does it make you feel like a loser or do you tell yourself that it's ok?
I have plans but rather had a quiet night.
My partner and I had dinner with a friend. Now we're having a quiet evening at home. I'm not at my city's official NYE celebration. Does that make me a loser?
I feel more like a looser.
It's 2 degrees above zero here. I don't feel like going out. I haven't made a practice of going out on NYE in years and years. Too many drunks on the road.
A couple of years ago, I stayed in on NYE. I have to admit, I prefer to be out and about. But that's just me...
it used to bother me but it doesn't anymore.
I turned down three (admittedly lackluster) invites. I am home alone, which is just where I want to be.
getting three invitations is flattering!
It's okay. It's the first New Year's i have spent at home alone in years. I like the quiet change.
I'm not a loser, because I choose to be alone..grow up!
Are you kidding? There is no holiday spirit whatsoever this year. Christmas music, which is usually unavoidable, was in short supply this year and disappeared completely on 12:01AM on December 26th. I have yet to see a Christmas tree in anyone's home or on the street, which is usual by New Year's day, and I received less than half of my usual Xmas cards (which I still send). I don't know whether it's indicative of the harsh economy or that people have had it with any celebration of the season, secular or not.And I think it's very, very sad.
Then I see the horrible presentations on the networks with people like Anderson Cooper and Carson Daly with their tweets and stupidity and shitfest of 'entertainers,' I can't help but be left in a state of despair as I face the new year.
I have been yahoo chatting with a physically handicapped friend in Georgia this evening. Wished him a happy new year, he wanted to share a cyber kiss and he was so glad to bring in the new year with a guy... I know sentiment is not appreciated or encouraged here at DL but communicating with him when so many people ignore him or think because he has cerebral palsy he is less of a person... well, we both get some positives out of it. So, Happy New Year from James and Rick.
I love you r13.
Been there, done that with the club parties and Vegas New Year's parties. Now I'd rather do house parties or stay home.
Done with wild & crazy. It's safe & sane for me.
I try to tell myself it's ok and that I want to be alone, but it's not because I really don't.
Pucker up, Miss Sissyboodles, it's almost midnight!
I hung out with friends this afternoon, then came home because I still feel a little crappy. I fell asleep, slept through midnight, now I'm wide awake.
But I didn't feel like a loser, I just felt like crap.
Im depressed. I wanted to go out to a local club, but my partner is sound asleep on the sofa. I hate staying in on New Years Eve.
...now I'm watching Guy Lombardo and the Royal Canadians from the Waldorff Astoria ballroom on PBS. For as long as I can stand it.
Well R20, why would you have to stay home just because your loser partner is. You need to stand for yourself and say "fuck it, I'm going to have fun"
I've never gone out on New Year's so it doesn't matter to me. I watched Anderson and Kathy and had fun.
Oh, Christ, talk to me, r15.
I'm home alone with my kitty. She's all the love I need for NYE. All of my dearest friends have passed away and I like to think of each of them and the great times we had while alive and together. I called my parents to wish them a happy NY's. I'm so fortunate to have them both. I didn't think my Dad would make it through the year, but he's a trooper and may even get rid of his walking frame, he's 92.
I hope each of you have wonderful NYE and day.
What's the opposite of 'eldergay'? Whatever it is, it's what OP is.
Child, if you define yourself through your party habits, that's just sad.
We had no plans, but at about 7:30 pm my partners parents called us and invited us out to a 5 Star restaurant in Philadelphia and to watch the fireworks on the waterfront. He said no because he was too tired and didn't want to deal with traffic. We are in our early 40's-His parents-82 and 77. Tres glamour!
Now I'm at work
I'm home after a a nice afternoon and evening with friends and in-laws. The partner and I will likely watch the New Year come in on TV.
One nice thing of being in my 40s is I don't feel like I have to pretend that celebrating New Year's out with a crowd is my idea of fun.
I had this overwhelming need to wake up in freshly laundered sheets so I did a laundry earlier. Now I can sip champagne in clean linens.
I think there really are some people who seriously PREFER to spend NYE at home, and sometimes alone. Totally cool. One is only a "loser" if he or she THINKS that is the case. I have spent some years of my life alone on NYE and enjoyed it. It's great every few years to check in with ancient Dick Clark (who, btw, was great tonight, old and slurring but with a face full of tan make-up and GREAT attitude!) or Anderson and Kathy. No hangovers, no risk of getting arrested, no guilt or mess to clean up the next day.
I was at a fun party tonight but it would have been just as fun home alone. Seriously.
Another one here who doesn't like to go out on NYE. I'm also in my 40's. Some friends had invited me over, but then they had to cancel it when one of them had to work. I am ok with that though. I prefer to be at home.
I wanted to stay home tonight but I started getting depressed. Like R30 said, it's what you think about it that makes it what it is. So for myself, I didn't feel like a loser, but just felt that if I spent the rest of the night by myself, I'd get more & more depressed. So I went to my sister's house where my other 2 sisters & my mother were. It took me a few minutes to get into the party mood but it wasn't long before I was laughing with my family & playing games with my nieces & nephews. So I'm glad I went. I feel a lot better than I did before I left.
OP you are the only loser. You are obviously trying to make yourself feel suprior by trying to make someone else feel bad. Really sad.
Thank you, r33.
I've had many crazy New Year's but this year I know I'm not fun. Can't pretend... don't want to spend the money. My boyfriend of 16 years went to Miami with friends (it's also our anniversary)
I crashed with the dog at 10pm and slept most of the night. Today, I'm going on a long bike ride by myself after I organize and clean around the house...
so how do I feel? A W E S O M E !!!!!!
Any good fun piano bars to go to on New years Eve with dinner in Manhattan?
No, I like to watch the sci-fi channel's 2-day Twilight Zone marathon they have every year. While smoking a joint so fat it resembles a tampon. That's my New Year's tradition and I don't wish to change it.
Do rentboys charge extra for holidays?
Is this a real question?
Ever since I entered adulthood (over 20 years ago), I've seen people of all stripes (gay/straight, single/partnered/married) do a wide variety of things for New Years Eve - big parties, intimate dinners, sitting around with a couple friends, doing nothing, unwinding from the holiday season.
And, I've never heard anyone feel bad or like a loser about their plans if those plans don't amount to much.
If you have the opportunity to party and want to, great. If not, big deal.
It never really bothered me to be alone on New Year's Eve. I would just stay in, watch movies, have some drinky poos and cook myself a nice din-din.
Now, my BF and I ( both in our late 40's, so we're paleo gays by DL standards ) just stay home and avoid the hassles. We snuggle, watch "New Year's Rockin' Eve" and make ball drop jokes.
I'm not at all excited about 2013. Nothing interesting about that number or that year at all. It seems quite nondescript.
2012 always had a lot of hype, 2010 was the beginning of the new decade, but 2013 just seems... blah.
New Year's in NYC is always the same. Outrageous crowds, blaring music, Frank Sinatra's "NY, NY" over Times Square, Bloomberg pressing the button with some random celebrity. Then everybody goes home, and the street sweepers get to work. YAWN.
When you think about it, New Year's Eve is just a lot of hype, with none of the delivery.
So cheer up, op. You really aren't missing much. It really is just another night.
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