those straight men you fantasised about in your youth would be more likely to fuck you if you had one,
Shut up and go back to iVillage, R51.
Please stop with vagina talk. It is most unpleasant. Yuck.
R50 Okay? What are my hang-ups? How did they magically reveal themselves to you from my post? If you can tell so much about an anonymous poster like me from my post I'd be fascinated to know how.
Butt holes don't get yeast infections, don't go through a monthly cycles and are always ready for action. If you eat properly and are tidy there is no mess during anal sex, but most bottoms know when they should or shouldn't do it.
I never enjoyed it, and got bored with guys seeing it as 'real' sex, the rest being foreplay.
It's like you fingering your hole, only done by someone who knows how.
r51 there a a lot of tops that imagine they are fucking a man with a vagina, they just the feel of an asshole better.
Has anyone answered the question posed? It feels like nothing else. There are so many nerve endings around your sphincter that get stimulated, it can be mind blowing. If you do it right, you can cum without touching your dick.
That said, if you have to fast for 2 days and douche for hours, you're not doing it right (or anal sex just isn't for you). If douching is causing you pain, you're not doing it right, or you have serious anal problems (fissures, ulcers, hemoroids, whatever; dude, talk to your doctor, and if you don't feel comfortable talking to your doctor about anal sex, get a new doctor).
And if you're worried about getting shit on your dick, grow up. You think str8 guys don't get blood and piss on their dicks... or shit on their dicks when they fuck their female partner's ass? Or are you just buying into that heteronormative line of bullshit wherein it's just rose petals, soft light and bliss? Sex is messy. It's dirty. It involves bodily fluids (regardless of what type you're talking about).
There is one seriously unhinged poster on this thread.
R54 has more hang ups than a telephone.
[quote]If douching is causing you pain, you're not doing it right, or you have serious anal problems (fissures, ulcers, hemoroids, whatever; dude, talk to your doctor
R59. How the hell do you know what's right or wrong? If someone has an internal hemoroid, then perhaps douching would be painful. And if someone has any of the ailments you've named above, perhaps he has talked with his doctor and perhaps the advice was to avoid anal sex altogether or at least until these ailments can be cured.
R6/15/33/62: head case.
Get help, mate!
OP, use your fingers and THEN get back to us
Concerning R6/R15/R33/R62, any sex with this foolish, axe-grinding OCD nut would qualify as anal sex, since she's an asshole from tip to toe.
R65 You're crazy. I'm not a woman. You know nothing about me. Why the anger? Why do you keep attacking me? I'm entitled to an opinion, too. I don't get why you feel the need to call me an asshole. The OP asked a question, I gave my answer, you can give yours, no need to rip into anyone. I didn't do anything to you.
Going back and posting all my reply numbers is a little OCD itself? You must be projecting something onto me.
As for "sex with me," someone as immature as you would never get the chance to find out how great it would be. I suppose you'll have to keep making up these fantasies, since it's as close as you're ever going to get.
My advice to anal virgin- bit the pillow and hope he is quick.
[quote] You know nothing about me
We know from your posts that you are a crusader against anal sex. Fine for you but try to live and let live.
In the Arab world, anal sex is the preferred sex for straight men. Always has been.
it scares me tbh
Just lie back and think of England.
R69 I am absolutely not a crusader against anything that two consenting adults choose to do. I simply have made my choice, stuck by it and shared my opinion.
You're free to share yours. Unless it attacks me I won't question your motives, insult you or consider your choices to be any less acceptable or appropriate than mine.
You remind me of a blogger who gave me a real hard time about this very issue. He was very hostile and closed-minded, too.
you know the poop shoot is one way - exit only.
Because it doesn't hurt if you're doing it right, R62. I'm supposing that since R47 mentioned surgery, he had a doctor who was not particularly informed or perhaps enlightened, given his stated experience. I know first hand about hemoroids and, if treated properly, can be far less painful than requiring Vicodin for 3 days. I thought I was being pretty clear that this guy should talk to his doctor - implying that he should be honest about his anal activity or at least desire for some, with his doctor. Then again, it could just be water rash, implying that he's not douching correctly.
R51 is another pathetic, antigay straight woman who is obsessed with hating on gay men, gay sex, and yet insists on following gay men everywhere?
How long before gay guys learn than straight women cannot be trusted?
R77 and R51 are different sides of the same coin. Hate filled little douchebags.
R78 is an obese, obtuse frau obsessing over barely pubesced teenage boys on the One Direction thread. I'm shocked that you've graduated to an anal sex thread. You must be doing research for a One Direction slash/fanfic. Hope you're learning things, hon.
Go sit on a fist, troll.
The hemorrhoids flared severely after a round of antibiotics for bronchitis gave me severe diarrhea for several days. I didn't report it right away to my primary care MD because I thought it was something else. Once I reported it, she promptly switched it. By that point, the 'roids were so severe that she couldn't do any sort of intervention in her office and a special topical foam she prescribed did not help. My issues were not stemming from anal sex or enemas, I was merely stating that enemas aggravate the internal hemorrhoid and that I am cautious to avoid having another bad episode. The specialist I visited advised surgery because he said they couldn't be 'banded' or lasered and that even if this flare-up relaxed the next one could be worse. I was afraid to use the toilet! So ambulatory surgery was indicated, and like I said 3 days in bed on narcotics because the post-op pain was THAT bad.
I certainly visited doctors, R59. You weren't there. All cases are different. My MD's ARE informed. I am an informed healthcare consumer with 20+ experience working in healthcare settings. You, on the other hand, are the brown inflamed bloody mess they removed from me on the operating table.
Oh, sa-nap! You told me, you douche. Oh wait, you don't douche because you're so fucking stupid - er, "educated" that you didn't know antibiotics cause diarrhea. And your informed doctors knew so much about you that they didn't say or do anything like warn you about side effects of basic medicine that would cause a butt-fucker to needlessly suffer. And, like every bitchy queen who thinks they know everything, dropped into a "what does anal sex feel like" thread to tell us they didn't have any without explaining why. I'm not the psychic from the other thread, hon. And it's pretty basic advice that if it hurts, go see a doctor. Especially in a thread devoted to questions that obviously younger, less experienced gaylings would read.
Maybe it was god telling you you are a douche and you don't deserve the joys of anal sex.
Never tried it and never will, especially the part about being penetrated. Not my thing.
Really surprised to see so many on here being so vehemently anti arse sex.
I've done anal sex a few times in my 50 years. It's too painful. It gives me no pleasure. If you like it, then fine--have fun. I don't like it and haven't done it in years. And yes, for all the know-it-alls, I was doing it right. I just don't like it.
I was pretty young, the minister's son who was a cool jock invited me over. He got me on my belly, pulled my pants down and...........it hurt, but he was a jock god. I didn't like it much but I went to his house every time he called me. He would make me take my pants off as did he. "get on your belly" as he greased his already hard dick. "spread your cheeks" as his greased fingers spread apart my ass. Every time he called, I was there.......
Le$bian Raci$t Catholic Troll alert@ 34/35!
I love how idiots like R84 say they just know they were doing it right, and it still was too painful -- even though every sex manual tells you if it hurts too much, something is wrong, and that there are ways to do it so that there's only slight pressure the first time, not "too much pain."
You "too painful" guys are either
(a) physically rare with uber-tight rectums (unlikely if going to the bathroom is usually not "too painful")
(c)so would up and intense that getting through to you requires way too much work emotionally as well as physically
(d) just a pain in the ass.
Ironic, ain't it, how (d) is likely the right answer.
[quote]I love how idiots like [R84] say they just know they were doing it right, and it still was too painful -- even though every sex manual tells you if it hurts too much, something is wrong, and that there are ways to do it so that there's only slight pressure the first time, not "too much pain."
[quote] The pornstars talk about going on a 2 day diet and then douching thoroughly before a scene. Do you guys have to do that to clean out your colons too?
You have to remember that the porn stars are prepping for a many-hour session, lots of takes, etc., rather than a typical session that involves a short time of butt-banging. (I believe studies show that most guys, gay or straight, cum within a few minutes of beginning intercourse most of the time.) So a 'porn star prep' isn't really necessary for the average guy.
Apologise, you cunt R88!
Sorry to R84 - I meant R85.
But P.S. to R91, I may be a dick, but I'm no cunt.
Apology accepted. Dick.
'How does anal sex feel like'??? What ridiculous English. Please tell me you're a foreigner.
Your hatred of women is killing you.
Your obsession with Krispy Kreme is killing YOU, sowcowfrau @ R95.
Straight guys treat women who enjoy anal like whores. Women who like anal will never admit it to one another.
This is one area where the gays (well, not all of them, as evidenced by this thread) are far more enlightened than the straights.
I had my prostate surgically removed due to cancer. Can I still feel down there?
Hey guys first time posting in this thread and I'm honestly just looking for advice, no fighting etc. I have attempted to bottom about 5 times with 3 different guys. They were all at different levels of experience but none were beginners like me. They were all nice about it and patient too. Only 1 of them I could even fit his dick all the way in because he was a bit smaller than the other 2. All 5 times we used plenty of lube but it was painful and I only let them attempt to top me for under 10 minutes. 1 of them did rim me but that didn't seem to help at all as it only kinda tickled. I guess I have a problem relaxing and I will never use drugs, alcohol or poppers so I want to relax the natural way. When I was being fucked, I wasn't hard because all I was thinking about was how uncomfortable it was-I cleaned myself out totally but it kept feeling like I had to go poop again even though I was empty.
I know some people just aren't bottoms, but when I watch porn, I'm usually more attracted to the top and imagine myself bottoming for him.
R98 can you still shoot a load? Just curious.
I want to encourage this thread. We need more bottoms.
Bump and DP bump.
After 101 posts, I'm not sure the OP got the answer to his question.
I'm too lazy to bottom. Seems like so much work just to prep. I am always horrified when I hear about straights having anal sex. I can't imagine them knowing the importance of prep, relaxation, cleansing etc.. and the girl has no prostate. It must stink in every sense of the word. I read somewhere that Christian teens now do anal as they don't consider it sex and think they are still virgins after but my own ass spasmed just thinking of some 15 year old spontaneously shoving it up his teen gf's ass. Ouch! Shit!
[quote]It must stink in every sense of the word.
Do you not wipe well, R103?
[quote]I read somewhere that Christian teens now do anal as they don't consider it sex
You read it here. It's just another DL myth. With few exceptions, the only straights having anal are in porn.
I don't want to gross anyone out here by bringing up the v-word, but as a straight woman I find anal to be comparable to vaginal, as far as sensation goes.
There's no prostate up there, sure, but then there isn't one in the vagina either.
New Study Finds Oral and Anal Sex Common Among Sexually Active Teens
Laura Duberstein Lindberg, Rachel Jones, and John S. Santelli, “Non-Coital Sexual Activities Among Adolescents,” Journal of Adolescent Health (July 2008): 1-14.
Although non-coital sexual acts—such as oral and anal sex—are common, little research has systematically studied these behaviors among adolescents. Anecdotal evidence, however, has led to a concern that today’s teens are engaging in oral and anal intercourse more than teenagers in the past, that they are responding to increasing pressures to remain abstinent by engaging in oral and anal intercourse as a way to stay “technical virgins,” and that they view oral and anal sex as less risky than “real” sex. A new study from researchers at the Guttmacher Institute seeks to determine what kinds of factors are associated with engaging in oral and anal sex and if teens do indeed substitute oral and anal sex for vaginal intercourse.
The study used data on 2,271 teens, ages 15–19, drawn from the 2002 National Survey of Family Growth, a nationally representative household survey. Data on non-coital sex was gathered through a computer-assisted, self-administered survey (ACASI), which has been shown to improve self-reporting of more sensitive behaviors.
The researchers looked at whether these teens had ever engaged in heterosexual oral, anal, or vaginal intercourse; how long it had been since they first initiated vaginal intercourse; and how many sexual partners of the opposite sex they had had in their lifetime. In addition, they examined a number of demographic variables, including age, race/ethnicity, and socio-economic status. Researchers also measured the teens’ attitudes toward sex based on whether they agreed with the statement: “It is all right for unmarried 18 year olds to have sexual intercourse if they have strong affection for each other.”
Of the total sample of teens, 50% had ever engaged in vaginal intercourse; 55% had ever engaged in oral sex; and 11% had ever engaged in anal sex.
White teens and teens from higher socioeconomic households were more likely to have engaged in oral and anal sex, while non-white teens and those from lower socioeconomic households were more likely to have engaged in vaginal sex.
Teens with more conservative attitudes towards sex were less likely to have engaged in oral sex than were those with more liberal views.
Among both males and females, teens were more likely to report that they had received oral sex than had given it. White females were the only subgroup that reported similar levels of giving and receiving oral sex.
Teens who had already engaged in vaginal intercourse (non-virgins) were much more likely to have also engaged in oral or anal sex: 87% of non-virgins had engaged in oral sex compared to only 26% of virgins, and 21% of non-virgins had engaged in anal sex compared to only 1% of virgins.
The likelihood of having engaged in oral sex increased sharply in the first six months after the initiation of vaginal intercourse. While only 26% of virgins had engaged in oral sex, 82% of respondents who reported initiating vaginal intercourse six months prior to survey reported having engaged in oral sex.
There was little evidence of teen virgins using serial oral sex with multiple partners as a substitute for vaginal intercourse. In fact, the majority (67%) of teens who had engaged in oral but not vaginal sex had only one sexual partner in their lifetime.
Only 6% of respondents who reported having initiated vaginal intercourse six months prior to the survey had engaged in anal sex compared to 27% of respondents who reported having initiated vaginal intercourse 3 years prior to the survey.
This study provides valuable new information on teen sexual behavior. The results show that non-coital sex is a regular part of sexual behavior for many sexually active teens. Oral and vaginal sex tend to go hand-in-hand for many teens, while anal sex is somethin
i dont understand how it feels pleasurable? to me, it does not hurt but it just feels like i'm taking a shit. like poop coming in and out. i don't understand how people think it feels so good? unless something is wrong with my ass and i'm missing it...
Do straight women really come on this web site? I often feel it's gay men posing as straight women as this has been the case in the past - numerous times. I, personally, know of no women who have even heard of this web site. Nor, any gay men I know (other than me).
No mention of "Christian Teens", R107.
Christian teens (or teens who place a high value on virginity) who do oral and anal instead of having vaginal sex consider themselves technical virgins.
that's why there are such high levels of teenage gonarrhea in these "virginal" communities.
I could not imagine letting a dude put his penis in me. Why go through that? I would let a dude suck me though.
r111, that is wrong. In Christianity, it is still a sin to have anal or oral sex outside of marriage. The Bible makes it clear that any sexual activity outside of marriage is sinful sexual immorality. Moreover, the Bible says that it is a sin to just have lust in your mind/heart toward another person. So, having anal and oral sex is clearly a serious sexual sin in itself to Christians. Anyone claiming that anal/oral sex is less sinful than vaginal sex between people who are not marriage to each other don't know the Bible and are unlikely to be Christians.
I heard that drinking coffee relaxes the muscles of the body. Would it be helpful in easing the discomfort of anal? Is that why people have coffee enemas?
Spend a little quality time with a dildo and jerking off. Come with the dildo plugged in and your eyes will be opened to the magic of gay sex and what all the fuss is about.
Im a 55yr old anal virgin, always topped.
I ve never had anything other that a few fingers and once and english cucumbewr up my hole.
My bf will be turning 30 in Nov and Im thinking of giving him the gift of my hole, allowing him to top me.
He has for years been bothering me to bottom and it has always been an issue.
How after this long do i make sure im ready and cleaned out so as not to spoil the gift?
I cant take poppers as Im on blood pressure meds and recently.
What about taking extasy?
I also thought about hiring and escort to work on my hole and prepare it so it wouldnt hurt when I get with my bf, but that would be cheating. Do you think this would be excusable seeing that this would not be sex but preparation.
Sorry for the long post , just want to make it a special night for my bf who i love very much.
55NneverBeen To Bottomland
Yes, you dicks st8 women come to this site! And, we're NOT the ones making anti-gay comments. Those comments are being posted by self hating or homophobic str8 men. Most of you don't even realize we're here until we announce it a comment. And, for the most part we speak the same language using the same tone which is why we get accused of being a gay man, obviously, that doesn't offend us or we wouldn't be here. We get offended when y'all start making assumptions about who we are and we we're here.
Again, I'm not a man but as one bottom to another. I'd like to offer some advise. Don't eat anything too heavy right before trying. Have your guy give you a nice message and a good amount of foreplay. Rimming is the last step (for me) so have him rim you real good and then go fron there. It took me a long time and many tries (all for the hubby) before I relaxed enough to be penetrated. It was very uncomfortable the first time and I just wanted it over. It does help if you want it. The 2nd time was like night and day...it was amazing. There was clitoral stimulation, for those of you wondering how or why it was amazing. The oragasims are much stronger when you have a cock inside you doesn't matter if it's in your ass or vaginia. Well, that's my advise and experience.
FYI - Many sr8 men are into anal or want to try it. I'm sure it's because it's standard in porn. However most of us women are not into anal sex. It's not my cup of tea even though it turns me on to watch and/or read male on male action and I can enjoy anal a couple times a month with my hubby.
''It's not my cup of tea even though it turns me on to watch and/or read male on male action and I can enjoy anal a couple times a month with my hubby''
Not your cup of tea but do it a few times month!
You sound like a wonderful whore, your husbands very lucky
R119. Not a wonderful whore but a wonderful wife. I've been married to the same man for 18 years. He does things for me that isn't his cup of tea either. He does a lot to keep me happy and he doesn't ask for much. I don't mind giving him that a few times a month. Like I said, it does feel good or I wouldn't continue to do it, it's just not my thing. You act like that's a strange concept to understand. And, we're both very lucky to have each other.
R54 wins this thread. He seems much smarter than anyone else posting here.
Really R21 or is it 54? Please take the advise offered to you earlier and seek professional help. You are a nut case, my dear.
[R120]-Good for you & many more happy years!We should all be so lucky.
[R106]-You don't want to GROSS anyone out by using the v-word??? -Men,str8 or gay,who hate women are GROSS....Wake Up..How Pathetic!!!!
R109- you do realize that you hardly know anyone in the whole scheme of things, don't you?
My goodness. how can people get so argumentative over something as wonderful as the butt sex. I remember the first time, so long ago, when it actually WENT IN. We were amazed, and eventually enchanted by all of it as we got so much better with practice. I'm not sure why nature arranged this, since it appears quite neatly engineered, since there is no biologic imperative that I can see. Population control maybe.
In the old days, people were fastidious of course, but not to the extremes you youngsters are. I remember in Paris, the phrase, "Care for a little brown?" was an offer. Too long ago for me to remember the translation. It reminded me tonight that a little brown never hurt anybody.
Bless the bottoms of the world.
Gramps (ret from active competition)
Id rather just frot with a guy that is not really into anal. Thats hot too.
Its just too much work for those who dont really like it. Anal should be left to bottoms that LIVE to take it in the ass and really get off on it. If you dont like anal like that then just dont do it.
It feels wonderful! Why all the drama on this thread?
It can be the most intimate sex if it doesn't involve pain. I can't take large cocks, but an average size cock with plenty of lube feels great. There is something special about having another man inside of you and experiencing that intimacy that can be mind blowing. It isn't for eveyone, and should not be forced upon those who do not like it.
It can be a fantastic experience if it's done correctly. Your partner has to be sensitive to your needs, gently massaging your butt, using lots of lubrication, and slow, gradual entry, and withdrawal until it feels comfortable to have his cock inside of you. In the process, you have to relax your butt; if you tense up, it's going to be uncomfortable. It'll take a while, with much practice, before you'll begin craving to have someone put his cock inside you. If you're anticipating the experience, I would strongly suggest that you lubricate a finger and slowly insert it, moving it back and forth, and really trying to enjoy the experience. You might even buy a dildo at a sex shop for practice. I promise you that once you're doing it regularly, you'll really enjoy it. Good luck!!
Look, there is an art to having anal sex. Relaxing, care, angles, attitude -- they all contribute. Some people never get all of that down... and that's okay. Some people are quick studies... and that's fine. Most of the rest of us have to work at it until we figure out our own bodies.
You can't just jump into taking a 7 inch cock and not expect it to hurt. There's only about 5"-6" between the outter and inner sphincters, so anything above an average size penis is going to bang. (The douching and diet you hear about from pornstars is because, more than not, they're opening up that second sphincter and entering the "holding" area beyond.) You have to work at it.
Lastly, no one is under any obligation to have anal sex. If you like the challenge and are interested in taking cocks, you'll pretty much figure out how to do and who to do it with one day. You can have a lot of fun along the way, too. If you don't like it, don't do it.
I will say, the one thing that anyone can take is a finger or two. I've had self-avowed tops, coal-to-diamond tight bottoms and the just the simply curious, really enjoy blowjobs and masturbation with their or a partner's finger up their ass.
The prostate is a sexual organ. The outter anal sphincter is one as well. Even if you can't take a dick, there's lots you can do in that area to increase the pleasure of sex.
the second time i had anal sex it felt like i had to take a shit really bad the entire time. but i just had anal sex like 30 minutes ago and it was pretty damn awesome it burns like a bitch at first but then you get used to it and it's pretty god damn hot that damned forbidden hole.
trick is to try as many positions as possible to find the one that makes you feel like you want to kill yourself less :)
The fantasy is way hotter than the reality.
I think r132 has nailed it.
Wow! R51 trying to sell vagina envy on a gay site!
TORTURE! I only give, will never receive again.
How does double pentration actually feel? It sounds erotic in fantasy, but I can't imagine how one can stretch his hole to accomodate two cocks without it being very painful.
How does a gay feel about the vagina? He finds it repulsive?
Eat my tuna fish guys
Lick my nipples
I'm horny for you guys. I want a gay man to fuck my delicate pussy. I'm yours. I'm yours...i'm getting wet, guys..aaaaaaah...aaaaaaaaaah....aaah
i have had anal sex with every male on here and they were great they all blew there load in me
by the way i am a male
what is the best way to prep?
[quote]How does anal sex feel like?
It feels like having a cock up your ass.
R99, I think it really depends on being with the right guy and being really relaxed, which is how you'll feel being with the right guy! I didn't see anything on your post about toys, but if you practice on yourself with toys, it makes the real deal so much easier and enjoyable.
Frankie Say Relax!
It feels like sex, only anal...
oh its just a huge pain in the ass honey! You'd be better off to wait for the movie!
I have heard from 2 trusted sources that Bruce Willis is the most talented top imaginable. One source was a girl and one a boy. The boy was a virgin, but the chick had a great deal of anal experience. She said that Bruce was slow, patient, a quick draw with the lube and knew how to move to "just stop short" of extremely painful thrusts/moves. I've never experienced it myself, but after her extended version of the event...I wanted to give him a go(in my dreams!)
The young man, was slightly less poetically bewitched by Bruce's prowess, but he was more than open to another round.
Start off small and work your way up in size.
The first time for me hurt like a motherfucker...the guy had nine inches or better, and I couldn't get into anal for another ten years. Eventually I was topped by an Hispanic guy with probably less than five inches, and I loved it. Eventually I was able to work my way to accomodating even the most horsehung.
Poppers helped, too...
it felt great to me even for the first time. and he was well endowed. it!s a felling you can!t describe.wish i had someone to fuck me now.
A dick hurts. A finger is kind of exciting.
It feels like you're dying. I thought it hurt like hell. Yuck, not for me ever again.
The feeling of a man's pelvis pounding against your haunches as you lie bent over a beer soaked pool table grasping for leverage. The endless jackhammer action turns you into a quivering mound of oozing pleasure.
R25 who the fuck are you? The op didn't say only answer if you enjoyed it. Now fuck right off.