Well don't they say heterosexuals are subconsciously drawn to partners with features like their (opposite sex) parent?
So if gays are the same way, they're drawn to their same sex parent, who looks like guess who.
Boring mystery solved.
Or they're narcissists.
Drawn to their same sex parent?? No, that is not true at all.
Gays are not drawn to their same sex parent! That is not found in any studies or literature on the topic. You are giving inaccurate information - gays are not drawn to their same sex parent!
It's not a coincidence. Some narcissists are drawn to each other precisely because they want a partner who resembles them. And if a potential partner is significantly different (but they have the right job, bank account, car, etc.), the more dominant of the two will attempt to make the other person over until the transformation is complete. Or maybe these people subconsciously desire sexual relationships with their siblings and they decide to choose the less controversial route.
Whatever the reason, it's creepy and not healthy.
And NO, heterosexuals are NOT subconsciously drawn to partners with features like their (opposite sex) parent. You are way off base, R3.
I'd say it's that they are narcissists.
People who use the word "creepy" for anything that's not in line with their narrow sexual tastes should be shot.
I did not use the word 'creepy', but, I too, think it's a bit creepy.
I'm with R7. Isn't gayness narcissistic.
Damn Mackenzie / R4, feel strongly about the matter?
I wasn't saying we have a conscious incestuous urge, and I wasn't implying gays are deviant, if that's what you're reacting so strongly to. I was just suggesting if the unconscious attraction to features like your parents exists for hets, why wouldn't it for us? Nothing sick about it. Of course you have to buy the premise that the studies suggesting this for heterosexual are correct.
[quote]Women are attracted to men who look like their fathers and men are attracted to women who resemble their mothers, a new study shows. Scientists say the findings suggest that children use their opposite sex parent as a template for finding a suitable spouse or partner.
They look nothing alike, but have chosen to wear their hair the same way and wear the same damn outfit. Sure it's creepy, but their biological features are nothing alike.
Are you people visually impaired?
Their facial features are exactly alike.
R22, you are a blind retard.
Their eye color, nose point, cheekbones, chin bones, complexion, and facial length are different.
The woman on the left seems to be of primarily Scandinavian/German descent. The woman on the left seems Jewish, eastern European, and possibly part Italian.
You're focussing on the thin lips and man hands. Stop it.
No, R23, your discernment and cognitive skills are very limited. They look exactly alike.
Sorry, I meant that the woman on the right seems Jewish/Italian.
R25, you are getting hung up on the similarity of dress, hair and makeup. Take that away, and you have two different women. Are you non-white perhaps? I know a lot of white people think all Asians look the same, and all Blacks look the same.
They look alike to me but what do I know. Everybody said my ex and I looked EXACTLY (emphasis theirs) alike even though she was very butch and I'm tres femme. Twice people stopped us on the street to ask if we were twins. WTF? It used to annoy the crap out of both of us but it did come in handy one day when she was rushed to the ER with a stroke and they wouldn't let me in. I just told them she was my sister and no problemo.
R26, no, I am not 'hung up' on anything. Their facial features look exactly alike.
They look the same.
My 2 cents
R16 Whoa, I'm sure you hate your parents for a good reasons bun IN GENERAL - USUALLY - people are influenced by their parents when looking for companions. We are complex, social animals. How could we not be? It has been shown in many studies. It's not just about features btw, but also smell and personality.
They are both smiling white ladies but only Mr Magoo would confuse the two.
R30, I do not agree. But keep on believing whatever trite supposed psychological syndrom you wish.
You're not really supposed to reject facts for being "trite" in science and normal human development is not a syndrom.
Anyway those two look tacky with their partner look.
[quote]unconscious attraction to features like your parents exists for hets
They even have a term for it. The Oedipus Complex for guys who lust after their mom, and it's early so I may be mistaken but it's the Electra Complex for girls who want to find a guy just like their dad.
Freudian theory (Oedipus complex) has often been discounted and is rarely followed these days.
I don't buy that one seeks partners who look like a parent. One seeks what people they happen to serendipitiously meet in everyday life, and they are lucky to meet anyone.
OP, ever notice how hetersexual couples are a man and woman and gay couple the same sex?
Yeah people who live together often resemble each others- duh.
I am drawn to partners who look interested...or breathing.
Chely Wright, the gay country music singer, just recently married a woman who looks exactly like herself.
Having someone who looks exactly like you do must bring some elements of psychological security and facilitates falling in love.
Go away, charlie who is R36, you are not smart enough to handle concepts nor smart enough to make a coherent, analytical comment.
Whatever you say R39- good of you to point out the R39 and charlie are one in the same- your so smart!
Not bizarre. More common than you think.
Look at this picture of Peter Skaarsgard and Maggie Gyllenhall. They got married and look like brother and sister.
Note that the link is an article reviewing findyourfacemate.com, a website devoted to helping people find someone who looks like them.
Except in this case, R35, modern day psychological studies have proved Freud right again and again and the fact that relationships are heavily influenced by the parents can not seriously be disputed by anyone.
I wonder if they forget whose legs belong to who when they're scissoring.
The reason most gays usually end up looking alike is because the homosexual or lesbian "spirit" that occupies their bodies never changes it's original appearance. It just takes hold to several different bodies, but the demonic spirit itself NEVER looks different, which in turn, makes everybody look the same that it takes hold to....Creepy!
Saarsgard and Gyllanhaal look nothing alike except for the double a's in their name. And Maggie's another one up for the worst nosejob in history award.
Studies have shown most people are drawn to people that look like them-- not necessarily their parents, but facial features similar to themselves.
Wow, your criteria for people looking "exactly alike" seems to be "people who are the same race and have sort of the same haircut"
I am a gay man and my type is the physical opposite of me. Whereas I'm smooth, have blue eyes and from UK descent and I go for brown-eyed, hairy guys with rounder features. I have a passing theory that gay men are consistently drawn to either look-alikes or their opposites, depending on the individual. I could be way off, but I've seen it among my circle of friends. And a lot of the hairy darker guys I date are predominantly into people who share my physical traits.
They don't look exactly alike.
OP, they do look alike. Yikes
They really would not Look the same, however, they have done everything fashion will allow to look the same.
Similar hair color, hairstyle and atrocious fashion but they don't look alike at all.
I would love to find a partner who looks like me, I'm awesome.
but which one's the man?
I love myself and how I look. But of course I'm attracted to people with features different than mine! (Not necessarily opposite) Something new and exciting. I'm just not intrested in qualities I have and know so well. So I just don't get this phenomenon but apparently many people want it that way..
describe yourself, r53. We will decide.
I thought all lesbians looked alike?
The same has been said for decaades about owners and their pets doo.
I hate couples who look alike, whether they're straight or gay. It's a pet peeve. How fucking narcissistic and obnoxious can someone be? Conversely, I love seeing couples who don't have the same physical features.
can someone please RUSH some sunscreen to Meredith Birney and her soon to be wife? There is NO reason for people in 2013 to be soooo freaking wrinkley and shriveled up.
Oh my eyes! Ugh. But that age, damage is already done and sunscreen can't do much for them other than to prevent further damage.