Are you a man or woman, OP?
If you wait until the class is over, there are certainly no rules against it. If you don't wait, there might be no rules, but he'd be wise to say no.
Do you ever go for drinks after class? That would be the time to further your intentions.
If this is in an academic setting, it will be more difficult.
no, it's an acting class and we're both guys. Not even sure if he is gay.
But in case he is, he has probably nothing to worry about b/c I'll likely chicken out.
I'm in a horrific cycle; I work on myself and I think I can be okay being alone and then I realize I am okay being alone and then I think I'm ready to have a relationship but then it's ten steps back.
I get nervous, awkward. I think it'll end horribly.
I make Valene Ewing look sane.
Ask him to have coffee somewhere casual and see how the conversation goes. Tell him how much you enjoyed the class and that you would to see more of him.
I agree with R7 -- but wait until the last day, or at least last week, of class. There should be no connection at all between the possibility of your seeing each other in future & the remainder of the class (not to mention any grades or evaluations he might have to assign to his students). Don't put him in a difficult position professionally.
So romantic -- good luck!
OP how old are you to know who Valene Ewing is?
R9, old enough to know that Sid's first name was actually "William."
R7 has good advice; if nothing else, he could end up being a friend and I do what advice on what class to take next.
(Not that I'm complaining, but I figured there'd be lots of flaming on this thread.)
what = want
Are you seriously going to ask out MHB, OP? That's sick.
There are no rules against it, but I'd wait until the last day of class, I wouldn't do it if you are planning on studying with him again, and I'd be prepared for rejection, especially if you might want his guidance or coaching in the future, or if rejection might otherwise sour the affection you so clearly have for him at present.
Is his name Zandra?
R13 and others, well, today was the day (last class) and boy did I chicken out.
He said he was going to give us all evaluations and I heard "over dinner" when he actually said "over the phone."
I lingered a bit, made some small talk and... chickened out...
There may be future classes with him, he is an excellent teacher and I don't think I should be asking people out when it means so much to me. I guess the trick is to do it when I'm comfortable with myself. Or ask out people I don't want to date so I can't be hurt by the rejection. But that actually makes no sense whatsoever.
Which could be a while. Clearly.
The sucky part is that he seems like a really cool guy.
OP, your reference to some obscure character from a show that's been off the air for 20 years indicates that you're way too old to be such a pussy.
sigh. I wish I weren't so chicken, R17.
But I am.
Nobody's sadder about it than I am.
I think you'd probably be more hurt and insulted if people you weren't interested in rejected you, but it's a funny strategy.
It is so not too late. He's going to call you soon with your evaluation. Just remember what r7 said and let him know you wouldn't mind seeing him more (over a latte, maybe?) when he does call. This could work out perfectly.
Here is the best way, Mary OP:
Wait until he goes to the T-room, follow him, go to the urinal next to him, take out your tinymeat to pee and watch his meat while he pees. If he wants a 'date' with you he will let you know at that time.
Ask him he wants a BJ before your evaluations. Them you're sure to get a passing grade. (unless you slobber, of course)
Do you like me? Please check one:
Bashful and Anxious
Thanks, R20, I actually did throw out "or over coffee?" when he mentioned calling for the evaluation, but he was non-responsive or non-committal, at best.
We'll see. Thanks.
Mrs. Campbell, actually, you couldn't be more wrong.
are you in san francisco, OP?
Mrs. Campbell was close. Cross streams and make light saber noises, OP.
If your teacher says, "Luke, I am your fah-ther,"
then you respond singing, "and you're my brother and my lover, too 'cause we're about to go down and I know just what to do."
This has an 82.3% chance of working, unless your unfortunate looking.
I find it's easier and less risky to ask someone out for a specific event than for a general date. You could have started a conversation with him about a specific show (or movie) and if you detected interest ask him if he'd like to see it with him. Gives him a way out if he wants it and is less risk of rejection feelings for you (he didn't want to see the show not he didn't want to see you). If he accepted, you could wind up with a friend or a lot more. If he didn't, it's less devestating.
Has he called yet OP?
I had the hots for my math teacher!
As someone who teaches acting at a college, I'd say you do best to wait until you graduate (if it's at a college) or there's no chance you would ever study with him again before you make any moves. and be prepared--he may find any moves on your part very unwelcome, even if he likes your finds you attractive. So many students turn around and file charges these days (even if they initiated the contact) that any sane teacher will run like the devil. And someinstitutions DO hav rules against it--at mine itis a fire able offense, even if mutually consensual. If it's a privat acting studio, it maybe different, butifit's an actualcolle or university,it's a really bad idea.
Thanks Uta and R29, good advice all around.
who knows -- maybe I just picked him b/c I 'can't' have him.
and of course, if it's 'meant to be....'
blah blah blah.
Lesbian here -- I have somewhat the same story & am looking for advice.
I'm auditing a course at a prestigious university, & have a crush on the professor. I am pretty sure she is gay, too. I'm just auditing the course & I'm her age, so there are no ethical problems, and the course will end in 2 months anyway.
How do I get the ball rolling?!? If I met her at a bar or a party, I wouldn't have a problem chatting her up and telling her that I'm really interested in what she is doing and then asking for coffee or lunch. It's the weird situation of the classroom -- I don't know how to break the artificial barrier set by the classroom and get the conversation to a personal level.
It's a high-level technical engineering course, so I could ask a question after class about the lecture. But it would be very technical & any attempt to say "I'm interested in this, would love to discuss more over coffee" would just be a blatant attempt to ask for a date. I think she would be blind-sided, and thus the chances of success are very low with that approach.
Park a U-Haul in front of the building with the passenger door open. If she jumps in you are golden.
There are most definitely rules in love.
OP, thanks for confirming in R6 that you're nothing but a time-waster, which was pretty obvious from your initial, stupid question anyway.
R35 & R37: thanks for your constructive advice. Just a note: some day you will be -- horrible dictu! -- 40 years old, and then all the other gay men won't want you for casual sex -- including the 55-yr olds. It's a long time from 40 to 80-something.
R39 - you are welcome! Always glad to give advice. The lesbian dating scene seems much more straight forward than gay male dating scene. I know it's tough to make the first move, but give it a try. You will either be glad you did or regret that you never tried.
Thank you for being worried about my age as well! I am knocking on the door of 41 and thankfully have left the days of looking for casual sex behind. Luckily, time has been good to me in aging and building up some cash. In the event I do want casual sex one or the other will work out for me.
Keep us posted on your progress!