Could you share an apartment with a Hot Straight Guy?
As a gay man, would you be able to stand sharing a place with a hot straight guy?
Would you be able to put aside your attraction to him, or would it drive you crazy?
For example, would you be able to withstand the site of seeing him in his underwear, smelling his manly scent wafting through the air, seeing him get out of the shower naked etc. ?
Or would it be such a constant sexual distraction that it would disrupt you from being able to concentrate on your job, own life etc.?
I couldn't when I did. I was constantly sniffing his underwear and socks when he wasn't around or in them.
Me too, r1... and I'd fish out his used condoms from the wastebin. So hot.
How young were you guys then?! I would hope back when you were babygay virgins and couldn't handle your hormones.
Anyway, yes of course I have and can. Sure a couple glimpses of him undressed could be distracting but so what? It was just a pleasant sight to see and never caused a problem.
You do realize that this thread plays right into the hands of the pro-DADT people. There are plenty of gay men in the military who share bunks with very hot straight guys and are not attracted, and if they are, certainly don't act on that attraction. It's called being an adult and having self-control. How old are you people?
As long as he's clean and pays his rent on time.
There's an expression, "Familiarity breeds contempt."
Well, that's exactly what would happen. You-and he--would get sick of, very tired of or view each other him as a sibling and would eventually avoid the sight of each other. And even if you became friends, the "ick" factor would take over, and you'd respect each other's privacy--or at least keep your distance.
This is the situation I am in at the moment. Good buddy from college who knows I'm gay. He still sits around in nothing but his underwear, and we are both comfortable with it.
I had a hot straight roommate who knew how hot he was and enjoyed teasing me. He seemed to get a kick out of turning me on and I happily played along. He'd appear in my bedroom doorway naked (just out of the shower) and stand and talk for a few minutes. Of course I couldn't keep my eyes off his big cock. He'd see me looking and smile slyly.
He'd also shower with the bathroom door open and talk about his sex life and his "family jewels" a lot.
He started dating a friend of mine and they eventually got married and had a bunch of kids.
I did, a really sexy Spanish guy. He was achingly nice too.
The only difficult times were if we both got drunk at a party, then I'd occasionally say stupid things but depending on the guy I could do it again
[quote]You do realize that this thread plays right into the hands of the pro-DADT people
What are they doing here on DL reading this thread?
[quote]He still sits around in nothing but his underwear, and we are both comfortable with it.
So asks Cathy of the hypotheticals.
I was a college student at the time. No, I wouldn't do it now.
College students and young folks, regardless of sexual orientation, do stupid shit, push boundaries and make mistakes.
[R11] Just saying thats how good of friends we are. Our sexualities don't bother each other. I don't get turned on by him because we are such good friends.
When I first moved out on my own, I got a roommate. I ended up being roommates with three different guys over the following years and I was closeted. At no time were we in the bathroom together where one got out of the shower in front of the other. In fact we had two bedroom apts, which usually had two bathrooms. If not, we took turns. I've never noticed anybody's musky stench wafting throughout the apt either. Maybe if I put my face in his ass, but I didn't. Anybody that has musk you can smell from 6 feet or farther away, obviously isn't taking showers in the first place.
Nice fantasy though. Not reality.
OP has clearly never moved out of mommy's house.
R15, you do realize your circumstance doesn't describe everyone's, right? It varies depending on the structural architecture of the apartment, the guys involved, and a variety of other factors.
Most guys who share a place usually see each other changing, or in their underwear or naked at some point or another.
Is it the same guy that I can blow while he watches straight porn?
I have. It was not an issue.
Bengali in Platforms
I used to share an apartment with a really hot straight guy. We're talking scorching hot. And he was always horny. He knew I was gay. On the off nights when he was particularly horny and didn't return home from some bar or club with some slut, he'd let me blow him. He'd call me "Megan" as I serviced him. I never actually found out who Megan was and we never ever discussed our activities. He asked to fuck me one time. I was a little apprehensive, because he was extremely thick. Enormous girth. I let him do it, and just thinking about the loud moans he let out as he fucked me are getting me hard now. I found out a few years later that he was also fucking some trannies.
So he was bi, R21 - not straight.
Interesting point, R4. But, of course, there's a huge difference between living one-on-one in a private apartment with a guy you find attractive and living in a military barracks situation with a whole bunch of guys including some who are really hot. Don't you agree?
R21, R22. Sounds like your "scorching hot" roommate was a big ol' GAY closet case. He wasn't straight or bi. He was gay.
I did it for years. He was a good friend and sex was never an issue, any more than it would have been with me living with a straight woman, which I also did when I was young.
He was a total pussy hound but loved gay humor and was hilarious. His only anti-gay thing was: "NO DRAG music!" by which he meant divas like Streisand, Midler, etc., which only happened when the two of us lived with two other gay men. Poor guy, living with three big queens.
At any rate, I loved him dearly (he died a few years ago) and I will miss him for the rest of my life.
BTW, his widow and son are still good friends of mine.
um no he was straight. He was drunk when I blew him, and absolutely drunk off his ass and high when he fucked me. He called me Megan every time, so he was obviously fantasizing about women, or one woman in particular, when we had sex. I think he just was a very sexual straight guy who needed a warm wet hole every night, and on the off nights when he didn't bring back some whore, he turned to my very willing hole(s). Dating trannies doesn't make someone gay or bi. It was obvious he wanted a woman, or when he was sober, someone who for all intents and purposes was a woman.
It might be different now but invariably, the roommate situation would melt down over "Odd Couple"-type issues.
Who was neat, who was a slob, who wanted to "decorate" and who wanted to watch TV and drink. These roles would often belie stereotypes as well, so people expectations would get blown out the window, also increasing tensions.
I shared a dorm room in grad school with this muscle guy. His calves were the size of my thigh, his thighs the size of my waist and his waist was still the size of my waist.
At the time, I was 5'10 and 178lb. He was 6'4 at 265lb.
It was too much for me. I moved out of the dorm as soon as I could. We remained good friends. I just could not deal with the distraction and arousal.
It's a great experience to have. I have lived with straight guys and their gf's, a closeted guy, and a gay guy. They have all been different and fun experiences.
I suspect r21 and r28 are lying. Muscleheads don't go to grad school and r21 just sounds like something from a bad porno.
Funny how so many people have stories about living with "hot" straight guys and no one lived with fat, homely, smelly, messy straight guys. I lived with straight guys in college and they were all fug. But the straight guy fetishists want to believe all straight guys are big muscled guys or male models when nothing could be farther from the truth!
I roomed with a sexy blond str8 guy in one of my first places after college. He was achingly nice as well. He moved to NYC to pursue modeling but was too midwestern wholesome to get anything editorial. He ended up doing a bunch of soap work. His body was amazing with a smooth tanned chest with pink nipples. It was very distracting. When he moved out, he left his workboots. I ended up taking them with me when I moved out.
Come to think of it, I have lived with three very sexy straight guys. One was in college and he was studying screenwriting at NYU. He was a sexy NYer type with a Long Island accent. His body was stacked and lean in the way only someone in their early 20s can pull off. He was shirtless ALL the time. He came to be a bit annoying but I did enjoy catching glimpses of his pubes when he walked around in boxers.
And once when studying abroad at age 16, I remember stupidly trying to pull my sleeping French host brother's boxers down. I was one horny fuck.
So yes, it can be very distracting.
"I remember stupidly trying to pull my sleeping French host brother's boxers down."
I have had straight roommates. I lived in Ireland and had a Dutch guy for a roommate - rough face but a great body. He liked to walk around nude but I never bothered doing anything but glancing. That was in Dublin. Later, up in Ulster I had English and Irish roommates. The English was a jerk and a soccer player who had the same name as I - very weird. He was shy and had huge legs and a little cock. The Irish guy had broken up with his girlfriend and would get drunk and all weepy and snuggly - he'd want to cuddle - I am not kidding - saying he missed his mates and was lonely. And he'd fall asleep in my arms. He was darling but too fractured. After I moved on I checked back with him and he had gotten married and fat and had several kids.
I had college friends before that who weren't roommates but dorm mates who supposedly were straight but time proved otherwise. The "straight" ones always ended up bottoming when we had our orgies. I am thinking of three guys specifically, as opposed to the out gay guys who were always more flexible. It was like once the straightish ones broke down their barriers (stoned) what they really wanted to try was anal, and they wanted to be taken by more than one guy. We gay guys were glad to oblige but it got kind of funny by the time number three was being pounded.
Just for the record, two of the three ended up marrying. One got himself a boyfriend who had been married, but committed suicide (hanged himself) within a year after graduating.
I smell sitcom.
r26, please tell me this is meant as a parody post?
Cause your denial is F-U-N-N-Y.
R30, he was a grad student in sports nutrition. He was also an avid bodybuilder. I was in EE (electrical engineering). The place was Buffalo, NY.
I roomed with a hot straight guy in college, but I looked at him like a brother so anything sexual was out of the question. Even though he was physically attractive, there was no way I could have had any intimate feelings for him - it just would have been too weird.
Why is this question just about a hot straight guy. What if the guy was gay and hot and just your roommate? Wouldn't that be just as much of a challenge?
Possible, R38, but if the guy is gay, it can obviously lead to a relationship, whereas with a straight guy the desire can never be satisfied.
That is the dilemma, so that's why I posed the question. : )
I lived with a straight friend I had a crush on (who didn't know I was gay) for a year. Big mistake. Aside from how sexually frustrating it was, I was perpetually disappointed that we weren't closer -- in other words that he didn't act more like my boyfriend, or even a best friend. My feelings were hurt every time he went into his room and shut the door. It was stupid to move in with him and I'd never make that mistake again (although I think now that I'm older I'd probably be more mature/sensible about it).
The perfect roommate relationship is one where you hang out if you feel like it, and you don't if you don't, and both of you are happy with it. I had that right after and it was great -- better than living with my boyfriend in some ways!
There's no such thing as straight according to DL, sillies!
I could barely share a Super SHuttle ride tonight with a hottie.
I cannot handle it! I never could. I have one now who is hot. I can't even mention the word sex around him (no joke!). He's very uptight. I'm afraid of him, because he really hates gays. It's a long story how we ended up rooming together. But I definitely want to take Ivan into his bedroom and do some nasty, obscene things with him. But then, I would die shortly thereafter. That would suck!
Ben, well he was just one very horny, straight, young guy who was very protective of me. I used to spy on him through a hole in the bathroom. The hottest thing I've ever seen in my life--him spanking that thing every single day!
I room with a hot straight dude who is my best friend. I have self-restraint and respect for boundaries for my roommate. I am not some impulsive animal who can't control my impulses. He's my bro, not some piece of meat. And, I have never seen any of my roommates naked. It's not like people walk around naked when they have roommates. Boundaries and respect are a great thing.
R31, who is the blond guy who wanted to be a model but ended up doing a lot of soap work? What time did you know him- 70s, 80s, 90's? Also, I share another poster's curiosity for details about what happened with your French host brother. Please share!
"He's my bro, not some piece of meat."
Do you say that with a lisp?
[quote]Boundaries and respect are a great thing.
and also very boring.
The blond guy who ended up doing a lot of soap work was a day player, under five type. He never had a major role. This was in the late 90s. I forget his last name, but I have his comp card somewhere and will look him up on facebook one of these days.
My French host brother was just sexy as hell to me. Dark hair, loved to play basketball, but also loved to write, Nico, very sweet guy. We actually shared the same room, our beds right next to each other. We were both 16 at the time. One night I remember being so desperate to see him naked, I tried to slide his boxers down his hips while he slept, or at least catch a glimpse through the fly. It didn't work and I just probably retired to my bed and beat off.
Yes, OP. Both of us gay men shared a house with a Hot Straight Guy.
No, I would make a fool of myself.
r49, are you are rapist?
I did with an ex-Marine. We knew each other in college, when I fell in love with him, and we corresponded when he was in service. When he got out, three years later, we ended up sharing an apartment.
I wasn't out at the time, so our relationship was always ambiguous. I was so fucking hot for him, and I think he knew it and he kind of enjoyed it, but it also created a lot of tension. Sadly, nothing ever happened between us, except a lot of misery for me.
He eventually got fat, moved away, became a Border Patrol agent, and got married. But I still jack off thinking about him in his heyday as one of my hottest fantasies.
"nothing ever happened between us"
Well, if he was straight that would make sense.
I would spend every second of every day thinking, planing and plotting a way to induce him just "to try it once," whereupon he would discover how great it was and we could live happily every after.
In the process, I would abandon every aspect of my former life and end up a total ruin.
R56, it wasn't that simple. I think he knew that I was gay, and he was intrigued by the possibilities, but we were each too chickenshit then to make the first move.
We connected on an almost a spiritual level. He was inventive, creative, and lusty. "If only you had tits...," he said to me once when we were walking home after getting drunk together.
For that one time, I wished I had them, just for the chance to get into his pants.
When a group of straight guys live together, stuff like this (see link) usually happens. You'll enjoy it.
These stories all seem to end with "and then he moved away and got fat".
My current roommate is a hot straight guy and it's working out fine.
As we became friends, I started thinking of him as more like a brother so renting a place together wasn't that weird.
One time, When Harry Met Sally was on cable and he jokingly said that if I were a woman, we would have fucked by now.
My reply was that if he were a man, I would have fucked him by now.
I dont view my friends and roommates as sex objects. Boundaries are good.
I'm in a similar (though we're not roommates) situation with a gay friend of mine. I was very much in love with him for quite a long while but nothing ever happened between us (not even a kiss) because he's never been even remotely interested in me. We did, however, manage to become very good friends over time and now, for the first time, we're about to go on vacation together and will be sharing a room. Thankfully, I've since gotten over my romantic feelings for him and, like R61, have actually come to think of him more like the brother I never had, which makes being with him (and listening to him talk about his sex life) no longer hard to take.
r65, you sound mature and moral.
I just got a new hot straight dude roommate who plays football in college. Cool!
If he knows your gay then he might be bisexual the way he's acting.
[quote]How young were you guys then?! I would hope back when you were babygay virgins and couldn't handle your hormones.
I had an Adonis for a roommate when I was still in college and a virgin. I handled it. Unlike some of the obsessives on this thread, I don't go apeshit in the presence of attractive men and start compulsively smelling jockstraps or something, nor did I when I was younger.
[quote]For example, would you be able to withstand the site of seeing him in his underwear, smelling his manly scent wafting through the air, seeing him get out of the shower naked etc. ?
I have to agree with R4: you're playing into the most offensive stereotype of gay men, that we're all uncontrollable sex pigs. Seek help.
Yes. I see houses I'd like to own all of the time, too, and have never once attempted to roust the occupants and move in. The world is full of things --and people-- that, in the right circumstance, I'd like to have (in one way or another), but not having them doesn't drive me crazy.
Exercise a crumb of self control.
I can see r69's point, but he needs to lighten up a little.
[quote]He'd call me "Megan" as I serviced him.
This seriously had me laughing out loud for about 5 minutes. I'm laughing as I type, for realz! That's some funny shit.
What were you thinking when he called you "Megan"??? Did you think that was hot? What the FUCK.
I shared an office as a grad student with another GA who was hot as hell. He never want for pussy, but he never had to work hard for it. He never had to work hard for anything. The Dean, old, straight, wrinkled fuck, had him for a golden boy. Mind you, he wasn't stupid but he wasn't the sharpest knife in the drawer and he had unbelievable opportunity thrown at him.
He ended up moving back home because he couldn't keep a regular job in the real world. I hope he is in a basement, somewhere, with Cheetos dust on his fingers with his diploma over the washer.
Fuck hot straight guys.
[quote]But, of course, there's a huge difference between living one-on-one in a private apartment with a guy you find attractive and living in a military barracks situation with a whole bunch of guys including some who are really hot. Don't you agree?
You've been watching too many WWII movies. Military barracks, especially Stateside, have moved far beyond what you see in the movies. Even in Iraq, guys are often two to a room and showers are typically private. Afghanistan is quite a bit more "rustic" and more closely resembles what you're thinking of.
Why would you ever wish such a thing, r73? Unless he was a prick to you in some way, you are just being a bitter, salty queen. Not a good look, honey.
r75, it is the premium that Western society puts on tall, white, good looking, fit, christian men that pisses me off. When I see a recipient of unearned benefits as a result of it, it pisses me off.
Haven't you ever worked for a tall idiot and wondered how the hell he got the job? The tall, good looking bias is the other end of the lookism spectrum. How many brilliant leaders have been passed up because they were short or unattractive? Hubert Humphrey.
Ever wonder why someone as stupid as Sarah Palin was picked as McCain's VP? McCain is short. A rule in politics is never have a #2 taller than #1 unless they are BOTH over 6 feet tall. Every acceptable male for McCain VP TOWERED over him. Palin, in high Heels, was about the same height. Bingo.
Both Obama and Romney are -1s on the big scale; Obama is multicultural, Romney is non-Christian (non-Trinitarian).
Prediction: No Bobby the monkey Jindal, no Rob Portman (not a Christian on the ticket). Probably Marco Rubio.
I return yopu to the Hot Straight Roomate Guy Thread
Good post, r76.
Of course. I am doing it now.
My best male friend is straight; we've known each other for 20 years. He is just as hot now as he was when we met. I admit when we were younger I desperately wanted to get in his pants. I even tried some drunken seductions that never amounted to anything, I'm embarrassed to say.
He is 100% straight, but will go to gay bars with me, hugs me, tells me he loves me, and would drop anything if I needed him. He tells all the other gays who throw themslelves at him that I'm the only guy he'd be with if he was gay. He is an only child and had a fucked up childhood, so I think I'm that brother he never had. Last year, he was having trouble with his wife so he moved in with me for a few weeks. I do think of him like a brother now, and don't really think about wanting to have sex with him anymore. But while he was living here, I did start having sex dreams about him. We've never been shy around each other --we've skinny dipped, pissed next to each other--but I started acting all nervous when I'd even see him in a towel or boxers. He knew I was acting strange. I was relieved when he moved out, even though we never did anything but in my dreams.
Honestly, the thought of really doing anything still weirds me out, but I had another HOT sex dream about him last night, and I haven't seen him in weeks!
-I was perpetually disappointed that we weren't closer -- in other words that he didn't act more like my boyfriend, or even a best friend. My feelings were hurt every time he went into his room and shut the door. It was stupid to move in with him and I'd never make that mistake again-
I'll second this, having had the same experience. It's like a really hot woman living with a guy she has no sexual desire for, or is actually turned off by. Something is going tp sour, despite the best of intentions.
If you do this, have zero expectations. Most men aren't very nice people to be around.
Never saw him nude, either, but always with the damned hand in his shorts watching football. Always distracting. Frustrating.
Friendship fizzled after he could afford his own place. Don't miss the sound of the slamming door at all.
i live with a hot straight guy right now. he's tall and lanky, and that's not my type at all, so not into him in the slightest.
How many times do we have to do this before we realize that the straight male is a very complex, baffling creature. Him want food and pussy. When not hungry and no pussy, him try anything handy.
Many of these stories could be my own. When I was in my 20's I shared an apt with a want to be actor in LA. We even shared a room. He was gorgeous and sweet and dumb dumb dumb. I wanted him so bad and made a fool of myself for awhile. But soon, like most of my relationships you find those things that bug the crap out you and know what the bathroom smells like after he's been in there awhile and his jokes get old and were never really that funny anyway, it's easy to lose those early fuzzy feelings.
I've had a variety of straight roommates, some super hot, and never had a problem...except for the one guy, whom I am convinced was not straight.
One "straight," a tall computer genius with a smoking bod, used to exercise in front of me dressed only in a speedo. No reaction, although in hindsight probably not straight. Another, a rugby player, would tease me incessantly making suggestive remarks. Two guys in my suite had a sleeping loft and they had me up there one time when they touched each others hard-ons dressed only in underwear. I was able to resist. Straight men love to tease the gays.
But then there was the ONE. Manner as smooth as the finest gelato, mind as sharp as a mandolin slicer, heart as big but sometimes as cruel as Africa, and his crotch smelled like ham cooked in cinammon and brown sugar with cloves and orange peels. He could have been a serial killer and I couldn't have resisted him.
Why do SOME gay dudes treat straight guys like they are some foreign or other-wordly specifies? Stop mystifying other dudes and act normal.
Had three roommates every year after freshmen year.
Ended up living with two straight crushes the year after the crush started.
Misery. Mainly because they were themselves, and once I realized nothing was ever gonna happen, their annoying habits were no longer cute quirks.
That was then.
This mistake seems very much a function of age and (lack of) experience and maturity. Never had this issue since.
The one upside: I did get to see one of my crushes with an erect cock many a morning when he first got in the shower. I loved those morning erections, even when I couldn't get close to them. Great jo material.
Lived in a dorm. I was out and one of 3 openly gay on the floor. Fuck, the place always smelled like cum. I left with 2 others to rent a house. Then the house started to smell like cum.
Lived with a self-proclaimed straight. Big drama because he was obviously gay (might as well have had "Faggot" tattooed on his forehead) but resented me for treating him as gay and not going along with the charade. Years later he comes out, fucks around with all my friends, but refuses to even meet or talk to me because I wouldn't play along with his charade when he was proclaiming himself straight. I didn't rape him or anything. I just refused to acknowledge his straightness and continued talking about gay things around him. And even though he was not in fact straight, he felt my treatment of him was "out of bounds" and disrespectful, things I have been accused of by nobody else ever. I'm easy going, tolerant, and easy to get along with, but I just have never been able to abide the closet. You'd think it would be different now that he is out and proud, but no, that just makes the "principle" more jealously guarded. That he and only he gets to decide what he is and to whom.
I didn't "out" him either.
Ugh breeders. Revolting.
My roommate and best friend is a straight dude. We are bros. It is not a big deal, dudes.
Interesting story, R89. But, honestly, I think the reason he won't talk to you still is because he felt bullied.
Think of it this way, maybe not the best analogy but...oh well, here goes. What if you knew that a good friend of yours had a cheating bf but was in denial about it? What if you told him you saw his bf sucking some other dude's face, but your friend was still in denial, saying you must have mistaken the bf for someone else? Would you go on badgering him relentlessly until he saw the light of day? Or would you just leave it alone and let him come to the truth on his own?
A. Don't shit where you eat.
B. See A.
I've lived with several straight guys, all attractive. Not an issue. As someone upthread remarked, familiarity breeds contempt. Or, not contempt, exactly, but indifference.
I also used to play rugby on a city team. Most homos, when they find out, will start asking dumb questions about how sexy the guys were and what they looked like without their clothes and which one I most wanted to sleep with, etc. Sure, many of these guys were objectively attractive. Many had great bodies. Some had great glutes or amazing quads or big dicks. I mean, these are attributes even straight guys notice, but these are your teammates, too. You just quit giving a shit. If you spend time with a bunch of straight guys, the attraction just vanishes -- if it was even there in the first place. I never had a problem, but then I also go to the gym to work out and not to cruise and perv out on guys (gay OR straight).
I'm perfectly fine with hot straight guys, as long as they're "cool" straight guys who are unfazed by and completely comfortable with homosexuality, and supportive of us politically.
I have straight male friends, some of whom I find very attractive, but, since they're straight and I value their friendship, I can put aside that physical attraction and just enjoy the platonic aspects of the relationship. On some level I might notice his brilliant blue eyes or furry chest or muscles or whatever, but it's just a fleeting observation. The longer you know them and the more familiar you get with each other, the less likely these things become distractions. You start to see his faults, his annoying habits and his entrenched heterosexuality, and he just becomes another "dude".
In the end, this is no different than having a hot gay platonic friend. Yes, you are aware of his attractiveness, but because of whatever reasons (non-reciprocation or just romantic incompatibility), he's just another friend who happens to be good-looking. You compartmentalize your attraction, focus on the platonic aspects of the relationship, and mentally "move on". Lots of times this all happens within minutes of meeting for the first time. If a guy is either out if your league or you're just "not his type", you accept that and redirect your feelings in a platonic way.
Most of us call this "maturity". Self-respect and self-control are also factors.
So OP, do you envision all this this happening in a studio apartment?
Good post, r95. As for r94; I think he is talking to himself more than to the other posters!
As a closeted dude, I've done it. It gave me ton of JO material, just talking with him about pussy. And after a while I was stealing his underwear out of his room and jerking off with it.
Also I would steal his tee shirts and smell the under arms.
I don't care how gorgeous/handsome a guy is. If I know he's porking a pussy, I have no interest in him. There's no straight guy that is more handsome than any gay existing gay man. Never will happen either.
I could if he would accept blowjobs.
WTF, r97? I was addressing the issue at hand. To wit, is it possible to exist in close quarters with a hot straight guy and not lose your shit? The answer is yes. I gave two answers (living together and playing sports together). General consensus from prior responses indicate that this is an issue for younger guys; my experience also indicates that this is an issue for homos who have few straight male friends or have never shared a non-soul-destroying communal experience with straight guys (since, you know, they comprise like 95% of the male population and shit).
Been there. Done that. It was right after college and a fraternity brother and I shared an apartment. He was lean with dark hair and really hairy, muscular legs. He always wore running shorts with no underwear around the apartment, with or without a shirt, and half the time one of his hairy balls was practically hanging out. A really nice guy and definite eye candy. On the other hand, however, he whined all the time about everything and spent most of his time lying on the couch watching one sporting event after another, which drove me crazy. From my experience, it's very possible to live with a hot straight guy and have absolutely no attraction to him.
Why wouldn't a gay guy be able to share an apartment with a hot straight guy? Do some people lack self-control and respect?
I've also lived with hot men and my experience is the attraction completely disappears and they just become beasts who eat your shit and annoy you with their humanity.
So you jerk off with his underwear when he's not looking, and he helps pay the bills. What's so difficult?
I have at least several times if you include college and military roomies. Daily exposure nullifies any attraction.
Those of you who talk about how living with someone diminishes or even nullifies any attraction must have bad luck keeping boyfriends/partners. After all, wouldn't your attractions to them diminish with some familiarity?
Your post is very funny, r106! Thanks!
Living around people decreases attraction. They are demystified by the familiarity.
Absolutely not, but I could absolutely share a house or some other domicile fitting for people over 22 years old.
I have shared a ROOM with hot athletic straight dudes. It is not a big deal. Boundaries, dudes...
Could you share a bed with a hot straight dude?
My new roommate is 25 and almost could be Chris Evans identical twin (great muscular hairy pecs; Irish-Italian South Boston boy). He's totally cocky, knows he's hot and rarely is wearing a shirt when I get home from work. Instead, he's just sitting on my couch, in his old ratted up boxer shorts, drinking beer and watching ESPN sports central.
He's been working from home and also lifts weights in his bedroom during the day while I'm at work. So when I sit next to him on the couch, pass him in the hallway etc his ripe stench of man sweat is usually apparent.
Every time I've jerked off since Jan 4th ( day he moved in ), I must admit that my new straight roommate has been the focus of my thoughts while busting a nut.
[quote]Those of you who talk about how living with someone diminishes or even nullifies any attraction must have bad luck keeping boyfriends/partners. After all, wouldn't your attractions to them diminish with some familiarity?
You have to wonder whether someone who asks this has ever been in love.
Does he know you're gay, R113?
[R-115] it's not been mentioned or asked.
I think that when he first replied to my Craigslist post (about needing a roommate / room for rent ) he assumed I was probably heterosexual. However, as he's home during the day, alone, with my bedroom door sometimes left open, he could easily snoop and find evidence to the contrary.
Combine that with my lack of interest in sports whatsoever, and the way I begin to stutter and turn red when he's speaking to me (without his shirt on or just wearing a wife beater etc) and he begins to nonchalantly squeeze on one of his pecs or biceps; uhm, yeah ... I think at this point he has a pretty good idea
When I was in college, I spent nine months living with a guy I totally had the hots for.
I really enjoyed his company and we had fun together. He didn't know I was gay; at least, I never told him so in words. But I know he caught me checking him out when he was changing clothes, and I was always so tempted to make a move on him.
What was I thinking? He was totally straight.
That said, my fantasy relationship with him started because we took a trip together in college -- you know, one of those trips where the guys have to share rooms and share beds. He and I were in the same bed and I loved that. Every one of the nights we shared in the bed, there was naturally innocent touching that would happen when two people sleep together. But one night that I will never forget was when I had my hand on my bent knee and it maneuvered up into his crotch. I could feel that he had a hard on, and it twitched against my hand. I was so tempted to jerk him off right there. I always wondered if he was awake and what might have happened.
What was I thinking? He was hopelessly straight.
A friend of mine put in an ad once looking for a roommate. He put in it that he was gay and was looking for a male roommate. Quite a few straight guys turned up. Of course he asked them why they'd contemplate living with a gay guy and unanimously they said they'd like a nice, clean, well kept place to live in without the hazzle of a woman. He shared with a pretty hot straight guy for a couple of years, but according to him they were more like brothers and it never occured to him to put the move on the straight guy. I tried once when we were all in the apt watching football and being quite drunk. But the guy turned me down - in a very nice manner though.
R113 You should send that precious little story to Nifty!
I used to do some modeling in the 80's. We'd go to Europe for 4 to 6 weeks on junkets during the fashion season. Almost all of us were gay but there were always some straights in the group. We shared rooms, suites, etc... we were all naked around each other at some time or another - really wasn't a big deal for them or us... of course all the gays wanted to convert the straights but it never happened...
[quote]Daily exposure nullifies any attraction.
Daily exposure (to straight, lazy, filthy, inconsiderate, loud, boring men) nullifies any attraction.
After I left college, my first apartment was a share with two hot straight guys. They were alpha men adonises (or is it adoni?) who would always walk around shirtless. They practically reeked of testosterone. Drove me crazy. I'm a gay guy, not particularly good looking or outgoing, and it got to the point where I couldn't take it any longer and finally had to move out. I think they got clued into my lust when they'd catch me just staring at them.
Apparently they do not have clean holes...
A few interesting stories in this thread but it seems that most have no problem sharing with a hot straight guy.
[quote]Of course he asked them why they'd contemplate living with a gay guy...
They seriously asked the guys why they would want to live with a gay guy? Do some gay guys really see themselves as Lepers to be avoided? Good lord.
I do already. I don't find straight men attractive because I'm not a masochist.
I have shared and I fell in love. It wasn't that he was just a 'hot straight guy' but because his personality just clicked with me. It didn't help that he felt the connection, too, and it became habit for us to watch tv having legs in other's lap or sometimes even spooning. I'd say he was slightly curious but he didn't want to do anything too gay, and he did have girlfriends during the time we lived together. It didn't end well because I wanted more, and many times I've wished I would've just kept my distance because he really was a great guy and a good friend.
I've had some straight roommates who I didn't fancy at all and some that I did fancy to different degrees. But he was the only one that went wrong because I fancied him AND acted upon my feelings. I'm not sure I ever want to share an apartment with anyone else but with a lover anymore, though. But if I had to share with someone I'd say no to hot straight guys after having been through all the pain from the earlier.
"My Gay Roommate" is a web series currently in its third season that follows the life and experiences of a gay man named Nick as he navigates the ups and downs of his young adult years.
In its first season, the series followed Nick during his freshman year of college, along with his straight roommate James, through defining moments such as losing his virginity and exploring the world of Grindr. Their relationship heavily mirrors that of co-creators Austin Bening and Noam Ash, who lived as roommates throughout four years of college.
A hot straight man?
Only if he were straight to bed!
I live with two hot straight dudes. Big deal
Oh please. I have had several straight roommates that I would otherwise find attractive. When a friendship or roommate situation sets in any sexual attraction is long gone.
Was this posted by a teen deep in a red state or a young fellow deep in a red state still living at home? What kind of gay man sits around at home pining over his straight roommate?
I've lived with several hot straight guys, and I much prefer being roommates with a straight guy than a gay guy, and it's never been an issue.
Like R134 said, once that roommate relationship kicks in any sexual feelings usually go out the window. Hard to lust after the guy after he's left his dirty dishes in the sink for two days or forgets to take out the trash!
Still, in cramped NYC apts, a straight guy is always the smartest way to go.
[quote]I live with two hot straight dudes.
Get photos of their cocks and post them here.
[quote]I had an Adonis for a roommate when I was still in college and a virgin.
Back in 1972, when fey gay men were still using the term "Adonis"
My Adonis roommate turned out to be anything but by the time spring quarter rolled around. Hunks are like anyone else, they can be slobs, inconsiderate, and tiring.
You get over their looks after the first week, then you get to know the personality.
Had he been a truly cool and nice person inside, it might have been frustrating. But I doubt it, because if there isn't a mutual connection, there is no spark.
I was happy to get a nw roommate in the Fall.
I would seduce him eventually.
Sure, I could even share an apt. with a hot gay guy without having sex.
The question is, could he stand sharing an apartment with you?
R139, did you bring home "tricks" when you were sharing living quarters with your "Adonis hunk?" Were you "femme" and into "rough trade" or were you "butch" yourself? What color bandana did you sport coming out of your back pocket?
No. I work with a guy who's so hot. He doesn't know he's hot either, which makes him all the hotter.
He is "too much," to handle. I like to just look at him. I have to leave the room, he's almost like porn.
I share an aptment with one now. Easy dude.
I can't share a [italic] gym [/italic] with a hot straight guy I know.
He doles out those extra little tidbits of affection to me (the way Brian Kinney used to with Michael), just enough to get me where I'm thinking "maybe...[italic] someday [/italic] !"
I'm actually considering switching gyms to avoid him.
I never ever saw any roommate of mine in his underwear or in the shower.
r146, Brian Kinney was gay and I'm guessing the guy you're talking about is, too
R146, I wish. And you never know.
Divorced twice, single dad, but he can't stop making gay jokes, gay references; he confided in me once that he 'tried it' (recently even), but it wasn't for him.
He's freakin' mid-30s. That's a little late to be experimenting.
The OP's premise is a movie by Gregg Araki called KABOOM:
In college I shared a house with three hot straight guys. Was it frustrating? A little but I was getting plenty of action elsewhere so it wasn't like I didn't have any outlets. I did develop a little bit of a crush on one of them but it didn't last. I'm still very close with two of them.
I did once but ended up jacking off sniffing his work boots and jacking off on his sneakers.
I have, but I was closeted and kept my distance.
The most excruciating was when he asked me to help him house sit for a friend and got in the hot tub.
He unloaded all his girl problems on me ;)
Don't stop now, R153. Tell us more about the unloading.
Why couldn't you? The only people who could not are people who do not comply with boundaries or who are compulsive.
I am doing that now
I would sniff his underpants, but worry about skidmarks
It would be nice if he was bi-curious and got touchy feely after a few drinks...
Yes, in general. I think the only part that would be a problem was when one of us wanted to bring someone home to fool around with. I would feel bad about him having to hear the sounds of me and another guy hooking up. At least in my case it would be kind of hot to hear him hooking up, but for him, it would just be gross across the board when there are countless other straight guys he could be rooming with instead. I wouldn't want to listen to two lesbians going at it all night.
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