I love getting sucked, but I really don't enjoy reciprocating, so I don't.
Sorry, but I've got a healthy gag reflex and the idea of another guy cumming in my mouth is disgusting.
Am I alone in my aversion to another man's cum?
Well, if you'd let me suck your dick, I'd be happy.
I don't particularly want another man's cum in my mouth, but I sure do want his dick there!
Haven't sucked a dick in way too long
OP, can't you just suck his dick a bit but not have him cum in your mouth?
I mean, some guys don't care if you reciprocate, but some do and would like to receive at least a bit of physical pleasure from you. Sex with one guy doing all the work and the other guy pretty much doing nothing but receiving is not always all that satisfying.
Oh yeah, like he won't cum in my mouth.
And the check is in the mail, I'm not married, and trust me I'm a doctor.
R3. Believe it or not, most guys won't cum in your mouth unless you want them to do so. And so long as you're not blind while sucking his dick, you more or less have an idea when he's about to cum. Yes, you have to watch what you're doing, but you can at least suck him for a few seconds. So long as he's of a certain age, he's not going to cum instantly. Use your common sense regarding whom you're sucking. And play safely too. It can be done.
No you're not alone.
I've been a total oral top before, and sometimes I still am.
Unless I'm in a relationship with a guy and then he's the only person who I give oral sex to, and that is after we talk about our sexual history and get tested then I don't give oral sex or 69 with the guy. So far I've only had one partner but I'm in my 20s, and he and I were together for a few years.
I don't swallow anyone else's cum or let someone cum on my body or face, yet I love to eat my own cum.
If I'm just dating someone or sleeping with them they can suck me off but I am not going to suck them or 69 with them at all. I've had more than a few men who I've just dated or just had one night stands with but I didn't suck any of them. I'm not promiscuous but I haven't had a one night stand in years.
I don't gag and I'm actually very good at sucking dick but I find giving oral sex to be intimate and not something I want to do with a guy who I'm just sleeping with or just dating who I'm not in a relationship with.
I know some men who use condoms when they suck a dick and I've never done that.
OP, maybe you should get a Twitter account. Maybe someone on there will give a shit.
As others have said if you don't want someone to come in your mouth then don't have them come in your mouth. It is fairly obvious when a guy is about to come.
Frankly you sound boring in bed. I like a more open minded partner who is willing to really explore each other.
Sucking a dick and not taking a guy
s cum is kind of like taking the time to prepare a nice meal, then throwing it away when it's done. In my experience, fortunately, I have not run into even one guy who has an aversion to eating cum. But, then again, I make it clear up front that I am strictly into mutual oral and expect that we'll BOTH take each other's cum, so no surprises.
[quote]Sucking a dick and not taking a guy s cum is kind of like taking the time to prepare a nice meal, then throwing it away when it's done.
I like that analogy.
I also tell people that having a guy cum in my mouth is like getting to the prize at the bottom of a box of Cracker Jacks.
[quote]I don't swallow anyone else's cum or let someone cum on my body or face
what a boring prissy queen you must be. YAWWWWWNNNNNN
Give me a real man anyday over you queens
OP? We completely agree.
Totally opposite as I love to suck but don't care to recieve. And I love to swallow!
Male issue is a disgusting substance. Only a gay guy with a hyperactive libido or a screwy straight woman enjoys its taste and swallowing the filthy stuff.
OP, are you at least hot, with a really nice dick? That can allow you to get away with this selfish behavior...
In fact, I'd blow you if you were
I love sucking cock, but I hate the taste of cum.
OP would be fun for a one time hookup, but I wouldn't want a repeat. I like having my dick sucked, too.
[quote]what a boring prissy queen you must be. YAWWWWWNNNNNN by: Give me a real man anyday over you queens
Actually I'm highly creative when it comes to sex and I'm not vanilla as I love giving and taking B&D/S&M/bondage on its own, and I like to have a male partner piss on me and I'll sometimes drink my own piss if I've been drinking beer or lots of water and green or black tea.
I just don't like the taste or texture of semen, and I don't have the best dental health since I sometimes get cuts and sores in my mouth. I have lots of dark hair on my body and thick facial hair, and I don't like getting cum in any of it. I'm not a queen or the Mary type at all.
[quote]I'm not a queen or the Mary type at all.
Of course, you're oh so very butch, I'm sure.
[quote]Unless I'm in a relationship with a guy and then he's the only person who I give oral sex to, and that is after we talk about our sexual history and get tested then I don't give oral sex or 69 with the guy.
Do you make him sign a statutory declaration as well? Sex with you sounds like a job interview.
[quote]I just don't like the taste or texture of semen.
[quote]I don't swallow anyone else's cum or let someone cum on my body or face, yet I love to eat my own cum.
Care to explain youself, R6?
I had a bf who was like that. Great looking, loved both fucking and having me suck his dick.
But he didn't like sucking dick and wouldn't do it.
We lasted about two months, and finally I just said no more. Life is too short to have a partner who won't suck my dick.
He tried for years to get back together with me, and every time he called, I'd say, "Have you learned to suck cock?"
And when he said no, or you know I just don't like to do that, I'd say, "Then you need to find someone who doesn't want blow jobs."
Yes, he would let me fuck him, but it was always a chore for him. He'd lie there waiting for it to be over, so he could take his turn and fuck me or get his dick sucked.
And if I ever let him cum first, forget it, I was out of luck unless I wanted to lie there by myself and jerk off while he rolled over and went to sleep.
He was the absolutely most selfish guy I've ever had sex with.
Thanks for reminding me of him, OP.
OP do what you want to do when it comes to sex.
Don't let these idiot queens here on DL tell you how you're being "selfish" because you don't like to suck dick.
I know men who are anal sex bottoms and all they want to do for sex is get fucked and they hate sucking dick so they don't do it.
I have a friend who likes to eat his own cum but he won't eat someone else's since like that other guy wrote he just finds it disgusting to have someone cum in his mouth. I know a lot of bisexual and gay men who find the idea of swallowing someone else's cum, getting facials, or having cum shot all over their body to be disgusting so they don't do it. Whatever happened to sexual freedom?
Of course the idiot queens on here who feel they need to act effeminate or defend queens because they're gay are going to claim that any guy who says he's actually masculine is somehow a queen since they wish they were masculine but they never will be.
OP if ya don't wanna suck dick then don't.
I know men who are way more into sucking dick and they don't get sucked at all.
If you have cuts or sores in your mouth like the one guy wrote about then it would make sense that you wouldn't suck just anyone, that you wouldn't swallow, and that you'd want them to get tested.
I have friends who became HIV+ from giving oral sex and they all got it either from swallowing or because they had a cut, sore, or broken skin in their mouth.
No you don't, R24.
I work in HIV education and have for decades.
Yes you can get HIV from giving oral sex if you are giving oral sex to someone who is poz and you have a cut, sore, or broken skin in your mouth.
Giving oral sex is not no risk sex.
sucking dick without ejaculation can be safer sex but swallowing cum and taking cum in your mouth is not risk free and people have became HIV+ that way.
OP there are tons of hungry cocksuckers who will suck your dick if you want them to and that's what they're into doing for sex.
Like most men are bottoms when it comes to anal sex, most gay men are more into sucking cock when it comes to oral sex.
The idea that if you don't do a certain sex act because you don't want to, don't do at all, or you don't happen to like it that it makes you somehow selfish is total bullshit and an idea that comes from hetronormative ideas on sex and how it should be done.
I linked a profile of a guy who is a total oral top.
OP look for men who are submissive AKA cocksuckers looking for a feeder, men who live to suck dick, and just have sex or a relationship with them.
They're more common than you think. ;)
I'm guessing Ms. OP is also posting in the "I'm alone on Thanksgiving" thread.
When I read stuff like this on DL, I can't help but laugh.
Here's an idea: don't utilize your gag reflex and don't swallow. And, if you still don't enjoy blowing dudes, don't do it.
That is all.
OP, you are not alone, get in line behind the straight women.
I am not attracted to guys who would suck my cock or eat out my ass. I don't like it. But, I love sucking cock, eating ass, and getting fucked. And, I have only been with one guy - my boyfriend.
r21 I also dated a guy like that once, the "Total Top". He didn't like getting fucked, would not suck cock, and took a "take charge" attitude whenever we had sex, whether it was full blown day-off fucking for hours or having me give him a blow job before work while I got myself off with my hand.
We've been together 15 years now. Thanks very much.
I don't blame you OP. Who but totally masochistic cum rags would want to have that snot in their mouths? At least women get paid.
No you're not alone OP I find the taste of another man's cum to be nasty. Might as well be swallowing someone else's snot.
Outstanding, R33. Whenever I see these people telling everyone they've got to be "versatile," I laugh. I won't even touch my boy's dick. First time we were together and I told him how it'd be, he looked into my eyes, smiled, and said, "Finally!"
Wait, I got that wrong. He said, "Finally, sir." That was 18 years ago, btw.
[quote]Who but totally masochistic cum rags would want to have that snot in their mouths?
You tryin' to get me hard, R34?
OP you might reconsider with the following info.
NEWsFLASH: "Cum smeared over the face reverses age lines/crows feet"
Shut up Sandusky. You have your coming in prison.
And here I thought this thread was about Colgate spin brushes.
you sound very clearly like a self-loather. Like those douches who won't let me TOUCH their ass, not fuck it, even TOUCH it.
OP, if you want some you gotta give some, or else.
R36 sounds like a winner.
OP, I'm the same way (a confirmed top), but I give my partner a hand job, either while he's sucking me off or after he's finished with me. His favorite is licking me clean, while I jerk him off. He's still focused on me as I show my gratitude by bringing him to orgasm. Sometimes I get hard again seeing him so happy, and off we go again!
Well I am a total oral bottom. Oral cock worshiper actually, in Seattle.
wish I knew you, OP. I love sucking a guy off till he cums in my mouth.
Be careful how you describe yourself, OP, "Oral top" to many people means you are a top who loves to give oral. There's a lot of misunderstanding of that term.
TOTAL ORAL BOTTOM
but I really don't like getting sucked. I love beating up on a guy, twisting his nipples, making him my bitch, but I'm not into blowjobs received.
I like sucking guys like OP once in a while. The good ones don't smell of pee and truly appreciate it, and cum buckets.
Men's cum smells like fish.
no, it smells of spoilt milk.
I'm a total top too. I love to suck cock, but most of the time guys don't give the best head. I don't really care about cum. I don't like it if the guy is over 45 and wants to cum in my mouth - gross, rusty pipes.
"Total Oral Top"
I thought Colgate discontinued this line.
TBH I don't love sucking cock and I can do without getting mine sucked. If the other guy sucks me though, I will reciprocate if he wants it back. I think it's selfish of you to not suck the other guy if he wants to be sucked and you want him to suck you.
im an oral top. only suck for st8 guys or my boyfriend. i can get sucked for hours. love to watch a guy lick me clean after i blast on his face and tongue.
R55 is a proof all "tops" have homophobic issues
I am a top. Nothing gets me off like some little twink or even a daddy sucking on my cock, looking up at me, teasing me, sucking just the head, HOOOOOT!
tops can not be oral
Check out my blog called ORAL COCK WORSHIP (just Google it) and find out how I treat my oral tops here in Seattle.
Good thing for you there's lots of guys like me. I'm not interested in getting sucked, just sucking a bud off. And you can cum in my mouth.
I hate sucking a guy, but love to get sucked. Fortunately R61 is the norm and those dreaded versatiles are rare.
Damn, r21. Give him my number!
I will suck 20 loads out of my man if given the chance, but have no interest in being sucked. At all.
I will never suck, but I will let a clean dude suck me. There are actually dudes that only like guys who get sucked but never suck.
Won't someone please slam fuck my throat?
Do people here still believe you can transmit HIV through oral sex? The risk is actually infintesimally low. I'm disturbed by the misinformation here from 2011.
Also, unless someone has a tasty, musky FAT cock that's at least 6" around and 8" long, there is no way I'm gonna suck that and not get some head of my own. Or, alternately, I might expect to fuck that person. Absolutely no time or respect for "total tops" whose dicks are smaller than mine who only want non-recip oral performed on them. FUCK THAT.
R48 sounds hot.
R67, you definitely can get HIV and other diseases from oral sex. I have heard multiple people give accounts of how they got it that way, and the CDC considers it a risky behavior.
Op bottom here and I love sucking and I really don't like getting sucked.
Total tops (oral or otherwise) bore me. So do total bottoms. Preferences are all well and good, but one of my greatest pleasures in sex is exploring what the two (or more) of us enjoy at any given moment, even if it's the same thing that we've enjoyed and wanted many, many times before. It's the discovery that's exciting.
The notion that I'm never going to get to do a particular thing is disappointing -- particularly given that it's so tied in to power issues with people who imagine that one thing or another makes them more or less of men.
Still waiting for a massive meat whistle!
Too much info
[quote]Oh yeah, like he won't cum in my mouth.
Who the fuck are you blowing? I've blown literally hundreds of men and not one of them has ever come in my mouth without warning.
I like sucking enough (especially uncut) but my best partners are total bottoms who do not need reciprocation and love to get eaten and fucked.
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