I've often heard people say that attractive people are unfriendly and stuck up but from my own personal experience, attractive people have always been kind of friendly towards me. I could be standing in the checkout line, and an attractive person will randomly strike up a conversation with me. However, "ugly" people tend to be standoffish and dismissive.
It's the smell, OP. You need to revisit your personal hygiene routine.
Maybe the attractive people pity you because you're far more unattractive than any of those other uglies.
OP have you considered the possibility that you don't know what attractive means?
OP, maybe you are just extremely unattractive.
OP, you may be a good looking person, but this post makes you uglier than sin.
OP, you have a point. Just look at the nasty comments so far. Seriously, it's because these people who are nasty toward you are insecure.
Attractive people tend to be treated well by others, so they tend to have a more positive attitude toward other people. Unattractive people on the other hand, have had a lifetime of people being dismissive, rude and beating them across their humps. Therefore they approach others with a chip on their shoulders.
r6 = OP
One point for R7.
You're lucky they even speak to you, OP. I wouldn't.
Is this the part where we tell you that you must be attractive as well?
R7 is right on the money. It's not the case for ALL unattractive people, however. Many become sweet decent human beings. Some uggos, however, become bitter towards attractive people (as evidenced on this thread) and accuse them of being shallow and stupid and so on.
One of the more idiotic threads on DL today. Wonders neve cease.
Same here op. Ugmos are just jerks.
A very pretty relative came to stay with me recently and I was really struck by how outgoing and friendly she is. After staying a few days, she knew more about my neighbors and the security guards than I did after living here for years. These people were all happy to talk to her and told her all their personal stories. They all wanted to help her find a job, work out with her, go have coffee with her. Because she's pretty, OP.
I'm ugly and none of these people have ever been friendly to me. I've had strangers start conversations with me at a store, tell me all about their dress size or kids or whatever, totally spill their guts about their husbands or families, then suddenly it's like they realize who they're talking to and they take off, embarrassed. These people don't want to be my friend. They want to vent. Nobody wants an ugly friend - it makes you look like a loser.
"Uggo," "ugmos are just jerks"
[quote]people say that attractive people are unfriendly and stuck up
It's a cultural myth: another lie that average and below-average people tell to make their lives bearable. Attractive people radiate ease and confidence, and draw people to them.
Your mommy lied. Looks and money not only matter, they pretty much rule the world.
I forgot to mention, my pretty relative is also an alcoholic, addicted to prescription drugs, bipolar, a compulsive liar and steals from everyone. But no matter how many times she gets fired, she always gets offered another job, and no matter how many places she gets kicked out of, she always gets offered another place to stay. That's why she's so friendly and outgoing - she knows no matter what, she will always be accepted and forgiven and liked everywhere she goes. And no, her name isn't Lindsay Lohan, although her behavior is getting pretty close lately.
All these people she met were willing to let a total stranger into their lives, who is this screwed up, because of her looks. And you wonder why ugly people don't have the same confidence they'll be liked and accepted?
R15, not crazy, but you wouldn't piss on me to put out a fire.
I never thought of myself as ugly until I read this thread, but now I finally have an explanation for why people have treated me like shit all my life.
[quote]Attractive people radiate ease and confidence, and draw people to them.
I had never been in shape all my life. I have two brothers who are naturally slim, but I could never get rid of my love handles and titties. And as a teen I suffered from cystic acne, which was still plaguing me somewhat in my adulthood. Needless to say, I was often friendless and dateless. My reservedness probably didn't help, either.
But last summer (2010( I decided something had to give. I got on a detox program for a month that my mom was using, signed up at my local gym and took classes they offered. I also got on Accutane to finally put an end to my acne once and for all. By summer's end I had lost close to 40 lbs. (I had weighed 203 and am 5'8") and was beginning to get a more toned body. I also cut my hair really short (it had been down to my shoulders). It's been now over a year and I have never looked or physically felt better. I got muscles and a jawline, and my skin has healed and you can hardly see the acne scars.
But back on subject, I have noticed that strangers treat me differently, and by that I mean better. People smile at me often or hold the door or let me go ahead of them. I gotta admit it feels nice to be so acknowledged and approved. And as a result I'm more outgoing and appear friendlier. Not that I was nasty before, but I was really introverted and had no friends of my own. I have made a couple friends that I hope are lasting and am friendlier with a lot of the people at the gym.
OP you are SO beautiful that ugly people hate you.
Is this what you wanted to hear?
Life is nicer inside the bubble, but I think it will be a rude awakening when I lose my looks.
Hijole, Natalie, it's because you weren't even Puerto Rican and you spent all that time singing into a mirror!
To the person posting about their attractive relative: while looks do matter in society, a lot of how society reads you is the way you present yourself. Your relative, based on her habits, sounds like she might be a slightly manipulative sociopath. They are often masters of trying to find out what people wanna hear and using it to their advantage. They are also masters of charm, and use characteristics like their looks to their advantage, though ugly sociopaths can win a lot of "friends" to benefit their false image of a good person with charm, too. That's probably what it is, because I don't care how attractive someone is, they will not win people over, at least not for long, if they don't have good social skills and know what it takes to make people happy, such as telling people what they want to hear in their faces rather than the truth or even mean lies.
When you made your personal improvements you gained self confidence. Self confidence begets attention from others.
Learn to be an ice breaker. When you are sitting in a waiting room with strangers the atmosphere can be stifling and tense. Early on that was uncomfortable for me. I can't do it, so have learned to break that ice with almost anyone almost anywhere.
I can have a room of people talking to each other in short order.It's a skill I developed. Recently I was standing in line at a pharmacy next to an elderly Hispanic woman. I said something to her and we struck up a warm conversation. As I finished and went to leave she grabbed my hand with both of hers and smiled and thanked me. In the interim her daughter had joined her in line as if she was escorting her and seemed astonished at what she saw. I could have taken her to lunch and would have seemed as if we were long time friends. I still wish I could see her again.
Shallowness is not attractive
OP is your name samantha brick..
perhaps you project the impression of arrogance rather more than you are attractive
it would explain the reaction..
Puerto Rican girls don't say that. Strictly a Mexican expression, mi'ja.
Was that a stray post anyway?
OP, how often do you wash your jeans?
This is true
People just treat you better when you are fit and handsome. I should know. I let myself go a few years ago and did feel "invisible". It's a completely different story now. I like it. OTOH, certain "friends" and others will be jealous and try to bring you down. Make snide comments, et.al. It's a trade-off.