Have you ever met one? I did. He told me it hurt. Well, he was huge and it hurt me too. Anyway, he let me fuck him and he said, yeah, he didn't like it. It hurts too much. I felt the same way. Since then, we're both tops. People say I'm a control freak. But I just don't like the way it feels. Only time I ever enjoyed it was on poppers. And that was a long time ago.
Lots of closet-creeps won't get fucked, it somehow makes them think like they are still straight
I'm gay and I hate getting fucked. It hurts way too much, and I never derived any pleasure from it. And don't tell me that I'm not doing it right. I'm not doing it, and I don't like it. But I'll kiss, suck and lick you all over.
Last boyfriend was a total top too. So there was some frottage going on, sensual encounters. Boyfriend before that broke up with me because I wouldn't even consider being versatile and he saw it as a politically-motivated control issue (he wore Birkenstocks). The guy before that was so happy I was a top and had no interest whatsoever in changing that dynamic. I was happy to comply. One night on ecstacy I fucked him all night in a hotel room. I couldn't believe he could go that long.
Guys who don't fucked, did you pleasure yourselves anally before you tried anal sex with another guy the for first time?
*dont get fucked
Try doing a booty bump. You'll go all night. And Day. And night.
I started out as a bottom because I didn't know what the hell I was doing. I'd just kind of lie there and whatever happened happened, which was the other guy finally taking control. Then one guy insisted I fuck him too. I don't know how to explain it but everything, um, fit into place that day. The whole room changed. I knew this was it, where I was supposed to be. Anyway, the odds were a lot better. I'm not super endowed or anything, but I'm a sensual person. I love the feeling of "surrender" I get from another guy when we get together and he's giving it up to me. I don't need props. Just someone who knows how to move.
I've never really played with my ass before, R4. But I just don't get it. I've been fucked a few times, but I get no pleasure from it. I'm kind of curious why most other guys want to be fucked. I'm happy to do it, and I love a tight hole, but...
I won't do it either--it's been too painful in the past. And r6, I'm certainly not going to do your creepy drugs.
Uh, a lot of dudes don't want to be penetrated. It's called a preference.
Same here, total top. Some people like getting fucked, some don't. Yes, i've tried it. Not pleasurable in the least. And i never really fantasize about it. Why is it such a big deal?
Because I won't sleep with you then
Dick in the ass just feels like you have to take a massive dump, and I personally don't find that sensation pleasurable. But thank God some guys do!!
Anal is durty.
For me, it starts with a finger, then two, then three, it takes manipulation, stimulation and possibly some toy, a butt plug or a dildo to stretch yourself. If you are a grown man who can take a crap the size of a penis then you can take a penis, it's just that you aren't doing your "stretches" before your "workout".
If you've seen those (disturbing) videos of guys who take LARGE things in their ass, you can see they stretch afterwards, it can look more like ground beef than an ass. It can look gross. I don't recommend THAT but use it to illustrate that the ass can stretch enough so that you can please your partner without being in pain. If you are in pain, your partner is either too big or most likely you guys didn't do enough anal foreplay.
Only the sloppiest hole can just drop his pants and let you shove it in. That isn't the norm.
I'm 55 now...when I was in my twenties, I never liked it much, so I never let anyone fuck me.
Which I assume is why I'm still alive.
Wow, r16, I could have written the same thing, even to us being the same age.
But in my case, I was raped when I was young (16), which had to do with my aversion to anal. I came to regard the rape as a life-saver, since it put me off anal just two or three years before the terrors began.
I tried it a bunch of times over about ten years. Ten times in all, maybe. Hated it every time. Hurt like hell and made me feel like I was being beaten up. Yuck.
I've never been fucked and I'm in my late 30s. Doesn't appeal to me. I don't fuck either. Mostly kissing, mutual masturbation and some oral.
Top only. I've tried anal three times, and no matter how slow and patient the guys were, I felt like I was dying. I'm not wired for that, but I love guys who are.
I won't waste my time with total tops or total bottoms - too many are sexually neurotic. Your physical comfort (or lack of) with the act often (not always) reflects your psychological comfort (or lack of) with the act. I've had some painful experiences, some uncomfortable experiences, and some so pleasurable that I came hands-free. If you've tried several times and felt no pleasure you aren't doing it right or, more likely, you just aren't comfortable with the idea of a guy sticking his dick in your ass.
Not only do I not get fucked--I hate it and it hurts like hell, but I don't fuck anyone either. I prefer kissing, sucking, mutual masturbation and even watersports with a guy who's into it.
I don't top because topping isn't all that satisfning. When I have fucked previously, I cum almost instantly so that is not satisfying for me, and the bottom hates it because he doesn't really get fucked except for maybe a few seconds. I have no orgasm self control when I fuck, but I can control my ejaculation much easier when getting sucked or jacking off.
I don't mind the pain thing, but I can't focus because it feels like I'm about to shit all over the sheets. How do I get past that?
You're entitled not to like it. The guys in their 50s who might be dead because the anal sex that they "would have had" when it was usually condom free and people didn't know they were getting infected ... Okay, we get it.
But I read so much fear and inexperience in this thread it's hard to assess the comments. I've only ever been fucked with a condom, and I'm HIV negative at age 45.
You may all have be so tight that only tiny little threads can come in and out of your holes. Or you may be the type that considers any pressure to be painful.
For most people, once you relax, try a small toy with lots of lube (beads and a small anal toy) you will see that your hole not only does open up from both directions but the sensation of massage of those sensitive passages up to your prostate is pretty extraordinary. And after a while, your hole will respond when it's teased, licked, or lightly touched and not tighten up so much when a little pressure gives it the right signals.
[quote]If you've tried several times and felt no pleasure you aren't doing it right or, more likely, you just aren't comfortable with the idea of a guy sticking his dick in your ass.
R21. I've been having sex for about 30 years. I know what the hell I'm doing so please don't say that I don't. And I wouldn't mind having a guy fuck me if I liked it, but I don't.
So don't be a goddamn know-it-all. Getting fucked is painful and not at all pleasurable. If you like it, then fine. But I know what I'm doing, and I'm quite comfortable with my body after three decades of having sex.
[quote] I can't focus because it feels like I'm about to shit all over the sheets. How do I get past that?
I second this question.
I'm not an anal expert (being a girl who's not into it), but I found that the feeling of "omg i need to shit wait am i shitting already?" faded with experience.
Now, I just find anal to be boring as hell!
It's painful and not at all pleasurable FOR YOU, r25. For many of us it's fine, massively enjoyable even. I managed to show an ex, who'd told me he found it uncomfortable and unpleasant, how to enjoy it. For those who worry about defecating, make sure you're empty - either shit about 20 min beforehand or douche w/lukewarm water.
R28. Who the hell did you think I was talking about? Of course I meant "for me."
I even added, "If you like it, then fine."
Was there something about my R25 response that you didn't understand?
[quote]I can't focus because it feels like I'm about to shit all over the sheets. How do I get past that?
I made the comment here once that I didn't eat the whole day leading up to anal sex and often didn't eat the night before so after I douched I knew I was completely clean. I was laughed at so I guess there are some guys here who can chow down on burritos, chili and kraut and then get their ass ripped open no problem. Most of us clearly can't do that.
I agree with the comments though that it becomes time consuming and laborious. Oral sex is much faster, much cleaner and just as satisfying.
R23 / R26:
I found that using a douche ball (plastic, super cheap at the sex store) beforehand to clear myself out makes all my concerns about making a mess disappear.
R25, the objection r28 made is entirely valid.
You're clearly going to get upset people "misinterpreting" your post and not reading it as you want it, but you did write that anal sex is painful and not at all pleasurable UNqualified.
And as for your three decades of experience, that's not three DECADES of painful anal sex is it? So you can say with absolute certainty that there's no possible way, even if you don't want to call it a "right" way to do it so it's NOT painful and IS pleasurable?
Everyone reacts to pain differently. I consider myself a tough person but do feel pain when I bump my shoulder or stub my toe - or, to give some sex examples, when someone pins or twist my arms in a certain way, or pulls my hair, or bites my lip or uses teeth when they blow me.
Many of us have also been having sex for decades AND know anal sex can be painful when it's done wrong and GREAT when it's done right.
R25 and people like me are open to the possibility that anal sex will always be painful for YOU. Vaginal sex is inherently painful for a few women.
But you and other people who want to insist it's inherently painful don't even want to admit the possibility that there is a right, painless way to do it for MOST human beings. That's a fact.
What about if people who have hemorrhoids and bleed? which is very common? That must be torturous.
r23 / r26:
Go to any drug store and buy a Fleet disposable enema. Follow the instructions on the box. Use the enema right before getting fucked.
Well? This thread is "messy".
[quote]What about if people who have hemorrhoids and bleed? which is very common? That must be torturous.
I've never been fucked when I had painful 'rrhoids, so I can't speak to that.
But I've found that any sort of anal activity (even just an accidental touch) always wakes up my mild 'rrhoids, making me insanely itchy for the next several hours.
Anyone else get itchy afterwards?
Two tops together, OP, and one them really hung?
What a fucking waste.
ok, if it hurts "like hell" you are not doing it right. stop clenching! push out like you are taking a large dump (but please don't!!) lube ass and sheathed cock, insert slowly, enjoy. i love the feeling of a big hard cock deep inside me.
[quote]I won't waste my time with total tops or total bottoms - too many are sexually neurotic.
Well I could say "i won't waste my time with people who exclude entire genders; exclusively gay people are sexist".
But i won't because it would be as stupid as your 'sexually neurotic' comment.
WHY are you answering this?
OP = -10/10
We need a new classification of gay that is neither "top" nor "bottom" and just doesn't do anal.
This has to be fictional. Finding one top in the gay world is like finding a unicorn. You're saying there's two of you? I smell an EST.
I do NOT want to imply this goes across the board to everybody, but I've found as my self esteem increases I enjoy topping more. I think it has to do with the dominance aspect more than anything else - I do not mean to imply that bottoms have no self worth, they do.
Are there common traits that tops possess, personality-wise, or whatever? What about bottoms? Because I don't consider myself macho. I'm a sensitive guy. But I've always had kind of a cocky personality (punt). When I watch porno, I could care less what the tops are like, love it when they're rough though, but I focus entirely on the bottom. I guess in a way it's a power trip, or an ego trip to be a top since you're controlling the action, but I'm real grateful their are hot bottoms out there who love to give themselves over to my pleasure.
I've found as my self esteem increased I enjoy bottoming more.
I as always a top, but then I relaxed. Suddenly I was beyond fine with a dick up my ass.
I won't ever do anal, but the type of dude I am attracted to is a strict, forever top because I am only interested in ALPHA Males. They say I am a tease because I won't ever do anal.
It was no painful, it was just so boring I almost fell asleep. Not one pleasurable sensation and I was quite relaxed and 'doing it right'.
I love to fuck but no pleasure in getting fucked.
Why some have no problem and others do? Is it because people's bodies are different and some are more durable than others?
Didn't realize there are so many tops on DL.
A few jagermeisters and Voila...All bottom
Could never bottom - always hurt too much.
Loved other guy's arses tho - eating em, playing with em, and fucking them.
Realized several years ago that the reason I found it painful was due to an incident when I was a kid. Nothing too sinister - just a rectal examination I'd had from a GP that was probably bit rougher than it should have been.
When I finally remembered the incident and realized what the problem was - it was really liberating. Still doesn't mean I like getting fucked - tho a regular buddy has done it to me maybe half a dozen times - with plenty of foreplay!'- and it wasn't too bad - began to quote enjoy it by the end - but when that relationship ended, I wasn't in any hurry to cop it again. Was happy for my bud to fuck me - but not met anyone since i'm interested in having do it to me.
Fortunately, there seem to be a lot of bottoms around. And i'm very happy to be a top...
No interest in bottoming. Did it a few times years ago when I was a kid and it did nothing for me. My mate (husband) has no interest in topping so that works out well.
I'll admit there are psychological things about it that don't sit right. It's just not the role for me. I like taking my man and rocking him. I couldn't imagine being in his role. Maybe that's just how he takes it, he's pretty passive. But that's sex to me, he's the perfect match in bed.
R50 it's sort of like the bar at 1:00 AM. Everyone's a top.
Then you get back to your top's place, filled with lavender scented candles and Fiestaware. Those Carhartt work boots come off and those ankles shoot to the sky faster than a rocket. "Oh…I'm feeling versatile tonight!" Mmm hmmm.
"Since then, we're both tops"
How's that working out for ya?
What R2 said.
I've tried it once, and it hurt like crazy. I have digitally stimulated myself, and that wasn't the most comfortable of things, but it felt better. Not everyone is into getting fucked. It takes a special type of someone to be able to take it up the ass on a consistant basis.
R32. Anal sex painful for me, okay? I don't find any pleasure in it even if you do. I know how to do it; I've tried many times--and I don't like it. And I don't have any desire for it nor do I feel like I'm missing out on the experience.
Something about that you don't understand?
Another one here who does not like it at all. I've only done it twice and it was excrutiatingly painful, combined with the 'about to shit the bed' feeling. It is just not for me. I've topped, and I'm not a big fan of that either. I'm just not that into ass, I guess. I don't like rimming either, but I do like to be rimmed.
I'm big. Between the guys who claim they won't be able to accommodate me and the guys who won't fuck me because they only want me to fuck them, what is a nice, versatile boy to do?
R63 come to me. I'll fuck you, but I am not versatile.
I can do you doggy style so I don't have to see that big schlong.
When I was 16, I had gay sex for the first time with a 22 year old guy. I didn't want him to think I was lame so I told him I was not a virgin, and he wanted to fuck me. I agreed since I assumed getting fucked would feel good. It hurt like hell! I was uncomfortable, I felt like I had to shit, and I enjoyed nothing about it. He then let me try to fuck him and I went crazy. It felt amazing and I would stay rock hard while cumming multiple times. I told myself I was a top.
I have a big dick and most guys would assume I was a top by just looking at it. For years and years, I was simply a total top and would turn down anyone who wanted to fuck me.
Then I fell in love. Met a vers guy who had a great ass and dick and he wanted to be with someone he could fuck as well. Around this time, we were madly in love and started having sex without condoms. The combination of loving him and trusting him allowed me to relax enough to take him. I started enjoying bottoming. Some people say it's hard finding a top, but I think it's harder finding a guy who's good at both, and my ex was good at both. He'd tell me he was 200% versatile. 100% top and 100% bottom, and that clicked with me.
That relationship ended but after that I decided to try bottoming with other guys. It wasn't as good since I went back to condoms but I started to enjoy it much more with the right guys. All the hangups I had about bottoming went away.
I never do one night stands, I'm more of a fuck buddy type guy and I've yet to meet a total top that I couldn't talk into bottoming. If you have a big fat dick, you can talk others into pretty much anything. The only total top I've ever met said he had never bottomed in his life and would always a top 100% of the time. I looked at his flat ass, and then back at his gorgeous dick, and realized he meant it when he said he'd never bottom. "Total tops" either have ugly asses/big dicks, or they have insecurities about their masculinity. Well, maybe not all, but the majority.
Compatability and preferences in sex and in other aspects of relationships: Find your match and accept people's wishes. Seems pretty simple to me. I have no interest in forcing someone in any way to do something they do not enjoy, sexually or otherwise. And I certainly do not equate aversion to anal sex as some sort of abherant or closeted homosexual behavior or trait. There is often middle ground and change- but it is generally not up to another individual to force or demand it.
Personally different people have brought out varying desire in me. Some guys I would like to top, some to bottom and some both. I assume I have the same affect on others- less all around all the time as I am an old, or nearly old, fart. But that's OK because I have had a wonderful time thus far.
Live and let live fellas.
[quote]I never do one night stands, I'm more of a fuck buddy type guy and I've yet to meet a total top that I couldn't talk into bottoming. If you have a big fat dick, you can talk others into pretty much anything. The only total top I've ever met said he had never bottomed in his life and would always a top 100% of the time. I looked at his flat ass, and then back at his gorgeous dick, and realized he meant it when he said he'd never bottom. "Total tops" either have ugly asses/big dicks, or they have insecurities about their masculinity. Well, maybe not all, but the majority.
Total bullshit. You need to meet more tops. You could not talk me into anything. I find big dicks repellant. I do not have an ugly ass, my dick is nicely sized but I am no freak of nature. Masculinity problems, not all, not none and not the majority.
r67, why are you so defensive?!
At the end, I wrote: Well, maybe not all, but the majority.
That would include YOU then, but the fact you got so offended makes me think you do have masculinity problems.
Idk R67, I do think guys that have this hardcore mentality to never trying anything up their ass so have some insecurity and masculinity issues.
I will allow myself to get fucked as long as the guy isn't huge and if he really wants to top, but it doesn't do much for me.
I like rimming and a little finger play but I'd much rather top just because it is more fun for me that way. I am still willing to be a little versatile because I feel like every guy should make it an effort to be a little versatile.
R68 it is not defensive to point out you are full of shit.
You really shouldn't have to force yourself to do something that is and continues to be painful.
r68/70= defensive AND clueless.
I was a top for years but the desensitizing of condoms, the fear of the risks of topping bareback, and finding more guys who don't keep their ass clean enough made me bored with intercourse all together. It's kissing, frottage, and mutual oral for me and I love it.
I'm all top. If you don't like that, go find someone else Princess!
OP acts as if getting penetrated is the norm amongst guys, same-sex oriented or not. Only a minority of guys (whatever sexual orientation) will ever be penetrated or would ever want to. It's a distinct minority inclination.
Not in Washington, DC r75. ;-)
What is r75 smoking and where did she get it.
I have let every boyfriend I have had fuck me. I hated it each and every time and couldn't wait for it to be over. Once I had a farmewr boyfiend who used "utter lube" (for milking cows for you city boys). That was tolorable, but wasn't pleasurable. I tried everything to make it not hurt so much. But one day I thought...why the hell do I keep doing this? Big dick, little dick or finger, just hated it. If you hate it don't do it, who cares what they do in pornos, those guys probably hate it too.
I work with a guy like this, OP. He's never tried it at all and totally refuses to, even with numbing cream. He says he's too afraid of the pain. Like R66 said, all you can do is accept people's wishes.
I'm 100% man but a total lady in bed.
A whorish, slutty, fuckable lady.
R76, no, it is just that the dudes you hang out with in DC like to get penetrated. Birds of a feather....
R75 doesn't help his case by hyperbole.
There aren't many studies - and it would be hard to create one - that could find a representative population of all gay and bi men and then get good numbers on what most like to do.
But there have been good surveys over the years - the Advocate did one as I recall - that found while oral sex was the most popular sex act for men who have sex with men, anal sex was not for the minority, and those who got fucked were more than 60%...
And why? Because it actually can feel good ... And not because everyone who thinks so gets pleasure from pain...
strict powertops are cool
Never been fucked up the ass but I sure want to be! I'm bi as of late...hehe. I've fucked just about every GF I've ever had in the ass. Most numerous times. Only fucked one guy and I wanted him to fuck me but he couldn't get it up. We polished off 1 1/2 bottles of scotch...totally wasted. Now, I think about it all the time! Come fuck me please!
Nothing worse than a bunch of pussies who are afraid of getting a cock. I always put on twink porn and show these skinny little guys taking these huge cocks and shame them into bottoming. That is the only way. Shame them. Shame them hard.
If it hurts you, OP, how fucking stupid are you to continue doing it???
I'm 48, don't like anal and my partner doesn't like it either. We've had an oral-only relationship for the past 13 years and that's fine with both of us.
Truck Drivers like Hairdressers OP - Deal!
It does hurt. That's why I never understand you freakish size queens...like every guy has to be 10 inches? I think you are bullshitters and that you actually never get fucked, you just have a fantasy.
total tops? more like totally scared inexperienced bottoms. i simply cant recount the times a total top wanted me to play with his asshole and declared that he would bottom but only for the 'right' guy. the asshole is not the safe to your manhood fellas. and if it was i don't think it would be all that hard to find the combination. my advise, you simply need more self-discovery but i guess some of us bumped our knees and never learn to ride a bicycle.
I don't. Never have, never will. It has no appeal to me, in fact, it repulses me. I am glad a lot of dudes are strict bottoms.
I haven't been fucked since I was a teen. I'm really not into it, it does nothing for me. It hurts and requires holding ones body in some uncomfortable pose for too long. It is funny how some here are absolutely outraged that there are guys like me out there. Its almost as if they are trying to convince themselves more than others.
outraged. no. it's just a fact that some of us know how to do it right. no offense but it must have hurt everyman's mother here the first time she took cock. did she stop? did it kill her? people are letting a few bad, hit-or-miss experiences psychologically brand them. that's all.
You're right R95, outraged is not the right word. But as I said, for some people (myself included) it really does nothing for us. A better analogy would be why should I bother watching a sit com I dont think is funny or entertaining? It's a matter of preference. Its not an issue of it not being done right, or some horrible experience that psychologically branded me. I tried it, I didn't care for it and I moved on. Just like the time after I watched "How I Met Your Mother" and said to myself, "that was a waste of time."
R94 needs to be gangbanged by 12 inch big black dicks!
I think assholes are gross. Nothing erotic or sensual or appealing about them at all. Give me oral any day of the week.
I think there are some people who really need to seek some therapy for their issues about anal sex. It is clearly masking some sort of self loathing and insecurity about being gay. It is all very stranger. Talk to someone, call your local gay center and they will put you in touch with qualified shrinks who will talk to you.
R98, but what about asses? Aren't those buns beatiful?
To me it only matter whether someone likes fucking, top or bottom when it's relevant to me. And if they do not like what I like, well that's too bad for them and for me. No more no less. No judgements. Can't have everything I want all the time.
More power happiness and good times to those who are able to fulfill their sexual desired and favorite activities- that's all.
r99, you conflate being gay or bisexual with an orientation for anal sex. Your presumption is erroneous and ignorant.
I'm starting to think the only straight guys in gay porn are the bottoms. Desperate for sure, but they don't have to get an erection or perform with any degree of enthusiasm. Just take it.
I love a pretty ass.
Anal sex is a huge turn off for me.
There is actually some truth to that R104. A lot of times when you don't see porn stars topping that often, it is because they have trouble maintaining wood for whatever reason.
Much easier to fake it while getting fucked, can't fake an erection.
My partner of 21 years used to let me fuck him, but it hurt so much that he hasn't given it up in a few years. I miss topping, but I love him and hate to see him in pain, so I don't push the issue. As long as he still fucks me from time to time, I'm OK with the situation.
That's what I mean R107. This myth about the straight guy desperate for cash, willing to do anything - well the easiest and least demanding thing would be to spread his ass and take it, even if it is painful.
The viewers get to see an attractive guy, a STRAIGHT LOOKING AND ACTING GUY! get fucked
Most men, especially if they are cute and have nice asses should be fucked at least once to see if they are made for it, if not, they can join a convent/monastery. Men need to be opened up and fucking them up the ass is one way of doing it. I have found that finger fucking and kneading the buttocks and maybe spanking isn't too bad of a substitute and sometimes a good preparation for an erect penis.
The first guy I ever had sex with made it seem like he'd reciprocate if I let him fuck me (I was 18 and "bi-curious"). Even though I wasn't too eager to try anal, I relented and after a few painful tries, he finally got his dick in me. Fast forward to the moment where I figured it was my turn to try. He bluntly said, "I don't do that!" I felt taken advantage of, and even today I've only been fucked by a few guys (I'm 31).
When did getting penetrated determine whether one is cool with being into dudes? No, being penetrated is a personal choice and desire that many dudes who are into dudes do not have. Throughout many cultures and times, most men who had sex with men were never penetrated. Get over it.
A lot of guys just don't like to be hurt. It fucking hurts!
If a bi guys boyfriend does not like anal...do you think he will just fuck a girl, because he simply WANTS TO FUCK? It's a real question.
Most bi guys never have a boyfriend.
For some reason, fucking guys who aren't into it is strangely sexy. Maybe because they don't like it but like you enough to do it.
forced-fucking gets me off big time
"Sexually neurotic" sounds too much like "abnormal" or "unnatural".
I'm kind of in an in-between situation...I end up topping when I have anal sex basically by default, because anal hurts too much. But! I don't think this is a masculinity hang-up (I hope) or other ego issue...I actually desperately want to get fucked and have scoured the internet for tips. I've tried basically everything and it just doesn't seem to work. Which is basically heart breaking to me because what I think is so (potentially) awesome about gay sex is the "versatile" thing. But I can't do it :(
I know, if it hurts...just forget it, or maybe use serious drugs?
You begin by saying "I met one." Then two sentences later you also say you are one. So what the fuck?
The thing is sometimes it's great and sometimes (a whole lot of times) it's not great at all, and even with the same person. It's a mystery.
I don't like anal, personally. Giving or getting.
In fact, I haven't had anal since Clinton was President.
Dumbest thread ever. I'm a top. That means I like to fuck guys up the ass. I'm only interested in bottoms.
All you "versatile" guys can just go off and do whatever it is you do. Have a good time!
But when I hook up with a guy I want a hot bottom who loves to get fucked. I like the look on the guy's face, the moans and everything that goes along with it.
I go off and have hot sex, R126. Nice that you enjoy adopting heteronormative sex practices, if that's your thing.
I will never be penetrated. It's ok if you like to be penetrated, but please don't try to project your desires on other dudes who don't share them. You have your desires, others have different desires and limits.
Guys like what they like......some people are simply not attracted to bottoming, some aren't attracted to topping. I'm a true verse (not a bottom who says they're verse). I get in zones where I only think about topping and then zones when I only think about bottoming. I don't care about or even think about sexual roles. I just like having sex.
I don't think it's a self-hatred thing for ALL or even most guys who don't like to get fucked. A fair percentage, sure, but some guys just aren't into it and don't get a lot from it. Also not everybody can take a fucking. Some guys just handle a dick physically better than others.
I feel bad for the guys who are scared off of bottoming due to a bad experience, though. It feels really good IF a top knows what he's doing and you prep extensively beforehand. It takes time and practice.
I had assumed that I would enjoy being fucked, and it had been my fantasy for a time before I came across a man who made the proposition. I was trying to hide the fact that I had homosexual desires, so I never made the proposition. What I was desperate for was a blowjob, and I told the man that if he sucked my dick first, I would let him fuck me. The blowjob was great, but I did not know anything about lube and did not have any. When he spit in his hand and rubbed it on my asshole, and on his dick, that was disgusting, and then when he tried to shove it my ass, it hurt really bad and I changed my mind quick and started fighting him off of me. He was angry because I did not follow through after he had sucked my dick, but that if just the way it had to be. I was young then, and I am old now, and I've been with hundreds of men, but I can only remember three besides that first one who wanted to fuck me. Since the internet, I am advertising that I just want bj's so they might want asshole but they already know I don't do that. I have experimented, with my finger and I have let other men rub my prostate with a lubed finger, but I don't like that feeling. It feels something like an orgasm, but it is more like a stimulation of raw nerves in there instead of the orgasmic climax. I just know that as uncomfortable as a lubed finger is on the anus itself, much less the discomfort on the prostate, even a small thin dick is larger in diameter than a finger. So I don't do that, and I am another old man of the age that it saved my life and health that I don't do anal. When I was young, I tried to accomodate those who wanted to be fucked, even though it is sort of disgusting to me, but my dick would not stay hard for that.